Reaching out

Hmmm, are the intentions of this person honorable or are they just looking for fame on being the good person and getting all the attention for it. I myself, as you, love doing things like that whenever possible. It does make for a good nights sleep too.

It's understandable to think that people would grab the opportunity just for their own gains, but it's very rare to think that someone would "grab the opportunity" to help others. For most people, it's a drag just getting up and opening the door for someone. There are times when I feel very lazy, and just shut the world out and begin a me time. It's not very nice, I know, and I'm trying to change all that. That's why I'm pretty disappointed to know that some people won't even try to change an attitude like that. I hope this person you know change his/her ways.

Personally it bothers me, especially this time of yr. when those who have a lot seem to think they are too good to help others. Even when they know someone close to them might be struggling. In a lot of ways my husbands family is like this, and it really bothers me. But many times they have never had less so they do not know what it feels like til they have been there. But I totally agree you can never go wrong when you continue to reach out.

DUH! For some odd reason, dear friend, I am missing the point of your discussion here...usually I am NOT plagued with dimentia, early a.m., but I did sleep in 'til 5 a.m. (so maybe I am still brain dear)! Am I right, in asking, are you referring to some-one that comes along, and usurps your hard work, and great intentions! Bail me out, here! LOL!

I know a few of those-- people who "help" others, not because it's right but because it make them look like good people. They are very annoying, to me at least. Yes, the person they help benefits--but is it really a benefit, when the "helper" makes their actions known to anyone who will listen, and possible humiliates or hurts the person they "helped"? The highest charity is that which is given in secret. Don't remember which Rabbi said that first, but it's true--the giver gets the benefit of giving, and the receiver gets the help they need, without anyone finding out they needed it or feeling like they have been used, or feeling like they are the object of pity. Luckily, neither my boys nor my other half are like that-- I have a few aunts who are, but I no longer speak to them anyway (for other reasons). If you haven't told this family member what you think yet, then you are a saint in my book--I couldn't keep my mouth shut if someone in my family acted that way

You know what..I think it has to feel different if they are helping someone just to get recognition. They are missing out on how nice it can be to do it just for the good of doing it.