My grandson's best friend just told him he was "BI"...
By bjc66bjc
@bjc66bjc (6730)
United States
October 25, 2012 8:45pm CST
Now my grandson is all upset because he dosen't like that
"kind of stuff" as he says...He is just 13 and is not really
use to this topic...He asked his friend what did he mean.
He told his friend, that he would have to think about what
his friend just told him and he was just so shocked,, so
his friend told him that he needs his support for this.
My grandson told him they would have to talk about this
and his friend said, you are my best friend and I don't want
to lose your friendship...Now this friend is a problem kid
he is the one who fell and popped his head when riding a
skateboard a couple of months ago,,and he told my grandson
he likes a girl and a guy at his school...My grandson told
him he needs to talk to his therapist on saturday...
He said to my grandson he will not be "BI" anymore because
my grandson is his best friend and he will not spoil their
friendship because of this..
I feel so bad for my grandson because he is a not confrontational
kid and he said he just dosen't know what to do..about his
friendship...But honestly i think his friend is just very
confused because he does have a lot of issues and he is even
placed in a school for troubled children because he was kicked
out of the public school middle school...
Justt wanted some feedback of any kind,,,thanks mylotters....
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7 responses
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
26 Oct 12
I think that the best way to it is to let that child talk to his parents and/or doctor about it. It might not be anything serious though, but it would be best that things like this would be sorted out as early as possible. As for your son, I guess as long as his friend is not influencing him into wrong stuff, the friendship would be okay.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
26 Oct 12
Hi choybel, thanks for responding...yes his doctors will have
talk with him on saturday and I hope he brings it up...
As far as my Grandson, not son, he is really not easily influnced
but thanks anyway...I do realize tbat kids that age is still
trying to try new things and as someone else stated still trying
to find themselves but so far so good with him ... we never know\
what tomorrow might bring,,,,
Anyway, I hope everything would turn out okay for them.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
Your grandson's friend is in a confused stage. And if your grandson due value their friendship, I think whether his friend was a BI or not, he should stick with him. There is no law against befriending people with such unusual preferences. I think your grandson will be needing you to help him get through with this friendship.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
12 Nov 12
Jenny, I don't think I ever indicated that it was a law against
being "BI"...but the previous responses did indicate that this
issue have been taken care of...
Since you did not read the previous posting/responding I will
repeat it...My grandson's friend was confused about what "BI"
really is and he just threw it out to my grandson but he
decided it was a mistake because he is not "BI"...he and my
grandson are still friends...
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
28 Oct 12
It sounds like the the friend is very confused, he does not yet know who he is. If he is so willing to give up his love of the boy because of your grandson, then he is not really in love. I think he is just getting the normal adolescent feeling that come up at that age and he has a long way to go to know if he is bi or not.
@Youreyes4Today (2356)
• United States
8 Nov 12
I am happy to see that your grandson did not turn away from his friend. Instead saying he needed to think about it and to talk about it with a therapist.
At this age most children go through these feelings. It could be just a phase this child is going through and is counting on your grandson to stick with him no matter what he chooses as a friend. As a friend that will listen and hear him. Not to be apart of it, but to just be a friend and hear him. I congratulate you and his parents in teaching him to be that gracious to not turn on his friend because he doesn't understand something about his friend that he was told. Thank you...
I have a feeling that just letting him talk it out with you he will be ok. Don't tell him what to do either way. We can't choose our children's friends.. when we start doing that is when they turn on us. I have a feeling that is how you all have taught him in the first place and that is why he has been able to talk to you all already about this. Your doing good in my opinion by not allowing your feelings get in the way.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
12 Nov 12
I have no ill feeling against "BI" people so I don't understand
why you would say I am not good not to let my feeling get in the
way..how on earth would you know my feelings...I appreciate your
responding, but I would never talk against my grandson friend
in any way...but had you read the previous responses you would
have read that this issue has been solved...
the friend stated he didn't really understand what "BI" was...
have a good week....
@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
26 Oct 12
At that age, children`s sexuality is still a mystery. But I think it`s better if this boy talks this over with his parents or with a doctor if he feels he needs it. Why was he "kicked out" of the public school? What did he do?
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
26 Oct 12
Hi Maarguicha, thanks for being concerned,,,he was kicked out
of school beause he just keep bothering girls and saying things
he wasn't suppose to be saying..My grandson had to actually talk
to him several times about things he was doing and some of his
actions...he see a psychiatrist regularly and he is ADHD,,,
@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
Friends can be real if you had shared the ups and downs of their life. You will never leave the person in times of her or his worst moments. Staying without any questions and being loyal whatever happens.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
3 Nov 12
You have to remember that we are talking about 13 year old boys
who's mind will continue to change about a lot of different thing
in their young life...
My grandson's friend has said he is not "BI", he said he really
did not know what it meant...
thanks for responding....
@celticeagle (190011)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Oct 12
This is a confusing subject. I feel for this poor kid. Problem kids are sometimes asking for help in their actions. I hope he will talk to his therapist about it. And I think if I was his friend and he came to me with this I would have told him the same thing. I hope he and your grandson can still be friends because kids like this definitely do need friends.
