Take Control, Ladies!
By Bluebell18
@Bluebell18 (636)
United States
November 28, 2012 6:10am CST
I like to be in control in my most intimate moments. I have certain moves to put on my bf once we get in the mood. It's a turn-on to most men; being in control and making your mate squirm and become excited. It enhances the pleasure. (The only bad part is he likes to flip me over with his knees and do the same thing.)
My weakness? The nape of my neck. His? The crevice of his spine. Once they hit our control points, ladies, it's a wrap. It's pretty sexy when ladies are in control, don't you think?
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11 responses
@zainirye (36)
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
I'm a very aggressive person, but when it comes to the sack, i admit that i find it very hard to 'take control' because of several reasons:
1. I am not limber, at all. I can't do any twisting or bending and whatnot.
2. I am very self-conscious.. you can also say that I do not think myself sexy in the least.
3. My husband has had a lot of girls before me, and I mean a lot. And that makes me very, very uncomfortable. I keep visualizing how great they are in bed and comparing them to me.
I do my best to please him, but.. seriously I might need help. I don't want him to get tired of me..
@Bluebell18 (636)
• United States
2 Dec 12
Confidence is the most sexiest thing a woman can have, Z. You have confidence, then you have nothing to worry about. My bf had many conquests before me and he's mentioned that I'm the most advanced...
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
28 Nov 12
Actually, my last two partners have been the ones in control. My last partner, Ed, and I were together for seven years. He was the dominate one in bed too-and I liked it. I was comfortable letting someone take charge for a change. My current partner claims that he's dominant, but he waits for me to make a move a lot. I've been working on him to take charge more-what girl doesn't want her man to tantalize her?
@Bluebell18 (636)
• United States
28 Nov 12
It was like that in the beginning for me in my relationship. I waited for my boyfriend to make the move. After a while, he became a bit stagnant and wanted me to initiate some moves. One of my faves is to take his wrists, raise them over his head and pin him to the wall, kissing him enticingly. (I adapted that move from my ex, who knew how to put it on me.) It works like a charm.
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
28 Nov 12
Sure its sexy, women who exert control sexually help take the pressure off of guys because if us guys are smart we will learn from what you guys want. Sexually men are dominant but women can exert sexuality we cannot. The female body is a work of art, it should be studies, viewed and loved for what it is.
@Bluebell18 (636)
• United States
28 Nov 12
Well said, Git. Having control in the bedroom gains confidence in women. Some of us aren't that submissive, but once we have courage (in some cases, liquid courage) sky's the limit and heaven forbid if you want to try something new. I'm always throwing out ideas on how to spice things up with my bf. Recently, I mentioned bringing Fruit Roll-Ups in the mix. (No explanation needed, dude.)
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
29 Nov 12
whoooa sexy.. I am too young for this discussion. I can not relate. Just be happy and be controlling as possible as you can. Wheeee.. I have learned "control" wow.
@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
It depends. If I were in the mood, I will normally take control. But most of the time he's the one initiating and he's being turn on if he's a bit using force on me.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
It's so funny. I can just take control for a few minutes and he will take control most of the time. LOL. I get tired easily too. I'm not good at taking control. I admire ladies in porns. They are amazing!
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
28 Nov 12
I also feel same why women always needs control on everything while spending money, while talking, while wants to complete wish. Why control not needs the man.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
You bet, it's great when ladies are in control.
Ugh, but I have this problem when I regress during kissing and I become helpless and sometimes I become aggressive. I don't understand myself. 
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
28 Nov 12
Sometimes I like to take control. Not always, as I'm not a really controlling person... and I like when my boyfriend is rough... but sometimes it's just good to take control and move in a way that my boyfriend, who, self-admittedly is NOT a moaner, moans because of what I do and how I do it.
@babyeve (1048)
• Seychelles
29 Nov 12
He he I hear so many men out there that want their favorite ladies to take control all the time. We also have got our weaknesses when it comes to us and it a lot of fun when you guys take control as well. For me to take control I will have to be a bit tipsy. :)
