urggg!!!!!!

United States
October 2, 2012 8:25am CST
I love my husband but o.m.g!!!!! Yesterday he had to take off work and we had to go somewhere to do some paper work for his daughter and when we had to sit in the waiting room I was chewing gum and blowing bubbles and he looked at me with frustration and said can you stop doing that l.o.l. And then on the way home I was looking for the restatraunt that he has been wanting to eat at for a long time and I knew where it was but I accidentally took a wrong turn but I said NO I am going to get there and I did but on the way I reached for a cigarette and he said do you have to smoke now? I said ok dang do you have to complain about everything? Then he told me stop hitting hte signal lights in the car but I had to because they are stuck and I like to give my signal when I turn. Has thihs happened to you? Your husband just nit picking at each and every little thing? What do you do?
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9 responses
• United States
3 Oct 12
Oh my!!! LOL! Well, I feel left out.. I don't have these issues. My boyfriend and I barely even disagree, let alone work each other's nerves. :) We are about 3 hrs apart from each other so it's far enough to miss one another yet we still have our distance. We communicate everyday any way possible but I think we just know to give each other space and stuff. Even when he visits me, we're both in 1 small room all weekend, but he has his space and I have mine. You just have to collaborate. Take some time from one another. I'm not saying go on a week long vacation or something lol. But maybe, you relax in the bedroom reading or go soak in the tub (great times for meditation/relaxation) while he's downstairs in the living room or in his office somewhere. I think a few hours away from one another on a daily basis will be just fine. Like another person said, Distance makes the heart grow fonder. You'll always love one another, no doubt. But there will be times when you can't stand each other either. lol You just have to get used to things and it'll all become second nature soon. :) My best wishes to you!
• United States
3 Oct 12
I agree we do need some time apart and I know I will miss him but I have heard and know that time apart helps in a big way. Thanks for the response and have a great day.
• United States
2 Oct 12
I know I sometimes nit pick and sometimes my boyfriend does too but we have laugh it later, sometimes we get a little nutty after too. Sometimes I try to ask why he is being this way and it may have nothing to do with me. Besides the time away from each other I am just wondering the circumstances of the day.If all this paper work was for something that was really important or stressing him then it is bound to happen even though he really doesn't want to take it out on you. Sometimes people just let the stress build and everything gets hyped in their mind ten fold. If that may have been the case just try to comfort him as well.
• United States
3 Oct 12
Yes he was frustrated and we do the same just laugh it off later, I know we love each other and some times we get frustrated with each other but later we just forgive and forget.
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
2 Oct 12
my hubby knows better lol no actually I lucked out he works alot of hours an when he is here knowing I have trouble walking cause my back he is helpfull
• United States
2 Oct 12
That is nice to hear that he helps you My husband also works long hours too sometimes and he works 6 days a week. He had to take off yesterday and it was just like he picked on me for everything I did or didn't do I am so glad he went back to work today for some time alone. Sure I miss him but nice to have a quiet time he he l.o.l.
@celticeagle (158942)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Oct 12
No! I can understand him being frustrated setting there waiting for his turn but he shouldn't take it out on you. His griping would get me upset after a while. I would get away from him. I am not married and do not care to be. I would definitely not want to be married to someone like him.
• United States
2 Oct 12
I love him and we have been together since 2003. He just gets that way sometimes and I just laugh it off and ignore him! He does apologize after he sees that I will not talk to him or do anything for hours.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
2 Oct 12
Well, for one thing I'm not married and therefore do not have a wife. From the description that you have done in your discussion, all events seem strange but fun! You, at least when I read your threads, I've never found one where you avoid talking about eating, restaurants, etc.. You also mentioned the fact to drive the car. I always, when I'm driving and I turn, I put the arrows signaling, at least in Italy it is required by the rules of the road. You should always make it clear to the vehicle that follows us, in a crossroads, which direction we take. Otherwise we risk a collision!
• United States
3 Oct 12
We are supposed to use our signal lights here in the U.S.A. too so I reallydon't know why he was yelling at me just nag nag nag.
• United States
2 Oct 12
As a few people have already said, maybe you guys need to spend a day away from each other. Sometimes, you can have to much "togetherness" in a relationship. But, aside from that, is it possible your husband is aggravated with something unrelated to you, and is just taking it out on you? Does he have something stressful going on? To me, it sounds as though he may be frustrated with some aspect of life, and just taking it out on you. Unfortunately, it's those we most care about that seem to catch the brunt of all our emotions- good and bad! Good luck!
• United States
2 Oct 12
I do agree we need time apart. But it does help eve though I love him and miss him it is better to be away for awhile. I know a lot of things are bothering him but there is nothing I can or we can do at the moment about these things but in time they willo be fixed.
@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
2 Oct 12
LOL....Maybe you need some time away from each other. Are you spending ALOT of time together?? This might be the root cause. I love my wife but sometime after spending to much time together, we get on each others nerver. Abscence makes the heart grow stronger.
• United States
2 Oct 12
I know what you mean urgg! He was just picking at everything I was doing yesterday but I love him and all I could do was laugh and tell him I just won't say a word and just sit here all quiet he he he l.m.a.o Then he looks at me and smiles and says I'm sorry are you okay? Well it isn't funny I said, What do you want me to do? Don't give my signal don't smoke don't blow bubbles? Can I do anything right? Or Just do nothing at all?
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
2 Oct 12
Hello ja I do know you love your husband. They, guys, sometimes are so anxious or stressed. Working out home isnĀ“t easy at all for them. Sometimes my husband is very anxious or stressed, I just stop him from being rude, and then he relaxes. When I stop him he reacts and he realizes he has been rude. I suscribed the complete family into a gym, and exercise has helped us to get relaxed. Blessings ja... dainy
• United States
2 Oct 12
I work at home he works in a body shop for cars and I am so glad for today to be away even if it is just for the day. I know men can get stressed easily as we women can too. I just stop doing anything for him or even talking to him and he will apologize to me. Thanks for the response and have a great day.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
2 Oct 12
Oh oh yeah you must be all the time together and that may be the cause of it. He maybe thinking something in his mind and that is why he is putting that frustration on you. So just take a break from each other if possible. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead
• United States
2 Oct 12
I think so I am glad that he went to work today. I work at home and I am so glad I will have just 8-9 hours away I mean I love him but I think you guys are right we need to be away from each other for sure. Thanks for the response and have a great day.
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