SIL must learn some manners
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
Philippines
December 3, 2012 7:19am CST
Mom is feeling better ever since SIL left the house.Our house is more peaceful than ever.Last week,my mom was in ill health. She had bloody sputum last week.According to the doctor, it was stressed related.If you would read some of my posts, I've written how annoying my SIL was. My SIL was really unnerving that my mom confronted her misbehavior in our house but instead of apologizing,my sister-in-law intentionally continued to annoy my mom with her bad habits like banging the doors,moving noisily around the house even if there were people sleeping,leaving electrical appliances on even when no one's using them,messing up the bathroom ,eating at the dining table and leaving the table all mess up etc. Mom told her to have a little respect for people who were sleeping but SIL just spoke under her breath. She really needs to learn some manners.
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11 responses
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
Oh, my. What a sisiter-in-law you got there... It's good that she left your house already. Is she that young to do all such things? I hope your mom will be okay. Pray for that sister-in-law of yours. I hope she'll learn her lesson one of these days. Her behavior isn't good at all and no one will be happy about it. I hope your brother will see how bad she is and he should lecture her. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
Oh, she's really annoying then. LOL. I thought she was 23 to 25. Haha. She really needs to have some good manners.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
No,not young at all! My brother is 34 and she's 3 years older than he.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
I didn't read your other topic regarding your SIL.
Base from your post, she's acting very odd- for whatever reason that I do not know.
But I guess she should not act that way granting there is misunderstanding in between- at least she should know how to act since she lives with your mom.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
Forgive me,who owns the house? She has not right to complain if her name or her husband is not on the deed. She might just be sharing a roof with you and your family. You know how majority of Filipino families are like.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
Hi Jeanney! The house belongs to my parents. I don't know what's their problem why they don't want to stay in their own house.My brother had their house rented by another family. Honestly, they don't even give a single centavo to share for the expenses. Yes, my dad receives pension but I don't think they should shoulder all the bills since his (my brother's family) is sharing a roof with our parents.
My husband and I also have our own house which is now under construction, with very few touch ups we can move in sooner. We used to rent a house but my mom told us to use my bedroom temporarily. Since my husband is a seaman,he comes here in the Philippines after every eight months but usually when he is on vacation we go to Korea to spend time with my mother-in-law. So, We (my husband and I) hardly stay together in my parents' house.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
Yes, she's such an oddball. I don't know where on earth she came from. She had been protesting because my mom prohibited all of us from using the toilet near the living room instead we could use the other toilet in the kitchen. Because of this, she would make "parinig"(insinuate) especially when my brother is not around. I would love to hit her on the nape when she said, "anu ba yan tagal naman" (what's taking him so long.) under her breath while my father was taking a bath.
@GardenGerty (157873)
• United States
3 Dec 12
Oh my how rude. I know that being under stress is not good for your health. Is the SIL gone permanently? Where did she go. Where is your brother?
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
I guess she,together with her daughter, are staying her parents' house. My brother is staying at my parents' house. Funny!
@marguicha (216369)
• Chile
3 Dec 12
Why was your siter in law living in your house? Is it your mother`s house or your own? I did not read some of your posts so I don`t get the full picture. I hope your mother`s health continues to improve.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
My brother's family live in my parents' house even though they already have their own house which my father technically bought for them. Both of them, I think don't want to live independently.
@marguicha (216369)
• Chile
4 Dec 12
This is when I feel that my being a witch has helped my daughters. They knew that they had to grow up and so they did. It`s a pity that your brother does not want to live independently. Parents do not last forever and one should learn about life before parents get too old or die.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
Wow! Your SIL clearly does not know the word respect. Why would she be acting that way? I mean, she is staying at your house and she acts like a diva?! What does your brother say about it?
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
Well, that is one reason why one should really be leaving the house once he/she gets married. Coz no matter how hard we try to make a very peaceful home, things as such arises unexpectedly.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
She is downright silly. She insinuated " bawal si Pia gumamit ng banyo!" ( Pia is not allowed to use the bathroom) Pia is her daughter.Well, we are ALL not allowed to use the toilet anymore because the septic tank needs to get emptied. She said these words aloud intentionally for me to hear. I was so annoyed so when she left, I spoke to my brother to tell his wife to watch her mouth. My brother just shrugged his shoulders and said that I was so malicious.
To my surprise, when SIL came back to the bedroom, my brother started saying words against me. I didn't expect he would do this to me. It seemed like he was a little boy who found an ally in the person of his wife. Even if he was in the bedroom I could still hear him from the kitchen.He didn't get contented shouting from the bedroom so he went to the kitchen and spoke behind my ears. I was so fired with anger that I shouted to at him and asked him to let his wife get out of the bedroom. And we started bandying words.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
4 Dec 12
I had similar experience but it was at my brothers house where they had called my mom to baby sit his kids so that SIL can complete her graduation.. It was bad that your SIL did not behave.. I think most of them are like this only and they really need to learn some lesson. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead 
@al1979ex (125)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
hi there! my family experienced the same situation as yours before. my mom also versus her sister in law (who is a young adult at that time). so being who she was, we understand her situation that she's like in a rebellious age at that time that's why she is very,very uncooperative and displayed annoying manners. she had respect in a way but it was very annoying to see that she doesnt take into heart all the things mom is telling her.
good thing my mother understands her so rather than giving up or finally push her away of the house, my mom had a plan of her own which we didnt realized in the beginning. she continued to talk to her SIL everytime she wants to, telling her this and that, what she didnt like about her behavior, and what she is seeing on her. so my mom sort of nagging her SIL (yes my mom is very good at nagging) and for about 2 months of everyday nagging to her SIL, the SIL became really quiet for two weeks - annoying things dissappeared and we saw her mostly locking herself in her room. maybe the constant nag sunk into her.
and for another months, few annoying things came back again but this time,mom considered herself won
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
4 Dec 12
I think you are right that she should learn some manners. Especially if your mom has allowed her to stay in her home for whatever the reason was that she was staying there. She should have the courtesy to respect other people's house, no matter what she thought about what your mother was asking of her. But anyways, it is a good thing that she is now gone so now that your mother can have some rest.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
I'd say she needs a little spanking like a child.I don't know how she charmed your brother but I think she needs an attitude make-over. In-laws are so hard and complicated to deal with.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
3 Dec 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, i wonder why your SIL is in this sort? she is in need to take care of your parents, but she is giving a lot of troubles to them. Really it is hard to deal with this kind of persons in the old age, your parents must have more patience to deal with your SIL, hope she will realize her mistake and change her attitude. Anyway she left the house, Hope your mother is happy now
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
Exactly, If she could not take care of her in-laws at least show some consideration. That's why my husband is so surprised with her attitude! I don't think she'll ever change. When I confronted her about her attitude and told her that mom is so sick as a result of stress due to her, she retorted "Good for her!(my mom)"
@Joy2012 (13)
• Germany
4 Dec 12
Unbelievable to hear this story in 21st century!
Now most young people don't want to live with their parents. if your SIL and brother have their own house, they should live indepently. your SIL's action just like a kids and makes you mom annoyed. Maybe she intends to say someting or some misunderstanding inside. so your family should sit together to talk about it.
