Is it love, if your partner asked you to be slim?

If he really loved you he would love you just the way you are. Don't let anyone dictate how you should look or what you do. Your a grown woman and know how to take care of yourself. Good Luck!

I was never told but I would love to be told by my hubby only so I can exercise an keep sexy for him. I kinda don't like him tellin me sexy cus I get so lazy going to out gym room and exercise haha

Well, I would suggest it but not really force it unless I see that it is truly necessary. We would do things to impress our partners and sometimes it requires sacrifices, but I would really require my girlfriend to go through a lot just to be slim if she feels uncomfortable with the process. I know I love her when she was slim, and she did gain weight and had a slight change of figure, but I don't really notice that. I would be more concern if she was not feeling well and showing symptoms of it like coughing or having a raspy voice.

If he married you or is with you and you were big then then it is just his vanity. If he is concerned for your health I think you would be able to tell. Men are attracted to certain body types, hair color, etc. If you don't meet that criteria you should know and move on.

I think it would be a insult I a man asked a women to do that. A man should love a women no matter what she looks like they had to have lived the way she looked when they got together. Now on the other hand. Lets say that the women went to the doctor and there was medical reasons and the doctor told the women that she needed to loss some weight or something like that. Then I can see a man being ok with doing something like that being concerned with the women's well being. Then that would be fine.

Maybe yes, maybe no. Maybe he really loves and be hurt to see when there's someone laughing at you. Or maybe he doesn't love you, just obsessed with women who are sexy. But if your ok with slimming down and it's ok for your health and you have all the chances to make it work, then why not, it can also boost your self esteem. But if you don't like the idea and you're just forced because this is how your boyfriend want you to look then stop it.

Well I would just of it as concerned for your welfare if he thinks your looking a bit fat already. But of course you would think there is an ulterior motive behind it. I think it is a double edged sword when your partner asked you to do this, maybe he is a health buff and would like you to be leaner than where you are right now.

this is just my opinion for myself. if a man dosen't like me the way i am, then he dosen't love me. Your physical appearance is just one aspect of being a woman. you have your brains, personality, and self worth along with this. i would not please him if he only is concerned about my body. what happens as you get older and weight comes, will he leave. this is your decision and just my opinion.

The first thing to ask him would be whether is he concerned about his girlfriend's health or just for his own selfish reasons. If it is for the latter, then probably it is not real love then because the boy is not accepting the girlfriend for who she is. As for myself, being a guy, I doesn't mind what sort of body size my girlfriend has. But personally, I would prefer a girl who is not too thin/slim and not too overweight either. And being in the health line, if my girlfriend has a figure-of-8 body, I think it is my duty to advise her to slim down!

I would think it would depend on how big the girl is. If blood pressure comes up in the conversation, then I think he is concerned about her health. That sounds like love.

I think that it becomes an obsession if a man would require his partner to slim down into something like a size 0. But I do think that if a partner reminds his partner to stay healthy, that would be a different thing.

Maybe you can do it,that is beautiful for you!

Well, it depends. Being slim equates you to a good health but forcing you to have a slim figure is not a good way. If you really love a person, you must accept whatever his/her appearance.

It's insulting ,if your boyfriend asking you to figure your body . If he really loves you then he accept who really you are . But if your husband asking that it's good and nice to hear because he just love you, he also concern for your health.. And it's for your own good..

I think that for health reasons is a good idea to be slim ,but it always depends on your body frame. It should be your decision and not the decision of your boyfriend. Your boyfriend should accept you and love you just the way you are.

If he said it in earnest, I`d give him a piece of my mind and then say bye bye. But if he said it in a festive way, I`d say I`m looking for a Terminator resembling specimen

The word 'insist' is a real turnoff for me, it is a controlling and very self centered type of thing. I would not want to be in a relationship with someone insisting I do anything that seems to be for their own benefit in some way. It's as if they are just using you for something. The man should accept the person he is supposedly in love with for what they are. They feel in love with the person not the body weight.

So if attraction isn’t based on physical appearance, what is it about? It’s about essence. It’s about the person you see when all pretenses fade away. It’s about the light that emanates from his eyes or the radiance of her smile. It’s about seeing soul instead of personality, the sustaining beauty of true nature instead of the fleeting beauty of a pretty face. It’s about what draws you to your partner, what connects you, what makes you say “yes” to him or her and no to everyone else. It’s about that place that feels like home, when you can sit next to each other immersed in engaging conversation or content in comfortable silence.

Id say no.. of course most want to have their mates happy with them. So they do it.

There is nothing wrong with just telling once or twice about it.But making an issue every now and then is clearly a no no. Talk to your partner.Ask why he/she asks you to change.Love is compromise. but you should also try a little bit from your side. You wouldn't want someone who is unhealthy and shabby for example!! Work it out.