Update: What The Heck Is Wrong With These People?

@MoonGypsy (4605)
United States
October 9, 2012 6:38pm CST
so, from the last post of me avoiding this annoying couple that was having a baby...... i decided to go and see them in the hospital. why not do a good deed? after all, they had no one else come to see them in the hospital. they have no family and friends over here. we are the only ones they know. boy! i hated going all the way up there. it was an hour long trip by bus, because we don't have a car. all the way in another city. they know this, too. still, they begged us to come. no one else in the house wanted to make the long trip up there. so, i took my son and we went to represent for the rest of the family. after i told her i would come, she wouldn't stop calling me that whole morning. it was really getting annoying. it was like, okay, okay i said i would come. don't rush me. i can't believe they begged us to come up there to see them and they nagged! when i got to the hospital, the first thing she asked me is, "so, when can we come over"? WHAT??!!!! you are laying in the hospital bleeding from just having new born baby and you want to find out when can you come over and sleep at our house a couple of nights!!???? so, they start making plans. here it goes from their own mouth, they would give it about two weeks then come over our house and cook. he even said, " don't worry i even got one of those fold up cribs for the baby, i know just the place to put here. they have made plans for us for halloween and everything! can you believe them????! they want to bring over a new infant (that had to stay in the neo-natal unit) to our house to camp out. that's it's i have been too, nice. i have told them time and time again what type of people we are and they still don't get the hint. now, i am going to be rude. the next time they call or text to come over. i am going to just tell them, "NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!" i don't care how they feel about it now. they don't care about how we feel. we are not even as close to them as they are to us. we don't want to be they are annoying. i know i seem mean, but sometimes you have to be. sometimes people beg you to be mean to them.
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4 responses
@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
10 Oct 12
I have read your post and then I went to read your first post. And from my point of view, you are not giving them enough signals that you don`t want them so near your life. I do not understand that trip you made to the hospital but that started a long time ago. Still you keep on acting as if they were close family nad so they feel it`s allright to have rights because you have lead them to believe that. THey cannot get any "hint" while you go by bus to another city to see them. It`s your fault, not theirs. Placing limits is not being mean or rude.
@MoonGypsy (4605)
• United States
10 Oct 12
you are absolutely right. i could see where we let them get carried away. i probably should have not gone to see her at the hospital, either. it only reinforced things. i just felt bad for them because they had no one to come up and see them in the hospital. it was like doing a good deed. no more, though. i will set the record straight next time they ask to come over. they have made plans with us for halloween, all by themselves. when they call and ask what's up. i will tell them EXACTLY what's up. i just have to try to remember that they are just doing it cause they are lonely. i also don't want to make any enemies just cause i don't want to be friends with them either. i will be up front without being insulting.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
11 Oct 12
Finally!!! I think I said in your last discussion something to the affect of telling you to just be straight up with them. Some people...you just have to. Those kind of people are the most annoying of all. They don't take hints at all. Good luck. I bet you will feel a lot better once you know that you don't have to worry all the time about them calling and knocking on your door.
@celticeagle (189988)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Oct 12
No, is a good word if people take it seriously. I think I would have told them before I left the hospital. People need to know their boundaries and you stand by them or they won't take you seriously. I hope it works. I don't think you are being mean. I think they are demented and do not seem to get it. Being firm is what you need to be. I hope you are able to stand by it.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
11 Oct 12
I think it's very nice of you to go in a form of doing a good deed, you are totally right. Sometimes we do things for people we don't like and are annoying as a good deed and that's really do something good, as for someone we like is very easy and it doesn't count. I think you done charity there.