She asks if I want to have another baby

If I were you, I think I would flat out ask her what was wrong with her that she was so concerned about my reproduction. It is not normal for someone to keep hounding a friend about having kids--especially when that friend already has produced multiple offspring. Perhaps, she is thinking that you will "get it right" with a third child; if so, you should ditch this woman from your social circle. If it were your mother or mother-in-law doing this inquiring, it would be a little less odd. After all, some women just really like grandchildren. However, even then, it would be an overstepping of boundaries.

If your happy in life let her know your happy with the family you have and that you do not need anymore kids in your life to be happier in life. Sometimes you might want other kids but feel you may not be able to support them the way you would like to. I know your life is hard at times with your son and that you are traveling alot and maybe she feel that you might want another boy since your child is disabled but to me i feel your comforting your son more and you love him more because of his diability and you guys hang out more and do so much together and your a great mom and being a great mom she feels bringing in antoehr child would be a plus because you handle kids so well.

Does your friend have many children I wonder? Yes I would be extremely curious to know why she is asking. I am in my forties too and I am still single, I never wanted children, I have worked with children and it's ok, because at the end of the day you can hand the children back to their parents! I have trouble looking after myself nowadays, with depression, anxiety etc, I couldn't cope having children. I am happy to be single, I've done relationships, fortunately no children have been involved to make it messy at the split. I don't get broody, and I have my cousins two children to see, they are too noisy, handful and it's great to see them but in very small doses.

I used to get that question all the time, too, even as I entered my forties. In my case, I have two daughters... so the question inevitably arose, "Don't you want to try for a boy?" Ummm, no. I didn't "try" for girls either. I had two healthy pregnancies and two beautiful children. That was all I ever wanted, nothing more. My sister got the question even more than I did because she has one daughter. People cannot fathom that someone "only wants one"... so she was asked continually when she was going to give my niece a brother or sister.

To me, it seems a bit odd that she'd keep asking you about having more kids, especially when you already have 2. By no means is 40 old, but being pregnant in your 40's can be a bit risky and the baby is more likely to have a health issue. Sometimes I really don't think it's appropriate to ask people if they plan on having kids or if they want more. I'm 20 now and not yet married and I don't have any kids. Right now, I don't think I want any and neither does my boyfriend. Neither of us really likes kids and at the moment we don't want any. But I do think down the road once we're married we may have one. ONe would be enough for me and I wouldn't have more than 2. It would be perfect if I could have a boy and a girl.

Well I think I only cut out to have 2 kids! I see how my sisters are and they have a big family. I think I can relate in a way because whenever they see me they always want to know when I'm going to get pregnant avian. I just smile and give them this look like "r u f'n kidding me"! If u wanna have more kids go right ahead! But we r done with having kids. They have kid after kid after kid even when they can't afford it. That make me mad because they'd taking advantage of the system and I feel horrible for the kids because they're have kids for all the wrong reasons. I don't believe that if u can afford to have a baby; because they're so dang expensive! The women in my family or I should say a majority of them feel that that's all they're good for-making babies and not keeping house. I may be related and everything but it don't mean that I hold the same belief. The first one was a shocker and the second one we planned. We didn't want our daughter to be without a sister so we made Myra But hey if ppl wanna have kids even when they can't afford it then go for it but u've been warned! Have a good day mylotting friend

I thought you had three children. Shows my memory isn't very good. My paternal grandmother had her last child at the age of 42. I don't think I would want to have children in my forties. Pregnancies are more difficult, and frankly my health is poor and I'm only 31. If I don't have one in my thirties, I certainly don't plan on one in my forties.

I don't understand why your friend asked you this question. But it seems it is not so suitable. I know you have a son and a daughter, and that's already so perfect. I always hope to have two children because one is alone. As you know I can't have one more child just because of the stupid One Child Policy, unless I want to be punished a lot of money for it. I don't want more children, two will be good enough. As they can support each other when they grow up. Parents can't be with the children all the time. One day we will be gone.

hi maximax 8 that is really insensitive of your friend to keep'asking you that and she must not know the dangers in the 40s of having birth damaged children surely.you have a lo ely family and if is what makes you all happy it should be enough for y our friend too.I had only two children and lost one who was brain damagbed at birth when she was 8 years old. I co uld not have more children bu t we had a happy and fun life so family can mean any type of set up as long as all are happy and content.I wonder if your friend wanted more kids and could not have them.

When I was younger, what I had in mind was to have only 2 kids. Coz I believe it would be a lot better to provide them with their needs if whatever I will earn will be only for two kids. But, Now I have 4 boys. I am happy with the number of children that I have. Having more than 2 wasn't the plan but anything coming from God is a blessing.

Oh I have no baby as yet but I think two are fine. When you think your family is complete then she should not ask you again and again. I don't see a reason as to why she has to always ask you this. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

I had no intention of getting pregnant in my 40s either. I had watched other women go through the menopause with teenage children and I decided that I did not want to cope with the menopause and teenage angst. How many children we chose to have is entirely our own business and I don't think that even a close friend should ask you that question more than once.

Deal is un like years past many woman are having kids past 40. Unlike before when no one would have one at 40, I know woman at 45-46 you have had kids with no problems.

I think your friend is just thinking for your 3 years old daughter's concern. Maybe she thinks that your daughter needs another sibling as her playmate because she was not able to play with your disabled son.And maybe she thought the many your off springs are the merrier you are in the family.

I really do not know what makes her ask that question, but I have an opinion. I think your friend wants to have a baby. I have a reason to think this. Anyway, how old is your friend and does she have a family of her own?

Some people are nosy, they do not mean as what they say, maybe, if I am offend you I want to say sorry, she thinks that your upset with son so she keep on asking for another one baby.

I don't know why she keeps on asking you that. I wonder if she has any children herself and actually talks about her own dream when she asks you if you are going to have another baby? Or is she from a large family with many sisters and brothers? Maybe her mental picture of a family is a large family with more than 2 children. My husband and I don't have any children yet. I am 36 now and we plan on having children in the near future. I hope that I will get pregnant when we return from Asia. I would like to have have two children. There are many twins in my husband's family and we sometimes joke about and say that we might get twins as well.

We are a family of four and I think we are happy right this moment. It sounds like though my husband wants to keep making babies until I'm not fertile anymore....... I actually don't mind having more babies but I just don't think I will be mentally and physically able to go through the morning sickness and nauseaous with 2 little ones all by myself since we don't live close to any family. I wish my husband be more thoughtful...

This must be so annoying for you. I don't have any kids (and never wanted a child) but when I got married, aged 42 in 2008, all my friends at the football asked me when we were going to have children! I told them if I would've had any it would've been years ago, not in my 40s thanks. Does this friend of yours have loads of children of her own?

it all depends if you need it go for it,no second thoughts but plan wisely would be the key here