finally they agree to divorce :(
By maurya83
@maurya83 (923)
India
October 30, 2012 1:19am CST
Its about my friend..they met and got crazy for each-other..after living together for 4-5 years they got married and now this 7 years marriage is going to end..I am just wondering how situations gone wrong to such an extreme. As far as I know the girl she is nice as a person and very-very nice as wife, she is much more calm, cool and patience than me or any other i know..i never saw her complaining or being irritate for anything..she makes the environment pleasant wherever she goes..She struggled a lot on her own for her dreams and still is on the way, whats wrong if she wanted to make her own space and identity..shouldn't her husband support her instead of complaining for being ignored, which she really didn't..He forgot everything she did for him, the moments they spend together, the future dreams they saw together, he just left her for another woman complaining the rubbish things..
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5 responses
@anuraa32 (2446)
• India
24 Feb 13
It is not just the memories that are important. In the 7 years of marraige how much time did they really spend together. I mean just two of them, without any work related stress. Just two of them, having a nice time. The wife is not just for doing housework but she is there as his support, bis friend, his partner. Was she able to do that for him.
And maybe for him his family was more important and for her the career. When this happens in a marraige it is very difficult for the marraige to last. In this situation they have lived together for 7 years is applaudable.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
24 Feb 13
He has no family, she gave him a family, she did a lot for him, as i told earlier in this discussion, he got suspended from his job two times for being involved in some forgery cases..and she never told us about it, she sold all her jewellary and did all possible efforts to get his job back so that he would not feel insecure or frustrate.. there are so many such stories, she never told us about all this her mother told us..
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Oct 12
I think that alot of couples jump too quickly into a commited relationship. THey don't know eachother that well but become intimidate almost immediately and then the next step is a committment. A strong friendship is what helps to make a relationship last. And if there isn't a strong foundation the building is going to topple.
@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Oct 12
Sounds like a real root of the community. Hope she stays away from him.
@lady1993 (27221)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
That is really sad.. but i think it is good for them, especially for the girl. Since the guy even forgot how good the girl was t him. Maybe she will find a better guy. People should really think twice before going into marriage. 
@maurya83 (923)
• India
31 Oct 12
hi lady, we all friends can hope only that she will find a better match for her..I cant say she didn't thought seriously before going into marriage but we all friends have noticed a huge difference between their life-style and thinking and some of us have warned her too..she just trusted him and left alone..
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
I pity your friend. After 7 years she would just be left for another woman.
However, what good will it be if your husband doesn't love you anymore. It's better to just go and live a life of your own, than insisting yourself to someone who doesn't love you anymore.
Just be supportive of your friend, maurya.
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
Well, that's good that she cries. At least when she has finally dried up all her tears, you can ask her to go out with you and other friends to unwind and make her enjoy. 
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
30 Oct 12
Hi maury, its really too bad about your friend...She really
sounds like a lovely person...But you know what they say "the
good guys finish last"...He is probably better off without that
man in her life anyway..Because if he wasn't happy with her
then it was best for him to move on...
I think we as should have someone in our lives who care for us
as much as we care for them.. we deserve all deserve that..
Its just too bad they spent that many years together and it
wasn't a match...
I wish her luck in the future and I am sure there is someone
in this world who will treat her with respect and dignity she
deserves....
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
31 Oct 12
There are times where as you say, life just dosen't happen the
way we always plan or always the wsy we want...
But its the time where we have to make decisions..I would
never call it "bad luck",,ir even "given up_"...I consider
it moving on in life..Just because you stump your toe dose't
mean you will never walk again..you get over that pain and
keep going...
Just because that marriage didn't work dosen't mean that
its a done deal for love and hubby for her...
There is always a tomorrow, always...
@maurya83 (923)
• India
31 Oct 12
Hi bjc, yes good people deserve good in exchange but it does not happens all the time..what they call it bad luck :( She really loved that man, we cant say its good or bad for her future, all we can hope for good but definitely time is going to be tough for her..its not an easy task for a woman to survive being tagged 'given up" in our society ..
