A simple question turns into the battle royal

Oh Ricki I just cannot wrap myhead around your p arents. instead of caring about your health they are nickle and diming you . as he is not working he has the time. I know after a colonoscopy you must have some family member or friend to drive you home as I had w anted to use the access bus and they would not let me do that.I feel for you as you are their child,. your parents seem adysfunctional family to me.thats just not right.

I personally think that's a little messed up they're not willing to help you get to the doctors if they are able. I have two brothers myself and sometimes have noticed my parents treated them a little different then me. They don't see what I see and maybe its unintentional but sometimes its frustrating and hurtful Anyways if you've already spoken your peace and already have tried to address the issue then sadly its probably not going to stop. I personally have just learned to accept it.

Ricki, I think you just need a new family. Seriously, I don't know how you continue to put up with it. If I were you I wouldn't ask them for help for anything and I would avoid using anything that belonged to them or getting involved in anything in the family. Make some good friends and interact with them instead.

It's hard to reason out when parents have said their word. It is as if you can not break whatever rule they have made, right? I know that it could be unfair, but how can we let them know that we are hurting by the way they are treating us without them thinking that we are jealous or envious of their attention over another sibling? I guess, you just need to keep on trying to let them realize that you are not just imagining things. You are also their child that needs them and that at least they should let you feel loved equally as your brother.

911Ricki I am sorry to hear you have these problems at home. It's awfully hard when our close ones do not give the support we need from them. All the best and God Bless..

Gee what did you ever do to them to make them so hateful toward you . All I hear is how they worry about your brother. Is this the brother who your mother was pregnant with when they found out she had cancer? I am thinking they think he is so "special" due to that or maybe cause he's the youngest or maybe he is just their favorite (?!), but who knows and for whatever reason it isn't right. They are not spreading the caring love through the family evenly. I get this here too even as an older adult. My family is also dysfunctional and there have been times when younger and older I wish I had been born into another family. I doubt my brother ever feels like that and for the reason everything seems to revolve around him and always has. I'm the one who gets all the critiques and he gets away with everything. One thing my mother told me is it happens cause I'm another female in the house or because my brother got hollered at alot when he was a kid. Well, uhm how is that my fault?! And what does that have to do with wanting to argue with me so much and causing me to feel like I have ulcers from all the angriness and hatred?! What on earth did that have to do with me, ya know. Some people just are so flipping wrong and flat out dumb in my opinion. I have the type of mother who critiques everything and anything, yet if she detects anyone is critiquing her in any way she flat out starts a flaming war with the person. ( She tried to tell me yesterday I should check the window shade more often cause it wasn't laying right on the window. (so apparently I have peeping toms who try to look in every minute?? Ha. Then I said if I did that I would have OCD. She started going off on a rant about me and ended up talking about someone else I know of (a friend) and her habits --I think she is just losing her mind completely sometimes!! I'm not kidding. You should see and hear her. One of these days I will get it on tape (at least the sound of her voice getting angry because someone told her she was wrong about something and what she is saying on and on and on...) somehow. Just know that you are better than them, you are a wonderful caring person with a heart of gold for animals and once you can get on your own and live without them that is the day they will miss you, and you won't be there to lend them a hand for anything ever again. They never want to help you so what do you have to loose by not having them in your life to give so much to. I really wish you and I both had some better family members sometimes, mine are 'on and off' with it but yours seem to have plenty more issues such as monetary abuse, verbal abuse, and for all we know alot of other kinds of abuse--they just like to abuse anything and everything they can about you. I feel so bad for you.

It seems to me it would be more peaceful and reliable to pay someone else to take you. I would print stuff at the library if it turns into that kind of mess. I suppose they want you to give up your appointments so your brother can take them?

Wow all you need is a ride and they are treating you like that thats awful. If your brother has health problems then he should go to.a doctor as well but whar is going on with his nothing to do with you. I also dont think printing out a few important papers should be a big deal either.

everyone must be incharge of their own health and take proper medicines based on their body conditions,dont feel bad for it

I hate that they treat you this way. I wish you could get out and leave those mean azz people to themselves.

Ricki- sweetheart. I don't know how old you are, but.. I'm thinking that maybe, it's time to see what you can do to get out of there. It's been my experience- and this is just my opinion, mind- but confronting them about it doesn't work. It just makes them defensive, no matter how calm and gentle you are about it. On top of that, the situation doesn't seem to change much, either. I really think this is a case where- even though they are your family- you would likely be better off without them. There are people who are goodfor you, and there are people who are toxic- and your parents and brother seem to fall into the latter category. No matter what you do or what happens, though, I really, really hope things get better for you soon.