Stay far away from my family

China
September 27, 2012 11:51pm CST
When I graduated from high school, I chose to enroll in a university that was quite far away from my hometown, because I could not wait to live a life without my mom's supervision. However, now I think I am completely wrong because family is my warmest and safest place. I am quite regretful that I chose to stay on campus during this summer holiday, instead of going back home, because I felt quite lonely at that period. Now, we will have a 8-day holiday, and so many students decide to return home to enjoy the warmth in their home. But I still have to stay in school because my hometown is so far away. What a pity! Maybe I should do something to loiter away the time:(
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13 responses
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
28 Sep 12
Can't you make the trip? You said you have 8 days, wouldn't there be enough time for you to travel even if home is far? Anyway, should travelling is really impossible at the moment, you can call them or skype with them just to ease up your loneliness. Hang out with some of your school buddies who also decided to stay in campus.
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• China
28 Sep 12
Yes. I do not show my love for them frequently when I stay at home, but when in school, I always want to call them without any reason. I love my family every much, and I always try to treasure the time I spend with my mom and brother. Maybe I need to show my love more directly so that they can feel it.
• China
28 Sep 12
Nobody can stay with their parents forever.Everyone need to face their future by themselves.Parents can't do everything for us.What's more,be more independent is quite a good thing for our development.In addition,be far away from home can make us mature quickly than them who live with their parents.
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• China
28 Sep 12
You are right. I need to be independent because I am not a child now. But I think learning to be mature does not mean to stay away from our families, but to know more about family's importance. I believe that we can only be totally relaxed when we return home.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
29 Sep 12
in a way its good ,choosing career and absolutely you can work on it effectively for sure and it helps you to be stable
• China
29 Sep 12
You are right. I should not waste the valuable time to complain about my unluckiness. It is also a chance for me to be more independent. I always want my mom to be proud of me, therefore, I need to be more positive to treat everything that happens in my life. Although I can not go back home now, I believe that my mom is always missing me just like what I am doing.:)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
spend time here in MyLOT where you can earn and enjoy reading many discussions. If your mom is sick I advice you to go home and grab the opportunity to be with her even just for a day.. Indeed, Home is the warmest place to be and the only place where you feel safe :)
• China
28 Sep 12
I just decide to spend my holiday in taking a part time job and communicating with the friends in mylot. The people here are so friendly and I am toughed whenever I see those responses. I believe you share the same feelings with me:)
@jazzyme (113)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Being away from family is really hard. it takes a lot of courage living alone to unfamiliar place with new faces of people. i understand what you felt right now. I've been in the same situation too.To reduce boredom,sadness,and ill feeling of home sickness I worked during my free time. I joined community organization. I unwind with my friends and classmates. I am independent so I easily coped up with the new environment. I hope you could cope up too!Just enjoy your study and gain friends there. Good friends i hope. I wish you luck!
@jazzyme (113)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
I need to be brave almost all the times,though I have my fear too. Yes the secret of it all is positive mind set.Goodluck!
• China
28 Sep 12
You are so brave. I should learn to adapt to the lonely world during the holiday because almost all of my friends will choose to go back home. Indeed, I really appreciate you for you can integrate new environment so quickly. I believe that you must be confident, and I hope your positive attitude will influence the people surrounding you, because nothing can scare us if we are postive enough.:)
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Too bad for you my friend. I have also my brother who wants to enroll in the city where I'm living right now.He was very pleased to stay with me. I said there are lots of disadvantage when he will enroll in far school from our home. One disadvantage is, he will miss to see our parents and siblings except me of course because we will be together if I'll accept his wish to live with me.Second,his lifestyle also will be change and the city will change him.
• China
28 Sep 12
Your relationship must be very good. I am great to hear that your brother wants to stay with you. Although he may stay away from your parents, but meanwhile, I believe that he can also realize the importance of family.
@shaggin (71666)
• United States
28 Sep 12
Aww how sad that your family is so far away that you cannot go home to see them over this break. I know here for the holidays you have to be off campus you cannot stay no matter if you have no where else to go so sometimes college kids have to go stay with a friends family.
• China
28 Sep 12
Maybe I can go to visit my friends, because some of them's houses are quite near to the university. Maybe I can also choose to take a part-time job so that I can earn some extra money. I think both of them are good ideas. Anyway, your suggestion is quite good.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
well you could mylot your time away, you earn while you enjoy... go and read a book too.
• China
28 Sep 12
Maybe I should have a part time job so that I will not waste a lot of precious time. And reading is also a good idea for us to promote my accomplishment. Thank you for your suggestion.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Home is still the best place in the world. No matter how poor the abode is, but home is always home. It is our heaven on earth.
• China
28 Sep 12
I cannot agree with your idea more. Yes, home is the wormest place in the world. No matter when we feel sad or lost, we can get back our smile and braverty because of family's magic power. I believe you also very love your family members.
• India
28 Sep 12
welcome to mylot Here most of the families are combined families, where you can find 3 to 4 generations live in same house together peacefully home is always a sweet home, next time you should stay with your mom
• China
28 Sep 12
Yes, you are completely right. Now, my mom is not in a good condition, and she need my care and company to comfort her. It will be a good idea to show my love because parents are always excited when their children show respect and love for them. Maybe I should also stay with my mom and spend more time together when I return home.
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@BigMoney25 (1286)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Maybe you will learn something from this experience. You need to spend some quality time with your family my friend. It is where your relationship with them gets better. So do not be selfish and take time to realize how important they are to you and how they took good care of you when you were still young.
• China
28 Sep 12
Thank you for your admonition. You mean I should pay more attention to my friends besides my family. You are right. My friends always tell me that they can not wait to go back home to stay with their parents when the holiday is forthcoming even though their hometown is quite near. They also miss their families very much, and I believe that they can understand my feelings.
• India
28 Sep 12
As a student, I too felt it would have been good for me to study somewhere far away from home. But I was always close to my home and had the chance to take care of my parents whenever they were unwell. I used to feel sorry for my close friends who were far away from their homes and were living in the hostel. But in my opinion even if you stay away from your home, it is good to visit your parents whenever you get a chance. As a parent now, I understand what the so-called 'empty-nest syndrome' is all about. It can be really hard for parents when they don't see their children for a very long time. So what if their children are in their early twenties. Now I can relate well to my mother's anxiety whenever I would reach home late. You realize such things only when you become a parent.
• China
28 Sep 12
Yes, I need to take care of my parent whenever I get a chance. Now, I am far away from my mom, but I know it is very important to keep in touch with her frequently. I do not want her to feel lonely at home, but my brother is too naughty to stay with her. Therefore, I should call her more often even though I do not have something important to talk to her.
• China
28 Sep 12
oh my god!
• China
28 Sep 12
I think if you really want to share your opinion with me, you should add more details. Anyway, thank you for your response.