marriage without a child..

@estremms (324)
Philippines
October 20, 2012 9:31am CST
what would you do? would you adopt or just accept that only the two of you together till death do you part?
5 responses
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
23 Oct 12
having the child after getting married means nothing but you have your own family. But if there is no child after marriage, may be for any reason, most the parent prefer to adopt the child. But even if this option does not materialize then only husband and wife has to spend their together (There are so many such couples without child are there in society)
@estremms (324)
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
There are indeed and I think they are ok with it.
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
People involved in a marriage like this should consult each other. It must be a decision that will make both of them happy. Some couples do adopt, thinking that it's a way of saving a marriage. But some couples decided to be living just with each other, because they believe that happiness don't only comes in a way of having a child in the family. They believe that for as long as they have each other, they love each other, they respect each other, they are honest with each other and they are happy with each other that will complete their marriage. The reality that there are broken family could somehow show that having a child in a marriage will keep the marriage forever.
@estremms (324)
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
They should accept the fact that without a child doesn't mean their marriage is over and done with.
@GemmaR (8517)
20 Oct 12
I personally want a child very much, so I don't think that I would ever be able to accept the fact that I couldn't have a child. If my partner was unable to have a child then I think that I would have to get a donor because I would much prefer to do this than to adopt. However I would certainly give adoption a go if there was no other way that I could have a child because I know that I want to bring a child into the world and be able to show them a good way to live and allow them to be very healthy and happy in their life.
@estremms (324)
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
I guess when considering adoption you have to have an open mind about it.
@grkelly (1215)
• Malta
20 Oct 12
This is a very difficult question and whenever I think about couples who cannot have a child of their own I feel so sorry for them. Thank God we did not have to go through this situation. However if I were in that position I do not think I would have managed to adopt because I would have wanted the kids to be my own. But I would surely have had some pressure from my husband who would have wanted to adopt for sure. I have a member in my family who are going through this situation and it is a terrible time for the wife especially. They have not decided what to do yet. I also know another couple who have been married for about 15 years who are still without kids and did not want to adopt. It is a difficult situation and i think the decision of whether to adopt or not is affected a great deal by one's character.
@estremms (324)
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
I also know someone who doesn't have a child for more than 20 years now and the husband told me that it's kind of lonely just being the 2 of them but they didn't adopt because they have accepted their situation, yeah you're right it depends upon one's character to adopt or not.
@5mahi05 (666)
• India
20 Oct 12
it depends on both the partners what they think. My opinion would depend on the type of family I'm living in! To be more straight, if I am living in a joint family, then, I wouldn't adopt a kid, i would be happy to bring up the kids of the other family members. If it is only me and my partner, then probably I would be thinking about adopting a kid. We definitely need someone to take care of us with love when we are old. Just in case something happens to one partner, then there should be something or someone for the other one to live for in life.
@estremms (324)
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
yes it is true that there should be something to live for in life not just oneself.