Have you ever felt betrayed?

@leeandrew (1225)
Philippines
October 18, 2012 8:58pm CST
Yes, I did when I was in highschool. There was this one girl (my classmate) who seems aloof to everybody, and so I tried to reach out and indeed we became friends. There was this one time during our test when she asked me to show her my test paper and since we're friends I did showed her mine, but when I asked her to show me her test paper she did not. But since I was quite sure of my answer it did not bother me. But what made me mad, furious, and felt betrayed was... her score as above mine. She copied my correct answer but did not told me about my incorrect ones. Goodness! How could a good friendship blossom with a friend like that. hahaha. Good thing, I don't see her anymore nor her whereabouts. What's with your betrayal experiences?
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@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
I also do not want to make friends with that girl. I think that she is selfish and took advantage of your friendship. Maybe that is why she is a loner. I always felt betrayed whenever my husband would prioritized other things over our marriage because I always put our marriage on top of my list which I think is right.
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
We're actually at the same situation. My husband is the same, he loves being with his biological and family and like he would usually say, he sees nothing wrong with that which is true. But husbands should always know and prioritize the important things and taking everything into consideration. He is married. This is why infidelity is very common nowadays, because married couples do no know how to have a balance view of things that are important in their marriage.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Hahaha. She was very young then, I know she have change a lot now for sure. Mostly when your young you want to be on the top so that your other classmate would envy you. She probably does it to be alone for a reason, she's a girl and she wanted the boys to notice her but when your in highschool you want a jolly joyful friend and probably that's the reason why the boys would not approach her. As for me ... I am both friends with the guys and the girls. I have good times with both parties. I like laughing with the boys but I also love chatting with the girls. ANd I both love hanging out with all of them. It's different though when your married. I get paranoid when hubby is busy with other people. I even get annoyed when he give most of his time to his siblings. I know it's fun to be with siblings than talking about issues with me. Ahh. sometimes it's hard to be the wife co's hubby is so joyful and funny in front of others but very serious when it comes to you.
@agbayani (17)
21 Oct 12
Yes,That's a terreble experienced that i don't want to happened again. Really its hurt, and wondering why???? why?????. He did that to me?. But now i'd already forgive him....
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
WHat?!!! hahahaha. Have you ever felt betrayed in your life? Being betrayed is the most terrible feeling ever. I know how it felt to being betrayed or hurt by a friend specially said something that does not true or have talked behind your back about how being bad you are. WHat I like a friends though is.. whenever someone hurts the other, we are ready enough.. very willing to forgive, actually eve if they don't say sorry, we still forgive. The most painful betrayal ever is when you didn't do anything bad with them or even depended their side and then they turn their back on you that's horrible. I know the feeling happen to me. I though the person was my friend but she talked to her other friend about me as if I don't exist.
• India
19 Oct 12
the experience you have said is quite common dear. because most of the students had faced the same problem. anyway leave it. have you ever face this lady again after this incident
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
No, I was just a teenager then and now I'm a full grown woman with a husband and a daughter. Being betrayed this time is so different compare to being betrayed when I was younger and in highschool. The feeling is far different from the feeling it brought this time. Whenever I remember those times... it's just brought memories back that made me smile and wonder what gotten to those people. But when I get older and was betrayed and remember now... all I could do is sigh and wished the memory did not came back and wished more that those memories will forever gone. I actually wish I would someday bump to this people again co's I never knew where they are now. I know for sure they are mature people too. It would be fun seeing them again.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Anyone can be a subjected to that. Anyone can betray us, an old friend, a relative, or the one we least expect to do that thing, our partners. I have been betrayed for so many times, my fiancee replaces me with a stranger. Initially, I was so devastated but I learned to move on, and accept things through the help of my true friends and relatives. Thanks
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
Awww! Sorry to hear that. I don't know what would I do if the person I trust the most would ditch me and ended up replacing me with someone he just meet. I'll be too be very devastated for quite a time. I would probably would not see our common friends for a while too co's for sure they would remind me of him. Good for you that you move on. He is not worth it, good things you found out that not trustworthy side of him before you get married or else you'll be in deeper devastation when you just find it later. I remember a friend whose boyfriend is too attached to his ex's even though they have other boyfriends already. But the worst thing about it, he did not realized that being good to his ex's he was hurting his girlfriend (my friend). Eventually she said it's with them but he cried and begged and so she agreed to continue the relationship, but then again does the same thing. So frustrating on our part co's we saw how hard was it for her.
@Magz1989 (271)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
well, i also felt betrayed with one of my co-workers though i respected her because she work long enough than me , seniority... though we have an upper boss. She was instructed by our boss to make a letter then she give it to me, telling that i am the one being instructed, so I did do the job. Then, the boss praise him without mentioning me, then that continue to happened...then, one day i forget it for our boss instructed me a detail work specially assigned for me.got busy Then, our boss scold me because my senior told him that i force her to give that job and purposely did not do it because i am jealous with her..no matter how i explain to our boss he did not listen.... Oh my.....i almost snap out....i really felt betrayed..she take advantage on my respect to her...So, if the work is good she got the praise but when its a dump, the blame goes to me.......I did cry that night...hiding the great depression on her..until now...i don't talk to her...
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
I don't like to work with a lady boss. I would rather have a very strict guys boss than a girl. I don't know what is in there with females that we thought we are in competition with people in our gender. It does happen to me too when I was working in a law firm before. My head who is a lady who a little much of herself. We didn't like her, in fact we would like to avoid her if we could. SHe also receive all the praises that the higher boss gives. She too scolded me/us to the max whenever we got it wrong, but she never praises us with the good we did. There was this one time that she appreciate one office mate in front of us but we just don't appreciate what she did co's it seems it was just all a show off. Thanks for the comments :)
• Sri Lanka
19 Oct 12
When I studied a Diploma cause, I gave my term papers to some friends who requested them to get some ideas on how to make such papers. They promised that they don't copy my papers but they have prepared their papers without changing and they were appeared as similar to my ones. As a result of that I have to provide explanations to the authority of the course and marks were reduced and had to resubmit other papers. Many fishes can be seen in the Sea but Selfish-es are everywhere!....
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
It mostly happens to students like you, though it did not happen to me co's when I was in college I'm not that competitive, I always like to have a partner. During my thesis I have this classmate a chinese citizen. It was hard to communicate with her but since she was my partner I did not mind. But it was the hardest time in my studies life. SHe thought I took advantage of her but actually I was felt I was taken advantage by her. So confusing.. we part ways, she told lies to my professor. I wish I never met her. hahaha. Actually what I mean is... I wish things went well that time so that I still have a chinese friend till these days. :))
@anaknitatay (1335)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
I have felt betrayed lots of times particularly with people whom I thought were true friends and that's what hurt the most. this is what I've learned with experiences similar to yours: if they are alone there's probably a good reason for it. best hang back and find out why first.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
hahaha. I like you username "anaknitatay". Yup... whats more painful to bear is the hurts than came from friends or love ones. There can no bitter thing is when they does things that makes you feel hurt. My friends haven't betrayed me like that of others though, but I've been hurt by them, and every time I'm hurt I always cry and distance myself a little but then when I'm okay I talk to them as if nothing happens. I love my friends reason why I try to understand them co's our friendship has been tested by time and situations and they're like siblings to me. I hope things will get better with you. God bless and thanks for commenting. Happy mylotting as well.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
I knew it, I have same experience like this during school days. I also had a friend who acted so sweet and when the exam came, she keep asking me the correct answer and when it's my turn to ask her the right answers to other questions where I am not sure of my answer- she never give me the correct one. So at the end of the day- she ended having a higher score than mine. Since then, I never give her any answers during exam time- she avoided me after.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Hahaha. highschool days is crazy beautiful. It is where we wants to explore everything and we want loads of friends as well. I hated such feeling when I thoughts we're good friends and then one situation came and we're not friends anymore. I hate it too when I gave all my trust knowing I would get her trust in return but when I needed her to stand by my side during trying times she's gone. I have a friend like you that I thought she's my best friend but she treated me bad. I avoided her and somewhat forget her too. Ooh silly highschool life.
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
I believe that everyone is a victim of betrayal, either the person knows and most of the time not. There are a lot of means on what way a person is betrayed. It depends on the severity on how a person betrays you. I could also consider the word betrayal to trust and friendship. If someone you are not close said something bad about you then you don't consider it betrayal. But when a friend said something negative against you there you sould say its betrayal. I have experienced this too. My top most personal experience being feasted by gossipers. It wasn't a good experience but maybe a good one as well teaching me that TRUST is something that you could rely just youself alone. I hope that everyone will get to realize this.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
You are right... trust is earned not acquired. When your get closer to a person the tendency is you give your trust in him or her. It is where the saying " best friends are worst enemies" had been derived from. Your best friend became your worst enemy because your best friends knows almost all the details of your life both your weak and strongest points. You should trust yourself but also trust the goodness of others. It's hard to live alone co's we need friend, may it for short time or for long time... it doesn't matter. What matter is you have someone with you as you walk the this journey called... life. Trust may be broken but it can still be mended.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
I think the worst betrayal that happened to me was when my husband was sneaking behind my back. During those times, I have never though ill about him. Thinking of him with another woman never crossed my mind. I mean, there was no reason for him to do it. Years after, he confessed. And what pained me more is knowing that he did it several times. And even my brother in law connived with him by letting my husband use his car instead of ours. I could't imagine how a man can do such a thing when his wife does everything for him and their family. Although it happened so many years ago before I knew about it, it still hurt me a lot.
@Manasha (2727)
• Pondicherry, India
19 Oct 12
Many times in my life. Since childhood days, I had been experiencing betrayal and hence I am habituated.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
When I was young I used to avoid people that hurts me. I actually became bitter person then, specially with my family. I became super close with friends as if they're my family. But now I realized that my family is the best thing taht ever happen to me second to my friends. I do have loads of people that I want to just bury my memories with them in the deepest sea so that I could never remember them for the rest of my life.
@Tongcv (172)
• China
19 Oct 12
Yes!Once I asked a friend to find room,this friend is known each other a long time,so I believe his ability,a few days later he brought a friend came to me;his friends happen to have a house to sell,take me go and see,I think the house is good,the price is reasonable,but a few days later,I learned that the housing demolition room, I phoned my friend was shut down,not in the original residence moved.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
yes... there are people whom we thought our good friends but is really an opportunist. Not because they are like that we could brand them as bad. We never know what really is the root why the do such things. It's actually easier to get even with this people then call it quits, but if you really have a genuine heart... all you could do is forgive them and wish them well even though they did not do good things to you. I know how you feel. I actually don't know what I would do as well when things like that happens to me. I probably would cry.
• United States
19 Oct 12
Yes I have felt betrayed a few times in my life. The latest one is my own family. My Mom is mad at me for something silly and she refuses to talk to me. She has gone to stay with my daughter in a different city and left me in very hard circumstances as I was living with her. It is very difficult to deal with at this point in my life and I do feel very betrayed and very upset. It is so hard to believe that she would do this to me, knowing the hardship I have to now face.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Ahh! I'm totally sorry for you, having misunderstand with some members in your family is the hardest thing of all, then having situation with your mom made it more harder to bear. How could your mom do such thing, I mean taking your daughter away from you. If my mom in law would do that to my daughter I probably will be filling a suit against her. It would make me a little crazy thinking my daughter is taken away. Oh goodness, I don't even want to think about it. I just hope things gets better with you and your mom and she'll bring back your to daughter to you. After all she's still your mom and nothing could change that. Cheer up sharecuzicare.