For parents, how tight are you?

I can be strict to my kids, coz I want them to grow up responsible. I think I am not like other mothers who wouldn't let their kids have time to enjoy their childhood. Not all the time should parents be telling their kids according to what they want. They should also give their kids a little freedom to be just kids.

I think I was a little rebellious too. My mom was a single parent and she was very strict and over protective. I would lie and not tell her all that was going on. Later I learned that in the area we lived in for a time there had been a girl about my age ubducted, raped and chopped up. Her body was buried in several places. I think this freaked my mom out and she treated me the way she did because of this. I wasn't so strict to my child because mine had been so strict.

Since I'm the only one child of them, they were strict to me. I don't blame them for being that but that's why I've been rebellious and married so early. Now I realize strict or not it depends on the child what ever she wants for their life. Me as a mother always support them and guide them for being good and tell them what is bad. Now it depends on them if they will follow the good ones. I just made them realize they are the one who is responsible with their decision.

I'm tight when it comes to bed times because I know if I give them a bed time they will stay up all night, I would if I was a kid. There are different rules for each of my kids because they all have different relationships with me and my wife. What works for one kind of works for the other but you have to set rules and limits. Otherwise kids have to figure it out on their own or worse, they will rebel. If they don't mind their parents then they won't mind anybody else of higher authority, i.g. a boss, police officers, the list goes on and on. Rebelling usually leads to trouble beyond the home and then the kids start to blame their parents for their own actions.

i am really close to them and keep thinking about them each minute,which is my sole distraction all the time,so need to get rid of the thoughts and to only be close

Parenting is not any nuisance to a kid, its a friendly guidance to it.

We were sort of strict. We had to watch our money and our boys had to follow our rules. But we did give them a little leeway and they did not complain. So we were sort of in the middle. WE loosened the apron strings when they grew older and more responsible.

When I was growing up, I was very much allowed treats and pocket money, but I had to earn them. For example, when I wanted some chocolate after my dinner I was allowed to have it as long as I'd eaten a piece of fruit first. When I wanted money for something, I would have to save up the change that I had and do jobs to earn money, and I was never really given anything for doing nothing. Not that I think that I should have been, I think that my parents did things the perfect way, and when I have children I hope that I will be able to treat them the same as my parents treated me.

Instruct your children in the way you would have them go, and when they are older, they will not depart from it.

I am a parent now and I am not that strict. Instead I make sure to win my kids trust. I am their buddy, their best friend whom they can share their feelings. I am more than a parent to them and that is enough for me to trust them.

I am not extremely strict with my children. The reason that I am not really strict with them is because of the fact that I want them to learn to be responsible, but I also want them to realize that life is ultimately about the decisions that they make. This means that when they do things that they very much know are wrong, they do face repercussions. However, I don't think that they have to have everything in life strictly written down for them. This is similar to the way that my parents were when I was growing up and I believe that I am a better person because of the way that my parents brought me up.

I like to hope after having raised two teenagers that I have been a resposonisble parent. I don't want want to be too strict where I an pushing ny child away from me and i also don't wan't to be so easy that i am a pushiover for anything my children bring my way. I like to hope I have found that comfort zone that lets me make the right choces for my children.