What makes a home, home?

@jdalaqui (1073)
Philippines
October 12, 2012 1:21am CST
If their is a daddy, a mommy and children, can we call them home? There are different opinions concerning this matter that could really enlighten us how should we define a home. In your own context, how do you define a home?
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15 responses
12 Oct 12
For me, I can call it a home when you feel full of love and happiness in your surroundings and you feel safe... It doesn't really matter about the members of the family... well, Some but not all... coz, Some of us don't have one..right?
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14 Oct 12
Yeah! You're right... As long as God is there, No need to worry coz He won't let us be homeless... :) God is good...
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
When we read the scripture, we can immediately see how God is wonderful, how he loves us, how he cares for us. We can't be homeless as long as we are in Him. AS you have said, He won't let us homeless.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
But each of us can still find a home though in this earth we may never find one. The arms of God are willing to embrace us through the Lord Jesus Christ. What do you think?
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@namiya (1713)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
a home is where every member of the family live harmoniously and happily and make most of the blessing there is to enjoy and share.
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@namiya (1713)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
yes and if everyone and everything is in harmony inside a home and love and faith in God reigns others blessings including material ones would also flow-in.
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@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
I agree with that, I suppose you're a Christian? I am. In my home personally, we have lots of differences and perspectives. I just thank God for putting us in His family. He alone is the one who guides and controls our lives thus insuring harmony among us as a home.
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@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
In a Christian home, many blessings are easily recognized by every member. Blessings enjoyed amongst others is the love that reigns in every one's heart. Material blessings are just secondary, harmony is the thing that should be most pursued.
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@GemmaR (8517)
12 Oct 12
I think that far too many people make the mistake of concentrating more on things like money and think that this is the kind of thing that makes a family, but I will admit that I don't agree with that. I think that the only thing that you need in a family is love. I don't even think that you have to have both parents present, because if two people are there but they don't love each other then that is nowhere near as good as having one lone parent that really loves their children and would be able to do anything for them.
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@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
I agree. Money is also very important but should not be the main thing. Families fell apart because of money matters. The love of money has caused many homes a broken family. Money is good, but if it becomes the priority, then it becomes evil.
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@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
19 Oct 12
I agree with the opinion home is where the heart is. Home is the first place that comes in mind after we travel so far.Where we share everything with our loved ones.
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@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Hi jasmeena, thanks a lot for posting in. There are times that we travel so far as if we are not going back but soon we realized that we need to stop going and needs to go back home.
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
For me a home represent mainly of a family (husband and wife with or without a child). we call it a home a HOME when there is RESPECT in the family. Respect of the husband to his wife and respect of the wife to her husband. And the same thing also of the child to his/ her parents and the parents to their child. We call it a home a HOME when there is love in the family and also from God. There is Understanding to all the family and we also Care. ^_^
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
This is interesting. There are couples out there who have no child but they are living happily together. We have friends in such case. Though they really desire children, this does not define their state as a happy home.
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• India
12 Oct 12
For me that place is home where there is Love, affection and concern for each other. No matter how many people are there in that house. But if there is no love and affection for each other thats not just a home. Its the devil's home..
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@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Wow, this reminds me of God's word in the book of proverbs. Love and affection for each other should be considered among members. Without love, each one in the home will just think of themselves and that's the beginning of a tumultuous home.
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@runsgame (2031)
• India
21 Oct 12
home naturally consists of daddy, mummy, childrens grand fathers mothers , sisters and in case of joint family brothers and their wifes. joint family is really a enjoyable one and it is good too
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
hello runsgame, do you mean the traditional Filipino joint family? Yeah this can be enjoyable but often it is not so good. The design of God for a family is that, a family should be independent from another family. This does not negate helping each other though.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
15 Oct 12
A place to call home...home to me is where you feel safe,secure and loved a place where you are always welcome and know you can go in there any time at any age whenever you feel the need for a hug, and loving care! when my children grew up and left home to pursue their careers and dreams I always told them to remember that if things goes wrong the doors of home are always open.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
17 Oct 12
Thank you jdalaqui.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
your welcome. your opinion will be heard by many. May this inspire each of them to value and nurture their home to be a place where love is there. a place where they can always rest over and over again.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
What an awesome picture of a home. All of us needs a hug, a smile, understanding and so on. A loving home has that ready available for everyone who comes home. Just imagine how horrible and frustrating when you will decide to go home but the house is empty cold and dark. Empty cold and dark in the sense that there it's not a home anymore for love, care, hug and understanding are gone. Thank allotted for sharing with us. hope to hear form you more.
@SinfulRose (3527)
• Davao, Philippines
12 Oct 12
A home is not a physical place. It's where one's heart belongs to. Even though one has the physical family of father, mother and siblings, if one does not feel security, comfort and happiness--or even a bond with them, then that is not a home but a public place that looks like a private place on the outside. A home is where you feel bonds with people--not necessarily blood related. A sanctuary where one can feel happy just being oneself. It's where one grows to become the person to fulfill his purpose in the world and a place to start learning to face challenges that rises before him. Let's just say, the home is the first place you want to be if you want to become successful in achieving your dreams...
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
I fully agree that a home is not a physical place. A physical place has no emotion but those who composes the home desires to comfort, provide security and supports each other. You have a beautiful way of describing a home.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
Basically a home consist of father, mother and kids. But, a home won't be lesser when any among the parent is not around. What matters most is- how the single parent can handle the situation and fill the emptiness the other parent has left behind. It is how a child feel contentment and security with or without both parents.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
Even Single parent can provide a home for the kids. It doesn't matter when a mother or a father is absent, what matters most is how a single parent will nurture and provide for those who are under his/her care. Thanks for posting in.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Oct 12
Hi, A house is not a home, as they say. Home where the heart is, follow it and it shall lead you home.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Hi! That sounds poetic. Yes, a house is not a home. The house is the building where the home resides. Without those people who lives in the house, that building is just a lonely solid thing. So follow your heart? just be sure your heart is right.
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@mrsuniega (786)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
you're right a home is composed of a family - a father, mother and children, but not just that, to be call a home the family should have harmony.
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@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
It's good you've mentioned that word, "harmony." It does not mean though that there are no differences in a home with harmony. Sometimes because of differences, hot disagreement arises. However, when each member desires the welfare of the other member and the whole, real harmony can be a reality inside the home despite of so much differences.
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• United States
12 Oct 12
I've always believed that home is where the heart is. I don't care where I am, as long as I have my family and my dear boyfriend I can be happy.
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@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
I hope soon that you'll be married to your boyfriend. If you love each other, I believe you will be working your relationship together to build a home with compassion, care, and support for each other.
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@ramiuniq (56)
• India
13 Oct 12
Hi, this is quite a good topic and one needing much thought into definition.A home seems to be not a place of bricks and stones where a man,wife and kid reside,rather it seems to be made up of the bonds of love,caring and communication between the people who stay together.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
Hello there ramiuniq, thanks a lot for joining in. You have a good way of defining what home really is. It seems to me that it defines almost the whole comments we and the other fellow lotters shared. My attention was caught on the word communication. You are right, absolutely right. Communication in the home should always be open so that everything can be settle at the soonest possible time. thanks again for sharing, hope to hear from you more.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Oct 12
love , respect, and trust of all in the famioly make a house a real home. as an old saying "home is where you go and they have to let yoou in." human warmth, human caring and sharing those make a home for sure.right now I ha ve only Gold C rest retirement center fore any kind of home an dmy o nly family is m y adult son who is so good to me and comes to see me every weekend.we help each other and as a mom to a 53 yr old I still worry at times about him.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
14 Oct 12
I appreciate you responding in this discussion. I am hoping the best for you and your son. I also appreciate the kind of mother you are still unwilling to just let go of your care for a son old enough to take care of himself. I also appreciate him for being so kind to you. May you have more wonderful days as a family.