What do you & your partner talk about when you have a heart to heart talk?

@bizness (866)
United States
November 6, 2012 4:01pm CST
I know when my husband and I decided to have a 'heart to heart' we usually dicuss issues within the household that need to be addressed right then. Could be finances or upcoming plans. But every so often we just have that heart to heart to just see how we feel about things, how things are going with our jobs, friends, etc.
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@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
6 Nov 12
We usually talk about his family and ours. Well, I always thought that we are not building our own family, but ours is an extension of his family. Most often, I would comment on how his family is taking too much of our time for each other. Whenever they have gatherings, his relatives would always tell me, oh you're not getting any younger, you should be pregnant by now, etc. They would give advice as to how to do it. Then my in laws and other people who lives near our house would say yeah yeah that's what we're telling them. But seriously, we can't even find a good timing for everything. My office is far from our home and so I live so early and arrive home so tired already. Whenever we are in the mood, someone would open the door downstairs and would call my husband. I really think that they don't understand. Before, my husband won't mind at all but yesterday, after my sister in law go directly upstairs and let his child open our room, I saw that my husband was so upset as we're really trying our best to have some time together so we could have a baby the soonest. They really have no idea.
• Philippines
6 Nov 12
Well, am trying to be vocal about my feelings towards them lately. For the past months, my lips are sealed and won't really say anything. But last week after losing something in our room, I really told them how could that happen. Since they are the only people who comes in and out our house, definitely, one of them sneak in our room and took the item. But guess what? I think that they are all mad at me as they think that I am saying that someone from them has stole my things. They say that they don't stay that long in our house and would leave immediately after taking a bath or washing the dishes. That is a big lie. So the next time we are in the mood for something, I would just let our room door open and I won't really care if they see us or what. They should know that they should not be going up in our room like that.
@bizness (866)
• United States
9 Nov 12
Good for you! You have to do what you need to and stand your ground! Hopefully they will get the message and give you the respect you deserve.
@bizness (866)
• United States
6 Nov 12
Well maybe it's time you guys spoke up and said , "hey, we're trying to have some alone time, time together." I don't know if your family, or his, is the type that you could say that too but I think I would at least try. Good luck on having that baby!
@KrauseHome (36449)
• United States
9 Nov 12
Most of the time like you it is usually about bills and finances and trying to figure out things, but there are many times, like you, that we just talk, reminiss and remember.
@bizness (866)
• United States
9 Nov 12
It is so good to know there are so many couples out there that communicate! It is so important to be able to talk to one another and not just about bills, etc., but about how you feel, your dreams, and your future.
@spazz435 (322)
• United States
6 Nov 12
I think the main thing that me and my partner talk about right now is things that we'd like in the future. Like what kind of house we want, how we would discipline and raise our children. Stuff that if it happens unexpected we can be prepared for. We are young and don't have much to worry about right now. We are just preparing ourselves for the things that we will worry about later so that we can be better prepared!
@bizness (866)
• United States
6 Nov 12
That's great! It's good to talk about some things while you are young, that way there are no surprises later on down the road. Sometimes couples get together and they don't talk about what they want out of life and then after they've been together 6 months, a year or more, things come up like whether they want children, their religion, what they expect from marriage, etc., and then they find their significant other doesn't want the same things, which in turn presents many problems.
@Raine38 (12258)
• United States
7 Nov 12
Usually it's about us, what do we feel about something that's going on for us, or on our family, his side and my side. Sometimes we talk about our jobs and our frustrations, our plans and how it would affect our long term plans as a married couple as well as our finances.
@bizness (866)
• United States
9 Nov 12
Outstanding! As I've already stated, that's awesome. Talking, communicating, I believe is the way to a long and happy marriage or relationship.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
6 Nov 12
My husband and I used to have these talks often. problems was he would always say the same thing. That he was going to stop drinking a get a good job. he never did. So I left him. No more heart to heart talks with him.
@bizness (866)
• United States
6 Nov 12
Well it's good you at least tried. I am so sorry things didn't work out for you. I hope things are btter now. And thank you so much for sharing.
• Indonesia
7 Nov 12
In depend situation, If we are in good mood we will talk about romantic thing. Something like How will we go to dinner tonight, or maybe where will we go in weekend to spent our holiday time. But most we talk about something happen that day in office or home.
@bizness (866)
• United States
9 Nov 12
Well the key thing is ...you talk. A lot of couples don't talk at all, leave things in until it festers and becomes a real big issue and then they explode, a huge arguement erupts and then feelings are hurt. It's good to talk about things and not let that happen.