I dislike fake people.....
By trisha27
@trisha27 (3494)
United States
December 18, 2012 4:34pm CST
I guess that is a major pet peeve of mine. When people are fake to me or just to other people. You know the type, they smile in your face and then when you turn your back they talk about you behind your back. Saying bad things about you and saying ugh she is such a horrible friend.
There is a girl that I work with, I thought we were friends and I just know that she is being fake. I know once I leave my job, I will not keep in contact with her. Anyways, I have been nothing but nice to her. I've given her rides when she needed it. As she doesn't have a car and she shouldn't be walking home late at night, not asking for gas money (all though I should have as it was out of my way). And I've basically done nothing more then just be a friend to her. Gone and hung out with her at the mall and everything. Now I hear that she says nothing but bad things about me. She says oh, she's such a flake (okay if someone could please explain to me what she means by that I don't understand). She makes me believe that she wants to be my friend, but then she goes and says she's so stupid why don't she leave me alone and get out of my life. Yet she is the one that is always asking me to go do things with her and asking to take her home when she needs a ride.
When I come to work she's all hi friend or hi stranger. And she's all friendly. I really dislike fake people. Okay seriously if you don't want to be my friend any more, then just say so. You won't hurt my feelings. Don't be fake to me.
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@celticeagle (190011)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Dec 12
I think we all go through the experience of these types of people when we are young and rather unexperienced in life. I learned that setting up healthy boundaries is very important. Sure it is nice of you to give a co-worker a ride but I would also tell them if there is a next time I would have to ask for gas money. And follow through if she asked you again. And it is one thing to offer a ride ONCE but not all the time too or you become a mark. ANd if she is a true friend she will be there for you as well when you need something. There are fake people in the world. And I have found that you find alot of them in the work place. When it comes to work people will stab you in the back so fast it isn't even funny. People at work will be friendly to your face and then stab you in the back with negative things said to others about you. I have gotten to where I can tell a fake person like this a mile away. I would be careful if I were you.
@celticeagle (190011)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Dec 12
It's a live and learn situation. You know now and you move on.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
19 Dec 12
You're right, a lot of people kept saying it isn't right she don't offer you money cause its out of my way. And I should have started asking for gas money but I didn't. From now I am going to be more careful and let this be something I can learn from next time it happens.
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@shanstate (2)
• Canada
20 Dec 12
I think since you already know where she is at - as you say a fake - accept it and let her be one. She is the one who is unfortunately pitiful but likeliness is she does not know how to behave any better otherwise she would be. I think your the one who is gaining by being the generous person you are because people like her will come and go in your life - there is never a short supply of this kind of human behavior. Donèt take it personally and even give it a chuckle for the little, silly, and pathetic rascal that she is behaving like. Give yourself a pat on the back and dont try to change her because you have a lot better things to do with your time. As for slandering your name - I would tell her directly to stop and that will scare her into shutting up if she is smart. She will move on to slandering someone else as she probably cant help herself - this is a learned behavior she has acquired since shildhood in order to survive. It really is sad but be grateful that you have better coping skills and hope I hope one day she will grow out of it - for her sake - or she may end up being a very lonely person! Hope this helps you see things in a different perspective!
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
20 Dec 12
Thanks for your comment, I do now see it in a different perspective and I really hope that she changes otherwise, either someone will do it to her or like you said she will be a lonely person. Sorry for her. But I will no longer be around to help her out so, unfortunately she'll have to find someone else. I've decided to replace calling her fake with plastic, that is my new term. 
@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
19 Dec 12
She sounds totally two-faced, I can't bear to be around a person like that, how do you know where you stand with her? if she's going to be nice one minute then stabbing you in the back in another. She obviously has a few problems, but why should she take them out on you. When you have been anything else but nice to her. She doesn't deserve your warmth and generosity. She needs to take a good long hard look at herself, trouble is these kind of people deny they have problems. With friends like her who needs enemies!
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
20 Dec 12
You are right with everything that you just said. And that's what I was thinking is that she's all nice in my face but I'm sure she's talking about me and probably right now even as I type. She is two faced and that is another type of person that I don't like two faced people.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
19 Dec 12
She sound like a real fake , hope one day she will experience it for herself . I hate people like that , and I also have to deal with some like that on a daily basic . I know the type too good , smile and rainbows when they see you and behind your back its another story .
I agree with you , i would not keep in contact with her after you leave that work.
@rog0322 (2828)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
19 Dec 12
Hi,
We call them plastics here. People who smile at you and say bad things as your back is turned. I can tell by the way they smile at me or by the way they talk about other people. The least I can do is to respond in kind, being nice up front and being nasty when their backs are turned. The worse thing can be is when they come crawling back asking for assistance and that would be the time that my smile would be most costly.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
20 Dec 12
Ha!
I love that phrase plastics. I think I'll start using that instead of fake. And that is my new nick name for her the plastic. 
Maybe for these last few days I'll put on my fake smile
But I'm not doing any more nice things for her. Not any more. I wish I could tell though she was fake from the beginning, but I try to give all people the benefit of the doubt. Maybe I should stop doing that.
I love that phrase plastics. I think I'll start using that instead of fake. And that is my new nick name for her the plastic. Maybe for these last few days I'll put on my fake smile But I'm not doing any more nice things for her. Not any more. I wish I could tell though she was fake from the beginning, but I try to give all people the benefit of the doubt. Maybe I should stop doing that.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
19 Dec 12
Well this friend of you really can not be called a "friend",and I keep the some opinion with you,I do not like the fake people at all,and I think what we need to do is just ignore this kind of people.
@chiwasaki (4695)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
I have been to your situation before. But it is not like this person is saying bad things about me but she is just claiming that we are a bad influence to her. I am a bit offended with what she is trying to tell to other people but one my friend got really annoyed with her. She even confronted the girl and that makes her stop. I think this kind of people really exist and it is really sad if they are twisting what heppenned and making up lies.
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Dec 12
I'm sorry, I hate being used and I hate fake people like that. I am pretty sure you already know why she was nice to you... You have something that has made her life easier therefore she will use and abuse you until you leave that job. I have seen too many people like this and I cannot stand it! If you don't like someone stay away from them... Its that easy. Why people have to be fake is beyond me!
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
19 Dec 12
I totally agree, people are not going to hurt my feelings if you say straight out hey I don't like you. Okay great. But yeah I saw that she used me for rides and because I never charged her for gas. Well, once I'm gone, she won't have anyone to give her rides any more. Looks like she'll be walking to and from work. Cause nobody else likes to give her rides either, cause she don't give gas money.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
18 Dec 12
She is using you. She knows you have a car and she doesn't. She is trying to be on real gooood terms with you, and butter up to you, so that you will be willing to take her anyways she wants. Being nice to her doesn't mean she gets her way with you. She can take the taxi. She can ride the bus. You do not owe her a ride, whenever she 'needs' a ride. She is responsible for getting herself to and fro work, not you. No, she shouldn't be walking home late at night but does she work until late at night? I would ask her a favor, just so that she knows that she needs to be fair. I would be friendly but professional towards her. Perhaps, someone else at work could give her a ride home?
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
18 Dec 12
Yeah I agree, I believe that she has been using me too. I'm glad to be almost out of that company and far from her. For these last few days, I'll be friendly and professional, but that is it. I plan on not giving her any more rides or anything like that. There is a bus that passes by where she lives, I don't understand why she doesn't take the bus or anything and yep there are taxis. I don't think I will be helping her any longer.
