Can you fall in love online and that too within two days?

@rockyk (159)
India
December 4, 2012 6:01am CST
I have a friend who met this guy online. They exchanged photos and then chatted for about 2-3 days. Well, these were long chats as my friend puts it. And now she says she is in love! And that's not all. The guy she is chatting with also says he is "falling for her". Is this real? Can someone really fall in love on the Net and that too within 2 days? Have you or someone else fallen in love like this and has been successful in forming a lasting real relationship?
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• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Dec 12
I think that is really fast. My husband and I met online and fell in love after 2 months and most people thought that was fast. Too bad they were wrong because we have been married for 8 years now. But 2-3 days, wow thats fast!
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• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Dec 12
My husband told me he loved me 2 months after we started talking. He told me he knew I was the one he would marry. I told him I loved him about 5 months after being together. After we talked online he came to my state to be with me after 2 months of talking. We lived together, he proposed to me a month after he came here and we married a year later. Been together ever since! =) Sometimes it takes longer than other times. We were quick about things because we already knew we were meant to be but other people take years to know that. It just depends on the people and their feelings. But I would recommend at least a couple months of getting to know the person before making any drastic decisions...We also lived together so we got to know each other quick because we were together every single day in the same house.
@rockyk (159)
• India
6 Dec 12
Yes, that is exactly what I wanted my friend to do. Maybe they both know, just like you, that they are meant to be together. But, to be sure, they should still take some time to get to know each other and then proceed. Thanks for sharing your story with all of us!
@rockyk (159)
• India
5 Dec 12
That shows that online love is possible and love at first sight is possible too. But I guess both of you gave some time in knowing each other before actually declaring your love for each other, right? So, it does take time. I am just trying to tell my friend that she should also take it slow. I hope she listens.
@Danzylop (1120)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
It is personal mindset. You can't blame the person for being inlove with his chatmate. Maybe he have found a person who is really good looking or really caring.
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@Danzylop (1120)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
There are much kinds of love right? regardless if its gonna last longer or not, it is still possible to be inloved.
@rockyk (159)
• India
6 Dec 12
You are right. Well, the good news is that my friend has agreed to take it slow. Spend more time getting to know the guy before actually taking a drastic step such as marriage. That's what I was more scared of. I did not want her to rush into things, that's all. Thanks for sharing!
@rockyk (159)
• India
5 Dec 12
Well, I surely hope so, Danzylop. But I have my doubts. It is too soon for someone to confess their love for each other. Shouldn't they wait and get to know each other more before they declare their love?
• China
4 Dec 12
I do not believe online love, but I believe falling in love at the first sight, I met my wife on a travel bus for the first time, and we believe got married and deeply love each other. but its quite different from online love.
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@rockyk (159)
• India
5 Dec 12
Well, that's a very sweet story. At least we know that love at first sight does exist and can be successful. But you must have spent a lot of time getting to know each other, right? How much time did it take you to realize that you really love each other and get married?
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
5 Dec 12
Your friend should get a web cam and speak to him. Then they can really talk and see each other face to face. They will also get to know each other much better this way. 2 days to fall in love over the internet with someone who could very well be lying to you just because you can't see their face, seems a bit far fetched. If they had met each other in person, I'd believe it could happen because it has happened before.
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@rockyk (159)
• India
5 Dec 12
I will suggest they use a webcam. The guy is definitely not a scamster. This is something even I know. He is known to a common friend that both me and friend know. But yes, the webcam idea is good. It will help encourage a real interaction.
@Danzylop (1120)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
I dont see anything wrong about falling in love with someone regardles of time. It is their behavior and the reasons behind their actions is their business. A lot of people fall in love just through the internet. Some even get to become married after meeting someone by yahoo or any social networking site.
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@rockyk (159)
• India
5 Dec 12
I can see that from the many comments posted. Love is possible like that. But still don't you think that a little more time should be given to get to know each other?
@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
hi rocky, thanks for sharing your friends story. Basically, it can be happen however, it definitely requires evident justification to prove the veracity of such love affair which is swiftly formed. The gravity of basis and the intimate feelings should be measured otherwise to finally arrived the conclusion of reality whether or not the person whom involved in a certain relationship were both reciprocated their love.
@rockyk (159)
• India
5 Dec 12
Well, I think once reality hits, thinks may just change for her and the guy too. They are just moving too fast in my opinion to actually say they love each other. I think more they chat, the more they will get to know each other. I hope this guy is the one for my friend but you never know. Time will tell I guess.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
15 Dec 12
Well, I truly believe that anything is possible. People can actually fall in Love from meeting anywhere, but in reality, until 2 people really get a chance to meet in person, how can they really know? But I know there are people who have met in weird ways and marry and are Happy, so you never know. When it is meant to last, it will.
@rockyk (159)
• India
16 Dec 12
Yes, I agree. They haven't met yet. And now it's been a couple of weeks since they have known each other. They are talking to each other and taking it slow thankfully. Hopefully, it will turn into love, the real thing.
@victorywp (3524)
• United States
2 Mar 13
hi rockyk, i think this depends on both of the individuals. it could be a real and lasting relationship or it may not. if either of the party is not serious for a relationship and just merely looking for fun or having some bad intentions in mind, it will definitely won't work. nowadays, as we can read from the news, we won't know whether the other party is serious or not. and many has been hurt emotionally or physically because of this type of online relationship. however, we can't say that online relationship won't work because there were success relationships from this too, just that if compared, the success rate is much lower.
@rockyk (159)
• India
2 Mar 13
Very useful advice! I completely agree with you that online relationships are indeed tricky. One should not trust someone blindly with their money or their love on the person at the other end. It is always a good idea to get to know the person in real before actually entrusting your love in him or her. But yes, that is not to say that online relationships will not work. They will but you just need to exercise some caution in it. Meet the person in real and then take it to next level.
@angelsmummy (1696)
4 Dec 12
Hmmm.... I'd be very sceptical to be honest, that's too soon, even in person to fall in love that quick, she may have fallen in lust, alot of people that haven't felt proper love mistake lust for love, I have been one of them. She doesn't even know this guy is who he says he is. I think she may be more in love with the idea of this guy and the idea of being in over.
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@rockyk (159)
• India
4 Dec 12
Well, that is very interesting. I think you nailed the point here. She does seem to be more in love with the idea of this guy rather than the guy itself. But you know, she just is not getting it. And she is mature woman, not a teenager. I don't know what's taken her over. I have never seen her like this. Again, I am not sure how to draw some sense into her.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
4 Dec 12
I must say that is a bit fast. I don't think that it is possible to fall in love so quickly. Maybe in a matter of time after the other gets to know each other and maybe after a couple of meetings. Have they met in person? I don't think that it is possible. I mean maybe her feelings towards him is true, but I think that maybe 9 times out of 10 the guy might just be stringing her along and be using her for what, I have no idea or I have an idea and rather not mention. But if the guy is falling in love with her that quickly, in my opinion, he is not really true about his feelings and is using her. I have been in this situation once and it never worked out yeah, my feelings were true, but his on the other hand were untrue. I would just advise your friend to be careful and don't believe this guy, until after a couple of meetings with him in person one day when she is comfortable and after a few times of spending time with him. But to answer your question, no I don't think that you can fall in love with someone in a matter of 2 or 3 days from the internet especially if you hadn't met him and are only going off of chats and a picture that could very well be fake, that has been shared between the two of them.
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@rockyk (159)
• India
5 Dec 12
Well, the person isn't fake that's for sure. He is known to a friend that both of us know. But yes, the feelings are quite strange. I will try and advise her to take it slow I guess. He is in a different city, but I think the more they interact even through chat or phone, they will learn a lot about each other. I am hoping for the best here but I also don't want her to get hurt.
4 Dec 12
I dont think it is possible to fall in love in a very short period of time. even couples who have been living together still find themselves incompatible sometimes in later years. Being inlove means you accept all the good and bad qulities off a person. It is not only based on physical atttaction and it can be developed or weaken the more you know a person.
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@rockyk (159)
• India
5 Dec 12
Yes, thanks for the suggestion. I will try and tell her that being in love means you accept all the good as well as bad qualities. I think at this moment she has seen everything that is good about the person. Right now, nothing is bad. So, more interactions will show the bad side of the person also and then let's see what happens.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
4 Dec 12
It can happen, not impossible at all. But maybe before concluding that they're inlove, they evaluate first.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
4 Dec 12
Just let them be. Let them learn their lessons. You cannot take control of what's happening although your advice can enlighten them up.
@rockyk (159)
• India
5 Dec 12
I guess you are right. But being a friend, I just feel a little scared for her. I don't want her to get hurt or disappointed in love. But yes, I guess there isn't much that you can do here, can you. I think I will let them learn their lesson. I hope it won't break my friend's heart though.
@rockyk (159)
• India
4 Dec 12
So, you think it can happen? I think it is more of an attraction. It may develop into love. Quite possible. And you are right, they should evaluate first. But I don't think they are listening to anyone right now. What can I do here?
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
Maybe they are really in love with each other or maybe they are just inlove with the concept of falling in love. Love has many different style. This story might be one of the extraordinaire love story. No reason for me to doubt what they are saying. Time still moving and it is the one who will test their love.
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@rockyk (159)
• India
5 Dec 12
True, the idea of falling in love could be it. I also hope it turns into one of those extraordinaire love story but as of now I am advising her to be careful. I guess time will surely tell what happens.
@betty1989 (751)
• China
4 Dec 12
It just happened like in the movie. It is too fast. I cannot believe that is true love since they do not know each other in detailed. They just happened to have same topics and can kep talking to each other. This kind of relationship cannot last long.
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@rockyk (159)
• India
4 Dec 12
That's what I was telling my friend. But she is like totally lost in love. She just won't believe that this can't be love. She says they are "so on the same frequency". It has to be love! I don't about it. She is a good friend and I don't want her to get hurt or fall for the wrong guy, that's all. Online dating is anyway, I have heard quite dangerous. But I don't know how to draw any sense into her.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
12 Dec 12
It's like I say about most instances about people "falling in love"...some people who are not very mature, fall in love with the IDEA of being in love. They totally don't know about someone and yet they want so much to be in love that the first candidate that comes along is "THE ONE " Two days on line? That's just silly.
@rockyk (159)
• India
16 Dec 12
I agree with you. Sometimes, people fall in love with the idea of being in love. Thankfully, my friend has understood what I was trying to tell her and she is taking it slow. She is still talking to this guy and seems like things are going fine. But they are not rushing into it. Thanks for taking part in the discussion.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
6 Dec 12
Sound kinda quick to me , and it may be a pervert looking fro someone to traffic. I think its possible to fall in love online , I am sure of that but i dont think knowing someone for only 2 days online could be love .
@rockyk (159)
• India
7 Dec 12
I can say one thing. This guy is no pervert because he is known to us indirectly through a common friend. My friend just hasn't met him that's all. But yes, you are correct. It is too quick to fall in love with someone, especially someone who you haven't met. Well, she is taking it slow now. Managed to instill some common sense into her head. I do hope it turns into love but I know right now it isn't.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• United States
9 Dec 12
I do believe that it can happen but there are questions that remain. Anyone can fall in love, but how long is it going to last will be the real question. I met someone special in my life this way... Fell hard, fell fast. We've been through some really rough times and crazy s**t. We have a relationship that many people have openly stated that they are jealous of. No, we don't always get along perfectly. There are times when we get angry and barely speak for a couple of days. There have been times when we have hurt each other. But we never push each other away physically and we never end a day without saying "I love you." Period. No exceptions. We were engaged very early on in our relationship and we made the vow that divorce or just up and walking away will only be an option when it will better the lives of our daughters. We *HAVE* to learn to communicate. We *HAVE* to learn how to handle conflict. We *HAVE* to learn to work together. And that's how we've made it work. (-;
@rockyk (159)
• India
10 Dec 12
Thanks for sharing your story. It indeed is lovely. As you said, I guess it is definitely possible to fall in love so fast. I can see my friend did. But as you said there are questions that remain. Well, two weeks and the relationship is going on OK. So, hopefully this is going to last forever like your wonderful relationship. Hoping for the best!
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
6 Dec 12
I would doubt it. That's too quick, and too rash. I wager they are simply infatuated. If they get together, it will end as quickly as it started, only both will end up hurt. Bad plan.
@rockyk (159)
• India
6 Dec 12
I know it is too quick. But I am still hoping that it does turn into love for my friend's sake. It is probably infatuation at this stage but it could turn into love. Anyway, my friend has understood my point and says she will take it a little slow from now on. Thanks for sharing!
• Indonesia
5 Dec 12
I don't know for other people, but for myself I doubt I could fall in love within two days whether in online world or in real life. Maybe it's just crush or infatuation but love is a different story. Maybe it's a love for love itself, but not love to the person. You know, like when you talk to this person and then you feel that this person is easy to talk to and you feel comfortable to talk to this person, then your mind begin to think that you have fallen in love with this person, perhaps that's what she feels. I can't say it's real or not for your friend to fall in love with a person she just know through internet she is the one who knows her feeling, it just a beginning and there might be a chance to further the relationship by getting to know more about each other. Just take everything slowly & get to know each other, meanwhile don't have too much expectation to the guy in case in reality he is far different than what your friend's imagine about him and love.
@rockyk (159)
• India
6 Dec 12
Well, thanks for sharing your comments. I agree it is probably an infatuation. It may turn into love. You know I actually showed all these wonderful comments to my friend and guess what it helped. She now thinks that she should take it slow and get to know the person before actually deciding that it is love indeed. So, my purpose is definitely solved here. I was just worried about her and did not know what to say. Comments coming from all the mylotters out here has surely helped.
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@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
I think that is not really a love. That was too fast to feel. I think that was just an infatuation. They must know each other first. I think it is better if they should meet first personally. And it is safer if we talk to a person with their presence and that in webcam only or through phone.
@rockyk (159)
• India
5 Dec 12
Even I feel that it is infatuation. They probably just hit it off too well and have mistaken it for love. I believe that love takes time to develop. I just hope they don't end up doing anything rash like getting married! It's too soon.