I can't relate and I intend to skip your discussion my friend
By syoti20
@syoti20 (5293)
Philippines
October 13, 2012 4:44am CST
I have 10, 000 unread messages from mylot created by my friends. And I try to read the discussion accordingly. But some of the discussions are not my interests plus I can't relate no matter what. So I delete the email and move to the next mylot email discussion.
I believe I didn't hurt any feelings from my friends if I continue doing such routine. For I can't really relate. For I know many of us doing this routine too.
Because In my own opinion, If I reply to that discussion and only my reply says " Sorry my friend I have no idea about this, let's wait for others reply ". My reply wouldn't be helpful and I might receive a bad comment against it. So I would rather keep silence.
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22 responses
@sishy7 (27169)
• Australia
13 Oct 12
I don't make it a must to reply to topics started by those in my friends list. I reply to any discussions I want to, does not matter who started it. Whether or not the starter is on my friends list would be the furthest thing of my concerns when I reply to a topic.
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@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
13 Oct 12
Hi friend, your activity is right, i too do the same thing. If i don't have any idea about the certain topic, i am not interested in replying to it. As you mentioned this kind of useless relies don't give any thing to our friends as well as others, better to remain silent, if we don't have any idea about that topic
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Oct 12
ravi in some p laces the notifications are just pouring in and i ha have 7 00 back up so yes he is right. some people here are
not gettin many but some are getting tons of th
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em @syoti20 (5293)
• Philippines
14 Oct 12
Hey ravisivan! I don't like to be rude with you. But since you are giving a word that are not pleasing to my eye and your accusing me direct or indirect.
Let my screen-shot speak for myself.
NOTE: Read well ravi, I said "I have 10, 000 unread messages from mylot created by my friends" meaning gathered from all the dates present to past. Read between the line.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
13 Oct 12
vidhayprakash:
10000 number appears to be not realistic.
now for the last two days emails are not received.
what prompted the member to start a discussion of this nature.
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@cuttyrish (2667)
• United States
13 Oct 12
same with me. I don't reply to those discussions that i can't relate to or those that i do not have an idea about. I dont't want to be mock at or anything for not knowing the topic, and besides not replying to a discussion that is not known to you, tells more about you. For example, i see countless of people criticing some laws imposed, in which they have no idea about, or haven't read the gist of the law online.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Oct 12
no these are not violating any g uidelines that I c an see. they are valid.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
13 Oct 12
Are discussions of this nature allowed or violating guidelines?
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@DarthJustice (2014)
• United States
13 Oct 12
I know the feeling. I'm at the point in Mylot with most discussions I see on here though. Most of them I can't relate to or can't really reply to very well for various reasons. Unfortunately because of it I can't be too active on here anymore like I once was. Most discussions I see others post I just can't relate to for one reason or another, like you.
Actually, it's kind of why I had started posting more of my own. I couldn't find ones I wanted to post in for different reasons so I got to thinking why don't I try starting a few of my own? I figured there were a few people who might be interested in replying in them at that.
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@much2say (53944)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Oct 12
True. And no worries. Here at myLot we all have the right to pick and choose which discussions we want to participate in . . . and even so we can't possibly get to all of them. Certainly with the limited time I have here, I sure can't get to everyone's discussion either (whether I can relate to it or not). We can't take these things personally - that's just the way it is.
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
13 Oct 12
This is a very sensible approach. I am sure that there must be members who will try to respond simply because it was generated by their friends, but you are right in that the response would have little value to the discussion.
I never attempt to respond to something that either does not interest me or is about a topic that I know very little about. I do not believe that adding poor responses would help a discussion in any way, so it would not really help your friend either.
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@GardenGerty (157674)
• United States
14 Oct 12
I should think no one would be offended. Sometimes I cannot relate, and sometimes my brain is just so tired I do not want to relate. I am not offended if you skip my discussions. Hope you feel the same. I have one person on my friend list that I can reply to maybe one in twenty. I have removed this person from my friend list at least three times, but they keep requesting me again. I try to figure out why as they maybe reply to one of my twenty discussions as well.
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@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
I don't think it's illegal or against regulations of mylot to not respond to discussions you don't feel like responding to and I think nobody here would force anybody to respond to a discussion, so I believe it's alright. The main thing is, you enjoy while you earn and learn, no need to force yourself to get bored or something.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Oct 12
hi syorti I have 700 =backed up and have to do the same as youo are doing. I spend most of my time here but still it takes time to respond and to comment back. 700 I cannot even get to so I delete the ones that do not interest me and try to stick a lot to my friends but also to any really interesting discussion I will reply. I know I feel sort of irritated if someone says"i don't know anything about this hope someone else does." this wastes both our times.If I do not have the knowledge for a decent reply I just do not reply.
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@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
13 Oct 12
Yes I have tons of emails that my friends on mylot created.. responding to all of them is not possible.. Something people write about I have no idea how to respond or really dont have an opinion either way.. Then there has been in the past were one was writing about the same topic every day just rewording the discussion.. That doesnt work either... So instead of being mean or rude I will just delete them, but I try to respond to most of them.. Might be able to catch up because the email notication thing is not working right now for some reason.. Are you having the same problem by chance? Its been the last two or three days...
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@rosegardens (3034)
• United States
13 Oct 12
It is quite impossible to respond to all the discussions that do not pique interest. I do the same thing, after all, it is posted in the guidelines to go on to the next discussion if you cannot give a quality response. If you do not know about some topic, then you cannot possibly provide a quality comment.
Have a great day, my friend!
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@natliegleb (5175)
• India
13 Oct 12
that is true,even i cant ignore my buddies thoughts here,its always favorite for me
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
13 Oct 12
syoti20
you are in order. you answer where you are confident. you do not answer where you are not comfortable. You say you have 10000 unread messages. Is this real number or guess number or a fictitious number?
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@syoti20 (5293)
• Philippines
14 Oct 12
@ Ravisivan: I checked your profile and it seems you have low number of friends compare to my friends. Do the math and. Approximately x3 the number of emails which you can received compare to mine, PLUS Add the email I received previously that I didn't read it yet.
And the answer can be found on my Attached Photo. Then tell me if the email is not yet realistic.
PS: Are you stating that I am a Liar? I noticed that this is the Second comment and which I saw the word unrealistic/fictious. Watch your words.
@clrumfelt (5490)
• United States
14 Oct 12
I reply to most of mine but if it's a topic I can't relate to or post a comment I feel comfortable with, I will delete it and go on to the next one.
@anklesmash (1412)
•
14 Oct 12
I am the same I don't respond to discussions just because a friend started it I only respond to discussions if I think I can make a meaningful contribution to.I check the discussions my friends start to see if I any come under topics I know anything about otherwise I don't just respond because my friend started it I would rather look for a discussion topic from a stranger that I could respond well to than from a friend whose discussion I couldn't really respond to.I suppose the answer is to only add friends who are like you and tend to start discussions that you have an interest in responding to.
@allknowing (130154)
• India
14 Oct 12
One should go by what one is comfortable with and not by what friends have started. It would be so exerting to respond to every single topic that friends start. As a matter of fact I go by what interests me not necessarily those topics that my friends have started.
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@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
15 Oct 12
Hi syoti, don't bother yourself too much about it as I believe that it is what most of us do here. It is very understandable if we don't give response to posts that aren't our interest or we don't even have a single idea about it. Notifications are there to inform us that they indeed started a discussion, and if we're knowledgeable about it, it is easier for us to go to that post and post a response. It is actually making our lives easier so don't worry about it. For sure our friends would understand.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
14 Oct 12
You have 10000 unread mylot messages I have 13000 unread messages in my account because I not open account daily only once to see the top discussion list. I want to respond on each discussion but I know this is not possible because only mylot is not my life but offline life is also important. But I not think such only response on friend's discussions but I respond on anyone discussions if I understand and easy to respond on it.
