The virtual world!
@allknowing (153544)
India
December 27, 2012 6:32pm CST
Internet has taken me away from the real world much more than I had expected. I am no longer sensitive to the drift I notice around me. Nor do I take steps to bring the real world closer. Am I the only one going through this or do I have company? Will a day come when we will be comfortable having just the virtual world around us? This worries me. What about you?

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@jodylee (946)
• United States
28 Dec 12
I do worry about the virtual world taking the place of the world we have known for so long. I make a very big effort to get out and enjoy the fresh air and to keep a wide variety of things going on. I know that in the winter I really like mylot because I am inside a lot more but in the summer, it is outside for this girl.
I guess if it scares you then you should make sure to find a good balance that you are comfortable with, that's what I do at least and it seems to work in my life.
Balance is good for me :)
@allknowing (153544)
• India
28 Dec 12
For the kind of person I was - very emotional, sentimental wanting people around me, this attitude of not making efforts to get back there does bother me and I was wondering if there were others who felt the same as me. It is more about people than being in touch with nature. I have created an ambiance around me that takes care of that.
@jodylee (946)
• United States
28 Dec 12
If that works for you perfectly than that is great, but you did mention it scared you... that was more the side of it I was answering towards. I am sure there are many who feel the same, for me it is different but I think it is because I have always been an outgoing person who likes being involved in new things :)
@allknowing (153544)
• India
28 Dec 12
Yes it does scare me. I feel the virtual world changes people as it has changed me. I have a world no doubt that revolves around my interests like a passion for helping the poor, my love for nature and so on but in the good old days I used to be more involved with people and that has decreased somewhat!


@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
3 Jan 13
I totally think that the internet tends to take one away from the real world. I started a similar discussion quite a while back...forget what I called it now but essentially I wondered if computers and the internet connected people or isolated them. I think it tends to isolate them. Time spent on the computer is time not spent socializing and interacting with real people and the real world. While the internet can be a very useful tool, it can also work in ways we never imagined or even realize.
In my own experience, I find that I am less sociable now than I was before I discovered the world of computers.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
3 Jan 13
For the state I am in today - not a healthy one by all standards!
I also blame others around me who are glued to the Internet and therefore have no time for me. It is kind of a vicious circle. But this year I have decided to make some effort to get back to atleast a couple of them even if it means me taking the lead!
I also blame others around me who are glued to the Internet and therefore have no time for me. It is kind of a vicious circle. But this year I have decided to make some effort to get back to atleast a couple of them even if it means me taking the lead!
@allknowing (153544)
• India
3 Jan 13
If every one did that, our old days would be back. I was a great one for organising get togethers for family and friends. I have now forgotten the meaning of the word 'organizing'!

@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
3 Jan 13
A good idea allknowing. I find that even instead of picking up the phone and calling a friend, I will message them on FB. Not good. I have also told myself that I am gonna spend less time on the comp and more time actually socializing, however, that hasn't happened yet. I really think that internet and social sites are addictive!

@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
6 Jan 13
This is a very common problem and one that is rapidly becoming a major concern. It is not something that I have personally experienced, although that may be due to my age.
The issue affects younger people more, possibly because they have grown up accustomed to the virtual world. Cyber games in particular have been replacing many outdoor activities for many children and has reached a level of addiction.
I do spend a fair amount of time online some days, but this is not something that I would consider a problem. I still live my life and it has really just replaced a lot of time spent watching television.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
6 Jan 13
Even those your age would want to stay put in the real world as long as others around young or old would not be occupied with the cyber world. Sadly that is the situation today. We need people around us to interact with. I only hope just as I am trying to get back there will be more thinking on the same lines!

@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
28 Dec 12
I do find that the virtual world draws me in a lot. I also find that I try to blend it. I go meet friends from the virtual world and socialize with them. For me that is huge because I do not make friends easily. I use the internet as a tool to make my real world more comfortable.

@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
28 Dec 12
I can see how this is a change for you. We are all pretty close still as a family, even though we live many miles apart.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
28 Dec 12
One sees real people slowly becoming virtual. It is happening everywhere. Be it children, nieces, nephews, friends. They have no time to meet and so relationship is maintained through emails and the 'infamous' webcam!

@allknowing (153544)
• India
28 Dec 12
Converting the virtual into real is a good thing. As many a time we find those in the virtual world have more in common with us and so inviting them into the real world makes sense. In my case I have so far done that to only one person. She came all the way from the UK and spent time with me. Now we are in contact through the Net.
I feel I have changed because I used to be the one who got people together be it in the family, among friends and so on which I don't feel I need to do because of the virtual world where I get my fill!
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
28 Dec 12
I will never leave the real world...ever. I might go online to research and have some fun, sell a few items, and chat a bit, but never will I ever let it control me.
There is too much to see, feel, and hear outside that can't be found in the virtual world.

@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
28 Dec 12
Oh, you didn't quite explain yourself. I am still in touch with my family all the time and friends. We still do all sorts of things together and go out for coffee for our chatting sessions.
Yes, get back to the REAL world, and hold on. It's too easy to slip into the virtual world where we can still have fun too but most of it is fake....remember that.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
28 Dec 12
I cannot call the virtual world as fake Kash.... Let me confess interacting with you for example I get a real feel!
I used to be very involved. Always took the first step to control if there was any drift among family/friends and this I do not do any more!
I used to be very involved. Always took the first step to control if there was any drift among family/friends and this I do not do any more!
@allknowing (153544)
• India
28 Dec 12
When I said the real world it was more about being in touch with family and friends. Being the type I was, getting people together I feel I no longer have the need to do it as I have enough of interaction in the virtual world. I am not quite happy about this trend. I should get back to the real world!


@stanley777 (9401)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
I think that day may come.. A lot of people these days are quite addicted to just playing computer games- some of them do not sleep nor eat.
It is easy to contact anyone as long as you're on the internet too- so people do not really need to go out. 
It is easy to contact anyone as long as you're on the internet too- so people do not really need to go out. @allknowing (153544)
• India
6 Jan 13
There is no effort made to reconnect should there be a misunderstanding when in the good old days every one concerned would leave no stone unturned to get back that lost relationship. It is frightening to say the least.

@Sreekala (34312)
• India
28 Dec 12
I wish to confess, I am more comfortable with my virtual world friends. I don’t bother a friend, don’t keep in touch in the real world but I worried any friends in virtual world not showing up.
Recently one of my friends (real world) is communicating with me through gchats.
Recently one of my friends (real world) is communicating with me through gchats.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
28 Dec 12
I do have a few friends in the real world. But earlier there were too many and I used to go all out and keep in touch with all of them. What I noticed however is more and more are turning to the virtual world. Even real friends connect with me through the Internet!

@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I believe you are right, i feel this way sometimes.. like i do not know what is going on with the people around me, that is why i am just as glad i do not have internet connection at home or else it will get worse
@allknowing (153544)
• India
28 Dec 12
What makes it difficult all the more is that even others sail in the same boat!

@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
29 Dec 12
I think that with the way things are in the world that many people find comfort with the virtual world. It is a little unnerving when you think about the possibility of one day most everything being virtual. You can even test drive a car online now..lol.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
29 Dec 12
My real world is shrinking Jen... not necessarily my doing. When one only gets invited to functions, that being the only occasion when every one meets and if you choose not to go there is no chance that one will ever personally interact in
this world. I hardly socialise and therefore I rarely see any one in person!

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@rog0322 (2828)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
28 Dec 12
Hi,
In the movie "The Matrix" starring Keanu Reeves, the virtual world is more fun than the real world. Some citizens even accept the virtual world as the real one and the outside world as the unreal, having been reduced to a desert landscape for one reason or another.
Now, we are still quite far form that scenario. we can still take enough time to shout across the room in the middle of a crazy war game or zombie attack. No, we are still in complete possession of our senses, we can still look out and talk to the next door neighbor.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
28 Dec 12
Yes indeed "we can still look out and talk to the next door neighbour"
But when it comes to allknowing it is no longer that she bends backwards to mend fences which used to be her personality!
Why? Because she finds enough of goodness in the virtual world and she does not need to do it any more. But it has started pricking her. The real world misses her!
But when it comes to allknowing it is no longer that she bends backwards to mend fences which used to be her personality!
Why? Because she finds enough of goodness in the virtual world and she does not need to do it any more. But it has started pricking her. The real world misses her!
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
28 Dec 12
Hi,
I find virtual world has made me understand the value of friendship and also am happy to be in this world which gifted me a bunch of friends - all different from each other and with a different lifestyle.
Ofcourse the real world is too hectic and everyone has set their priorities too. So i can't blame my real world friends if they are not with me all the time.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
28 Dec 12
It is easy to interact with virtual friends. We have the choice to look for those who have common interests. In the real world one hardly finds anyone with common interests. And this causes the drift.











