Polyandry
By bingskee
@bingskee (5234)
Philippines
September 27, 2012 10:33pm CST
Yesterday, I read from an online news that somewhere in Nepal, there is a custom where the girls and women are made wife of brothers. This means that if a man wed a woman and his brother would decide to have his wife as his own wife, too, it is allowed, and they live under one roof.
Bizarre, isn't it? It's called polyandry.
There is no doubt that this was not questioned by anyone in that group because it is one of the customs being practiced within their group. One of the men was even asked if he doesn't get jealous and he willingly said that he doesn't feel jealousy and once he feels that way, he has to leave that house and relationship and find another.
My friends find the news shocking and ewww!
Bizarre, isn't it? It's called polyandry.
There is no doubt that this was not questioned by anyone in that group because it is one of the customs being practiced within their group. One of the men was even asked if he doesn't get jealous and he willingly said that he doesn't feel jealousy and once he feels that way, he has to leave that house and relationship and find another.
My friends find the news shocking and ewww!7 responses
@vandana7 (98873)
• India
28 Sep 12
Ah..I came across this custom somewhere in Rajasthan or was it UP I fail to recall..and now you are talking about Nepal. It is the way we are going sweetie..shortage of girls. If polyandry is possible..it will happen. At least feel glad it is amongst brothers. If the ratio of 1000 boys to 801 girls in my country does force you to balance them somehow you might just find neighbors and friends sharing wives.
But that is bitter me speaking of course. It is unlikely to happen because few would be willing to compromise on money they can traditionally seek as dowry. They would be happy with no responsibility frequent rapes and human trafficking things.
Children? Who wants them? That is so outdated..lol That is the way the world at this end is moving anyway..
@vandana7 (98873)
• India
30 Sep 12
Oh swapping has been around for many years. My father used to tell me that when he joined service, some of his colleagues had the swapping arrangement going till one of the unmarried guys refused to share his wife.
Its not swapping. It is simply something we have no choice but to do because of tremendous shortage of girls.
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
28 Sep 12
Polyandry is practiced in "civilized" cultures too; this particular culture just doesn't frown on it. I live in the US and have spoken to someone who practices it happily; and she's far from uncivilized.
Not everyone is meant to be with one person, no matter what the bible says. I considered it at one time, in hopes that my then-boyfriend would be able to spend time with myself AND another woman. I was willing to share him, and maybe get something of him out of it. I was madly in love with him to even consider the proposition-I wasn't raised that way but loved him enough to make that sacrifice.
Yes, it is strange to you if you've never been in that type of relationship-you're outside looking in. Once you're in it, you make it into what you will out of it.
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
30 Sep 12
If you look up polygamy, it involves the male head of the house marrying more than one woman at a time. His first wife acknowledges the other women, and they often live in a communal home or even a compound where each wife resides.
I wasn't considering marrying my boyfriend-I just wanted to spend more time with him. I think if our backgrounds hadn't been so different and he wasn't involved with the other woman, he'd have considered our moving in together.
and backgrounds and culture truly differs from one to another and those have to be respected, too.@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
that's really tough for me to handle, i think. but i have to respect the people that practice it. each to his own, as said.
the polyandry case in Nepal is worrisome as it involves the sharing of wife in longer periods of time opposed to having just a one night stand, or a lesser period of time for couples sharing each other. it sounded like a custom with a deeper purpose not just simply sharing the wife.
each to his own, as said.
the polyandry case in Nepal is worrisome as it involves the sharing of wife in longer periods of time opposed to having just a one night stand, or a lesser period of time for couples sharing each other. it sounded like a custom with a deeper purpose not just simply sharing the wife.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
I have also read about it yesterday. They say that they practice this to control their population and wealth as no matter how many husbands a woman would have or have slept with in a day, she would only get pregnant once in 9 months or less if it's premature LOL. Seriously, I don't know how they could take it. I can't even imagine it. But I believe the news said that there are places there that are already civilized and won't practice polyandry anymore.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
as to how they could take it, they may have been born with it. from the moment they were born and up to the time that they already have developed their mental capabilities, the practice had been there infused on them. without anything to contradict it, or knowledge of other things to compare with, what they might have thought is it is right and not abominable in the eyes of civilized beings.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
It is really shocking for an outside culture to view such customs. Then again,if other culture see out own unique culture, they might also raise a few eyebrows. I guess that it is practical for them and they don't have a big population. If you don't account religion in the picture, it might make a little mote sense.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
28 Sep 12
Wow, I think that's sick lol! I do respect their culture and traditions, but personally, this won't work for me. I believe and prefer exclusivity of marriage. There are just some things in this world that I wouldn't share. And that includes my husband.
indeed, i am with you about some things we could not share and that includes the husband.
but i learned that there civilized people who shares their spouses. those people are not alone. the question is, who is more uncivilized?
@quanquanzhang (504)
• China
28 Sep 12
i am envious of the kind of life,so curious,if i can live that life,i can't imagin,there are more love you get,i think,good luck!
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Yes i have read this on yahoo news too and i really find it taboo for me. But then again like you have said, for them it is normal as it is part of their tradition and culture.
It even said who will get to sleep with whom! most often the eldest brother gets to sleep often..and the children does not ask who their father really is or something. Bizarre..really bizarre!
