Are we in a position to judge?
By dee777
@dee777 (1417)
South Africa
December 27, 2012 6:24am CST
She goes out at night to 'work' for food for her children... He struggles to communicate with his spouse and causes division in the house...The children are bullies at school and hurt other children... These 3 scenarios are serious matters and can get people talking quickly. My question is how can we judge them if we do not understand what went wrong in their lives, or where they come from...
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@Mavic123456 (21891)
• Thailand
27 Dec 12
Talking about what miss Dee? Talking how they live ou
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@Mavic123456 (21891)
• Thailand
27 Dec 12
Oops, sorry Miss Dee, it was posted accidentally. Anyway, my point is, talking about how they live their lives? Yes there is no way we can judge how people think and move. Sometimes, people do different things against their principles and they desire because of lack of choices.
@Mavic123456 (21891)
• Thailand
27 Dec 12
If I will say no I will just refute my own thoughts that they are probably lack some choices. You are fortunate because you have other choices to make, some other people don't have where they are forced to choose between life and principles
@spicymary (558)
• Romania
27 Dec 12
We never know exactly what is in others lives, what are the causes of the problems. But this doesn't mean we can't show support. Our talking can be easily ignored. But there is chance to say something that creates some light for the other. To bring some motivation for change, to show a different approach.
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@maximax8 (31042)
• United Kingdom
28 Dec 12
I should treat others how I would be liked to be treated myself. It isn't right to judge other people's situations and I haven't got all the information on another person's life. I can't judge what went wrong with those children. Bullies at a school can be very upsetting to the victims. I can feel sorry for the children that are bullied.
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
31 Dec 12
There are times when I wish I could change the world... haha. I would love to see less - or no bullies, no angry men who beat up their wives, and no women who are forced into pr0stituti0n. Life can sometimes be so hard and we will never understand the pain that some people face daily.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
28 Dec 12
While I do acknowledge that we are all guilty of judging other people at some point in our lives, I don't think that there is ever a time that it is really right to judge other people.
The reason that I don't think that it is right to judge others is because there are no two families that have been through the exact same circumstances.
Now it is difficult to not judge the parents of bullies, but even that is something that I try not to do because it just doesn't seem right to me.
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
27 Dec 12
I completely agree with you. I don't think we should judge others.After all we are not in their shoes. So we don't know what their life is really like other than what they or others tell us. We should do our best to empathize with others. But we should not judge them.
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
14 Jan 13
It is very important that we continue to love them. That we give small tid bits of advice here and there. This way we will not overwhelm them or make them feel like we are trying to control their life. Because if they get the wrong impression then they are more than likely not going to listen to us.
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
18 Jan 13
It is not always easy to just turn a blind eye when you see that the other person is going 'down-hill'. It is a challenge to continue to love them. Should a person put boundaries when loving the other person to ensure they do not try and use you? I have noticed when a 'needy' person see that you are prepared to love them, and not judge them, they can easily take 'advantage'.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
28 Dec 12
very difficult question.
should never sadem pryavat parents especially when children are best not to go barefoot and hungry on the street.
to have parents who can not cope with their children's education but comes a moment in which these children grow and change vsichkose.
I personally do not judge anyone.
nice day!
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
Yeah, it is hard. We want to be of help but we too are saddled with our own personal concerns. I am more concerned about the children who have become bullies. I think they have to be guided so they do not become dangerous in the future.
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
27 Dec 12
It is sad when children lack direction and vision. It is therefore so important that us, as parents guide them well and try our best to set good examples. Our children look up to us and it's not always easy being a parent, but we should continue to teach them with much love.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
27 Dec 12
No we are not. We often forget how not so clean we are. We easily compare ourselves and judge other people for being different from us. For the parents, they should learn and implement good values to their children. Good values is about respect and understanding different people no matter how low they are in this society.
