i dont know what to do i dont love her but want her

United States
December 7, 2012 4:50am CST
im moved to a small town and met this girl she was a ear older and man she would put you in your place she was a b from hell if you made her but other than that her smile would brighten the day and her eyes drew you in like a like girls at a justin biber concert long story short everything was great we where do to get married and and a kd on the way damiand hunter and one day she comes home for work lies down in the other room instead of comeing to bed with me. i had walked out and asked her what was going on because i had stayed awake to make sure she made it home safe and we could go to bed together as a family and she roled over told me to go away and leave her alone and i asked what i had did or what i had said to upset her she told me nothing well i dint belive her she just got home wont lay in bed wont talk to me somethings up next thing i know she has our car our apt and sent me to the street made me loose my jb but for the last 3 months i have sat here and thought what or why this happened and i still dont know she has recently got with another guy and told me i was never aloud to be my son what do i do what do i say i dont think i love her but i know my life is stuck where its at till i figure this out!
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12 responses
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
well, i am not sure if i get you right. so you do not know what's happening with her. that is really frustrating if that is the case. when we have someone whom we really care, and she does not care whether we care or not. you are in quite a difficult situation. what i do if i were in your shoes, i would prepare a good meal and invite her to join you. then you start sharing your story of what happened in the last week. make her feel that she needs to reciprocate your story.
• United States
7 Dec 12
thanks i tried the homade dinner roses and her favorite chocalte and she took it all and left iv been stuck here for 3 months im ready to move on or fix it just dont know how she the mother of my child i think thats why its so hard to walk away
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• United States
7 Dec 12
if i miss spell sorry horrible dilecsia pr how ever you spell it
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• United States
7 Dec 12
i dnt know im in a dark state in my life right now im tired of being walked on i do so much for everyone and i still have bad luck i had a nice job i was one of three ppl that got laid off out of like 500 i was the newest but still just my luck my mom wants me to go see a cycatrist but i want to see if i can open up to the space if it will give me answers back
@cobalt20 (1318)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
I am quit confuse of your situation. If she loves another, you can find another girl. Do not waste your time until you get nothing. There are many girls will love you. Isn't it?
• Malaysia
8 Dec 12
Well, i think he should have a nice talk with the girl about their feelings before things got more confusing and they both would regret.
• United States
8 Dec 12
dude i cant even get her to text me back answer the phone nothing she will not speak to me at all and shhe said i wont get to see my son.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
8 Dec 12
She sounds like a real winner . From what I gather she also has another man anyway? Obviously she's not having the same confusion. Just because someone gives birth to your child does not mean you HAVE to be with them. .People think they are doing the kid a favor by staying in a loveless relationship, but it really causes harm. I hope you plan to take her to court if she wants to play that game about not letting you see your son. I don't know what she's thinking by doing that, but its not fair to the child.
• United States
8 Dec 12
thanks. and yes she has another man and loves to rub it in my face but anyways i plan to take her to court yes and yeah i really want to move on but there is one thing holding me tere and i just cant figure it out
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
You might be feeling obligated to have her because she is your ticket to have your son. Maybe you could talk things out and come up with a better solution with your problem. If she has really given up on you, then it is really time to give up, too. Just tell her that she needs to give you rights to see your son and be with him.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
I just hope she would allow you to have some time with your son if you feel like being with him.
• United States
8 Dec 12
this one makes alot of sence and no she has givein up completely like i dont even know what went wrong or nothing just woke up to cyco pregnant fiance
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
You still love her after all that???
@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
8 Dec 12
Well, i think it's the best to think this deep before doing anything you would regret. First, maybe have a talk with her about yours and her feelings to get things straight. Then, you could maybe decide to love or like her.
• United States
8 Dec 12
all together from everyones inquery i have a feeling she cheated and the kid aint mine and she just cant build the guts to tell me after i suported her and the baby for the first 3 months
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
Oh, your situation isn't easy. I hope she'll let you see your son. He is your son so you have the right to see him. Who is she not to allow you? She sent you to the street, had your car and your apartment. I don't know what's her problem but your problem is the custody of your don. Just fight for your right and forget all about her. Don't waste your time figuring things out. You don't love her and maybe she also doesn't love you. I guess both of you or she alone doesn't like to stay in one house without love. Goodluck. I hope you'll be able to move on and see your son.
8 Dec 12
Even i am also stuck-up with this
@Shavkat (137213)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
If you love her plus the character, then go for it. You need to reflect and test yourself if she is really what you want. If not, then let it go.
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
Can't connect much but the way i understand it , the girl is not faithful to you ? is that the way ? Then if she play around despite you being faithful to her then she is not worthy to be your partner , Find someone whom you can give your pure love. Gets ? Cheers !
• India
8 Dec 12
Hi soulstriken. Well that is sad. I can understand that you were in love and were not able to see things clearly but then where were your friends all this time? Didn't they warn you? Anyways I think you should play smart instead of going aggressively for revenge. And before you must assess whether you want to work on improving your situation or do you want to get back to her?? Anyways have a nice day and I hope that justice will be done in your case. =SuperShames=
@Rigel4 (47)
• United States
8 Dec 12
This is called 'lust.' If you don't love her, then just f**k her. It's all good, bro.