What will you feel, if someone opened the mails from your mailbox?

It depends. First I would check to see if any confidential information was looked at. Damage control is the first goal. If he looked at important sensitive information, then I'll need to close my bank account, close out credit cards, change pin numbers passwords and any other security. Then this "friend" is gone. Not friends anymore. People who look at your confidential information intentionally, are not to be trusted. However, if the information he looked at was unimportant, then the question is simply the integrity of the individual. This is something only you yourself, who knows the individual can determine. I would consider how long I've known them, how well they behave, what their reputation is, and the validity of the excuse. Depending on how it is, I may give them a second chance. I may let them watch the house again while I was gone, but say very explicitly that they are not to open my mail at all, ever. One side note: You said that they claimed they opened mail they thought was urgent. Things may be different where you are, but here where I live, urgent mail, is normally has printed warnings on them. For example, if you fail to pay your electric bill, and they send you a letter saying they are going to turn off the power to your house, it will show up in a bright red letter. Or if the court asks you to show up for something, it will say subpoena of the court on the letter, to let you know it's an important urgent thing. If this individual was opening all my mail, even stuff that did not look urgent, than I would not be happy with that. That excuse doesn't fly. Letters that look regular, are regular and not urgent, and he should know better. He's either making up an excuse, or very ignorant. Either way, he's not trust worthy, and I won't deal with him anymore.

I would be pretty upset if someone other than myself opened my mails. My parents don't even open our mails when we still live with them. And I agree that it's all about respecting someone's privacy. Just because we want no one to touch our mails doesn't mean we are hiding something gruesome. We just want to be respected. Anyway, if they really want to know the contents of the mail, they can just ask me and whether I tell them or not is a choice that only I can make and nobody can force me to it. Sadly, not all people can actually grasp the idea and the consideration of respecting someone's private property.

I would not mind if I told the person to open any mail that I expected within a certain period of time, but that person would have to call me, if for instance, a cousin of my would not be coming, etc. I would think that with junk mail, they would throw it in the garbage or call me and let me know that there were a whole lot of Sears catalogues etc. I would not understand how the mailbox would be forced open unless it was by a thief other then the one you entrusted looking after your mail for.

I would be really mad about this and never ask them for their help like this again. Mail is only legally able to be opened by the person whose name is on the envelope. I bring my parents mail to them nearly every day and I would never open their mail.

Actually, I have experienced that, so with my sister in law. The culprit---my brother in law! I do not know what is up to that guy that he really needs to take a look on anything that he sees. I mean, if it was done to him, he would be like a fire-breathing-dragon-so-mad! I don't have to hide anything from the letters that I receive. We just all want some privacy and a little respect as well.

I do not know if there's any type of explanations that would convince me not to feel annoyed if someone do open my mails whether it is a snail mail or an email. If she or he thinks that the mail is important let's say it is a credit statement that should be payed on time, she should have inform me at least that a letter arrived. But usually, if this is some important things, I am normally aware that a mail will arrive and so will make preparations ahead of time. I received lots of mails everyday and almost all of those mails aren't mine so I would just give those mails to appropriate persons without opening them. I have never thought of opening other people's mail as I know that it is very improper. This person you asked to look for your place should have known that.

well considering it is a civil offense in my country I wouldn't like it. I would accept the excuse one time only and tell the person never to open my mail again no matter what he or she thinks it is.

Maybe he/she pretend that since you trusted him to be in your place while your away he acted like you understand if he opened your letter. He has his reason for it might really an emergency and must have an fast action. But still not right too cos he's invading your private property.

Well if its a business e-mail then they are in violation of post laws that do not allow anybody to look at your addressed electronic mail. If its personal e-mail then unfortunately that comes with the territory of having an e-mail account and the only thing you can do is change the password and log off when you are done on the computer. Personally I would feel betrayed and would probably never trust that person again.

It's definitely a NO! NO! NO! case for me. Even when I was still living with my parents and now have my own family. If it says my name, then I'll be the one to open it. Every one could be present very eager to know wht's in the mail but definitely I'll open it. I have not experienced it yet, but if it happened, maybe I'll lose my trust with that person. I am not hiding anything but that is something private that I should deal with first. I would share of course but never go ahead of me.

It is a federal offense in US to open other people's mail. I would tell this person you are not happen and that there is no reason to open any of your mail for any reason. I would also watch to be sure any accounts have no unauthorized charges on them. May take a while for these to show up. I would not let this person watch your place again. Not good! I would not be happen.

I like to have my privacy and to keep it to myself, so for that reason alone, I would be quite upset if I found out that someone was opening my mail. However, if I had to choose between someone going through my mail and someone going through the contents of my house, I would feel a lot more violated that someone went through my property than hearing or finding out that someone had been going through my mail. Because, it could be true that the person was trying to make sure that you were not missing something really important in the mail.

I haven't experienced it now that I am already older. I had an experience when I was a teen-ager. My late mom opened my letter coming from my high school classmate. I was not supposed to be angry because it was my mom who opened but I did not read the letter I threw it in the trash can. I really didn't like what she did. Hope she will forgive me for this.

wow that is some bad manners. I would be offended at this step of the person. Very bad indeed. Did you tell him that you did not like it??? Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

I would confront the friend and let her know that what she did was wrong, and that there was no kind of emergency that would require her to open any of my personal mail. I would also make her aware that what she did was a federal offense, and also make sure that no paperwork, checks, or credit cards were taken. I would then break my friendship with that person, and monitor my credit very carefully to make sure that nothing is opened up in my name without my consent.

hi Shavkat actually if one wanted to opening someone elses mailis a f ederal offense. most people do not pursue that but I would hate to ha ve someone else open my mail unless it had been my son or my hubby when he was alive. nobody else had any right to do that at all.It would make me angry and suspicious too.Mail is private and unless y ou really had som ething you wanted opened no nobodu is to open your private mail.

I would think that person had a lot of nerve opening my mail. I would not ask them again to care for my property while I was gone. What I would do with the mail is have the post office hold it until I returned from my trip.

I don`t accept that excuse to read my mail. Sometimes the mailman places my mail in my Mom`s mailbox next door and she calls me to read the envelope and ask me if I go and get it or do I want her to open it and read it. But noone else has ever read my mail, not even my husband when he was alive.

Even if there are no hanky panky things on my emails, i think i would be angry if they will open my own emails. It's invasion of my privacy.

hi, yes of course that email is a private thing of the owner because it will also contain some secrets or conversation to other people,for me i will confront the person i have entrusted,so to avoid that i will assure first all my private things to lock.