i cried once alot because of that love thing - guess it was just a puppy love
By missjahn
@missjahn (4572)
Philippines
October 29, 2012 10:53pm CST
i do not know what to feel (if embarrass or laugh) when i can remember thus moment when i cried so hard as in so hard when i heard that my boyfriend tell to my classmate that he has another girlfriend and that i am just nothing compared to her. it happened during my high school recognition, march month. i really curse and hated my ex. bf for that as i cried with sound and i sobbed with my best friend along. i just cannot control myself not to cry loudly because i was really hurt that time and so as my pride as well.
that thing made me tough but even though, when i am hurt, crying would be my escape and is my friend to relieve the sadness i felt inside.
i know, everyone do cries. kindly share your story what had happened why such thing happened. it is up to you.. thanks :)
13 responses
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
30 Oct 12
Well, I can spend a few words on this topic, but first, let me say that I'm very sorry that you've ever experienced such a thing.
I say a few words on this topic, as I, despite having arrived at the ripe age of 37 years, until now, have never been involved in a romantic relationship. And I think in my case that will never happen, because, at least for now I would plan to stay single forever!
@ravisivan (14082)
• India
30 Oct 12
alberello
it rarely happens as you have said. it may be because of your physical disability. time should come for you to get a partner. good day.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
we need to experience how to be in a relationship to like what you said my friend to relate ourselves to a certain event like this. to love, to be hurt, to be happy, to be contented are the experiences we can go through in a relationship and also failure like what i experienced. anyway, thus thing was happened when i was younger at age when i do not and cannot distinguished genuine from rusty failures. thanks :O)
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
hi,
that was really painful that our partner had a secret affair to other girl,actually it already happened that to me my second boyfriend,i knew it because i caught him in his phone had many messages from that girl,and the only thing i did was to had a broke up with him though its really hard in my part.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
oh what a h_ _k... oh yes, it is better to lose someone rather living with pain and mistrust. it will just break us more. at least when we do the break up, we will just concentrate on the pain of losing someone we love compared in keeping a relationship with so much betrayal. our emotions will be torn to different torments. so good that you broke up with him. there is one person out there whom we can trust and that is good enough or worthy for our love. so thanks for joining here :)
@sriroshan (2584)
• India
30 Oct 12
Whenever we get hurt it is said crying is the best remedy as we omit everything in our cry and our mind become relaxed. Other way is to share your feeling with your best friend.
I understand your feeling in this situation and also know what you must have thought about your BF Keep in mind it is very easy to breaks on feeling or says that he/she does not love but one has to keep other person feeling also.
Be bold in your life and this way you will learn to fight in your life.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
hello there...
i agree with you. sometimes the misconceptions of crying as being referred as being weak is wrong. crying is your diversion to express what you felt and to at least bursting out the pain you felt inside. in crying we can find refuge and our relieving power. yes, i need to stand strong. but anyway, that was just before when so vulnerable as for teenager life and now am a grown woman, so i guess, learn from thus experience. thanks ")
@damanpreetsingh (192)
• India
30 Oct 12
I dont understand why I see this everywhere, Why cant people be plane honest. Forget everything else, there is no honesty. but now even Love! may be people feel is cool to date more than one person. its really really worst thing to ditch some body in Love. all I can say is please dont loose your heart, feel low. have faith, you find perfect guy soon !.. all the best..
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
i do not know either. i guess you are right that some of them find thrill and happiness in bunching lots of fellows at one at a time. yes, you are right, the right person will come along and will faithful at me entirely. just pray to God for guidance.. thanks for joining ;)
@Sindelle (824)
• United States
30 Oct 12
I think almost everyone especially women can admit they've cried over a lost love once. Feelings are very intense and its only natural. I will say though its funny because a lot of times after my tears have dried I look back and say....what was I thinking? He wasn't worth crying over. Lol, and yet I will probably still continue to do this every time I break up with someone.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
yeah and that is the spirit... be brave for no use in crying over a spilled milk. and you are right that sometimes in our lives, we were being betrayed in love to be strong again when there is something like this happened for sure in our lives as we live in time. and even when we say that we will not cry no more, well, that could be wrong because in crying, we can find relieved.
thanks for joining :)
@habibti320 (925)
• United States
25 Nov 12
I would have cried too! Then again, crying is a normal response for me when I feel hurt/frustrated/undervalued.
At least your friend was able to be with you when you were hurting from this experience.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
yes, i am thankful that my friends were there at my side when that thing happened to me. they were supportive and they were my crying shoulders that is why even how hurt i was, it was being lightened for the moral support they gave me. so thanks for joining. it is really nice when you have true friends with you :)
@GemmaR (8517)
•
30 Oct 12
I think that it can be hard when we are younger and when we are trying to work out just what "love" means to us. I felt like this a couple of times during the course of my childhood, and it felt bad at the time, but now I am thinking about it, it turns out that it wouldn't have even come close to the feelings of real love. This is nothing wrong with crying about love, because it means that we are always able to learn things from the way that we felt in the past, and then we are able to change our future based on the things that we have learned.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
thank you for agreeing with me that there is not wrong when we cry because we are hurt in love. it happened because, for now as i think about it, it is really hard to balance things and to make it in order because of our immatureness. i mean even of our ages today, still we do cry if being hurt at least we can control our emotions to cry for those worthy ones and not to senseless reasons and whatsoever. ahmpt, what happened before, those painful, failures should be forgotten and the basis not to experience same thing again, at least, we must be aware if we cannot totally evade from that kind of happenings in life. this would teach us what to do and whatsoever not to be down hardly. so thanks for joining :)
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
Hello, Missjahn! I guess we go through some craziness as such during our younger days. Didn't we feel so devastated over an affection for another that we have mistaken for a real love? 
Those were the days.......
Those were the days.......@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
haha... oh yes agree with you. in our younger years where we do not know what to do and we were so vulnerable. and those were old days. we learn and grow from that hoping to do same mistake again and to fall for another wrong at one more time. thanks jen
@ravisivan (14082)
• India
30 Oct 12
missjahn
you are now in thirties. when you look 20 years /10 years back whatever happened then will appear silly. Once you reach 60 years when you look back thirty years--present time-- all this will appear silly. it is right. it cannot be avoided. experience it.
@pahak627 (5347)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
Yes, I guess the most that you were hurt was because you were compared to another person. I guess every person passed that stage in life wherein we were hurt and that we can not control ourselves. I experienced that several times when I was younger, even in the early years of my marriage, there were times that I cried so much.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
sometimes we need to be hurt to understand that things is not meant for us and that we need to stop hoping and longing for it because it is not ours to have. we should understand that failures were being designed to form us again, to make us tough person and to learn from it. i learned from thus thing but though, i had one relationship which i can consider as failure but at next time around, i tried not to experience same heartache again. so thanks for that
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
30 Oct 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i can understand that it must have been very tough phase for u as your boyfriend ditched u and was flirting with another girl behind your back. I think u should not have cried that way and rather be thankful to God that your eyes were open at the right time and u realized the real face of your boyfriend. Now since u have moved on, stay cheerful all the time and forget about whatever has happened with u in the past.
What say?
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
you are welcome. yes i know that man is a playgirl and i am glad that thing happened to get rid of him. i guess that plan was being made by God. but really cannot help because i was so desperate and helpless why he did it to me like that. it was during my high school life so no worries. anyhow i learned lots of things and i moved on gradually. i have a loving bf and soon to be married next year yeheey thanks for joining here :)
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
sure, i agree with you. we can live without them even we can say that they are our second half partner in life. if that kind of person would be our partner, nah! better to be alone than living life in misery and total frustrations. we are given chances to happy in this world and whatever at stake, ourselves would be the factor to stay mainly gay for whatever reasons at cost.
thanks :O)
@gary23 (425)
• India
30 Oct 12
You cried so much because first of all, you were not his only gf. Secondly and more important,you were compared to someone else and remarked that she was better. All these silly school infatuations occur. Now you might feel laughing at yourself on thinking those.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
right, my pride was hit and hate the idea that he compared me with other girl. but that was just before and if we have a chance to meet somewhere else, i will let him feel and see what he loss. gee, i guess still do not like him even no feelings attached inside of me
thanks for joining ;)
