Oh my, not again!
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
Philippines
November 3, 2012 6:06pm CST
I think this is plainly wrong. SIL put away her daughter's clothes which are no longer in use because they are to small for the latter.SIL put them in a paper bag, told mom to give them to the helper who works for us twice a week.The tiny clothes are cute for the helper's grandaughter who we often see wearing worn out clothes that are too small for her. Few minutes after SIL left,she reminded mom to give the clothes to the helper as she had promised that she will give the clothes to the helper.
Mom's friend suddenly called in. Mom told her friend,
" Oh, I have something to give you! Pia (my niece) has a lot of outgrown clothes, they are too cute and expensive to be thrown away. I am sure they will look good for your granddaughter." She took the paperbag and gave it to her friend.
Not again mom!
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5 responses
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
4 Nov 12
Perhaps next time you sister in law should give them to the helper on her own instead of trusting a third party. My Sister in law does the same giving her boys clothes to other people. I do with anything that survives our house hold but usually by the time they make it through girlie number 4 they are pretty beat.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
4 Nov 12
When SIL found out, she took some of my niece's not so old clothes and bought new ones in lieu of clothes she has given away . Perhaps, she didn't want to hurt the helper's feelings because she already made a promise.
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@GardenGerty (169449)
• United States
4 Nov 12
To keep peace in the family I would probably agree with SIL that together we would not give mom a chance to be disrespectful but would handle our giving ourselves. I understand that it might be more troublesome, but it would guarantee that what you desire is what actually happens.
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
4 Nov 12
Why did mom do this. Is it because she didn't want to give to the help or to make your sister in law unhappy?
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
4 Nov 12
All I can say is "Why?" did she do that?
It would have gone to good use for the helper who seems like she can't afford good clothes and is working for a living. That's pretty sad to hear, especially when your SIL asked her to do this specifically. 
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
4 Nov 12
Wow...really. I know my daughters would be all over me if I did this..which I wouldn't in the first place. That's a pretty sad attitude your mom has, unfortunately. And yes, she certainly should have respected your SIL's wishes.
It would be different if the person she gave them too was poor, or more poor that the helper. I hope she changes her ways and the way she thinks. I really feel bad for the helper now.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
4 Nov 12
I also didn't expect mom would do this. I asked her the same question but her reply was, "the clothes are too nice to be given away to the helper's granddaughter". Her friend's granddaughter has parents who can buy nice pieces of clothes unlike our helper who only earns a meager salary from doing household chores. What about respect for my SIL?
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@GardenGerty (169449)
• United States
4 Nov 12
It seems as if your mom does not have as much respect and care for the help as you and your sister in law do. I am sorry to hear it, but it seems that you younger ladies may have to get together to make sure that what you want done with your old things actually happens.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
4 Nov 12
I am worried about my mom.She is my mom no matter what. I may not be in favor of the things she does at time but I don't want her to get into trouble with SIL. My SIL might have felt disrespected but she just didn't show it. It could be a beginning of more conflicts.
@ARIES1973 (11944)
• Legaspi, Philippines
4 Nov 12
If you are going something to anybody, perhaps you have to give it by yourself and don't let others do it for you. Especially that your SIL made a promise, it would not be good if she will just tell your helper about what your mom did.
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
4 Nov 12
That's wrong of her. Your SIL trusted her and she knew that, she shouldn't have done one thing like that even if it's just old clothes. Trust is trust. If she can't be trusted with something this "small" how else can she be trusted with something "big"? Anyway, I guess that's one lesson for your SIL. I do wonder if your mom knows that your SIL still did something to give some stuff to the helper.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
That's one thing I want my mom to know. I am just waiting for the right time to tell her.
