How do you get to acquaint new friend at the begining a new job?

@Cale2012 (114)
September 26, 2012 12:52am CST
Sometimes, we need to change our work,resident point,and go aboard. When I come to unfamliar environment, I find I can't easy get along with there colleagues and persons. and those guys usually neglect your exist. They don't know how long can you stay at there? So they think you needn't to know well. So they are lazy to talk you and instuct you. I think this is a common scenario in work and country. Maybe the reason are different, not like I said. But we still have a feeling like I said. So how do you deal with this situation? How to recognize new friend in strange environment?
7 responses
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
26 Sep 12
I am presently on the same situation friend. I have to transfer to another place and stay with the place for 3 months. What I am happy about is that the people from this place are really very supportive people. They gave us a warm welcome upon coming to this place and they showed their full suppport on our endeavors. After 3 months, I can say that I am so lucky to be assigned in this place. Have a nice day!
@Cale2012 (114)
27 Sep 12
Oh you are a very lucky guy. and you should express thanks to them. Not every can be like you. Perfect friends, maybe you are a very kind person, wherever you go, you also get benefit and welcome.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
26 Sep 12
I agree with you. It is not easy for us to face a new job, especially the new colleagues. I think every one who faces a new job will adapt to it for a long time, at least several months or even several years. But still it's possible for us to change the relation with them. People will like you when they know you well. In this situation, I will do my best to get along well with them. I will offter to do more cleaning in the office, I will try my best to help the others in the office if they need, I will try to talk to them with a smile, most of all, I will treat them friendly. I believe people will treat you as they are treated. It just needs time. Enjoy yourself!
@Cale2012 (114)
27 Sep 12
you said is correct way to make friend with new colleague. but we often meet situation that, we can't be trusted by others. They always suspicous our action and words. Kind person is a rough task what we want acquire characteristic. So sometimes many don't like change environment and company, because personal want to feel comfortable and freedom. I am agree with your attitude and action, positive is sunshine in society action.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
30 Sep 12
I have had many different jobs and and at some places it has been relatively easy for me to find new friends among my co-workers and at other places it was much harder, because the atmosphere at the place was very cold and the other employees didn't welcome new people. They weren't interested in talking to new people. They just wanted to finish the work as fast as possible and go back to their homes. I did talk to some of the others, but I never became friends with them, and when I left the place I wasn't sad to leave at all. At some of the other places it was much easier and I started chatting to the others during the breaks and I became friends with some of them. At first we talked about work and then we started talking about more personal stuff.
@magicchou (163)
• China
26 Sep 12
I haven't experience such situation like you before. But to acquaint the new friend is a little bit tricky. My method id to ask some question about the work. After much talk, we can move to the next level - talking about his/her personal life experience, this will help get to know each other.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
26 Sep 12
Well thanks a ton for posting this wonderful discussion. i think it is human tendency to take time to get adjusted in a new environment and this is pretty normal for u have everything new around u. Well initially we all have slight inhibitions to strike a conversation with our collegues around us as we are completely strangers. But in order to progress, we need to take the initiative to start an interaction with others and at the same time understand their mentality as well so that they do not feel awkward in your company. What say?
@Jatelo2 (166)
• Nairobi, Kenya
26 Sep 12
Friendship is developed by time. I would hover tell you that those who seem to care about your inefficiencies during your first day at work, are the real friends.If they care and would love to help you understand how to do some of your tasks, then they are the right candidates for friendship!
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
First day in a new office can really make us feel anxious and shy. But being that, cannot help you. You have to be confident and smile at people. Maybe your HR staff can introduce you to everyone, so they would know that you are a new hire. Well, you can see from their faces who are friendly. Go to them and inquire what are the things to know about the job.