Some People Are Such Scare'dy Cats
By mswriter
@writergirl74 (802)
United States
January 4, 2013 6:53am CST
Why are challenges considered to be negative karma or a sign that one should not go forward most of the time? I mean really...can someone explain to me why a challenges in life are vied as a plague?
I mean aren't trials the thing that let you know what you're made of? My oldest son is in the Marine Corp and he tells me all the time now, "Mom, you gotta improvise, adapt, and overcome". I mean don't get me wrong, I have the urge to quit all the time, but I just know that quitting can't always be the answer. Sometimes you have to go forward and not allow things to defeat you.
I guess I'm at a point in my life that I know things are going to arise, but if I treat everything as a reason to give up, I will never know what I could have accomplished. Diamonds are made by fire.
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6 responses
@celticeagle (159474)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan 13
When its important improvising, adapting and overcoming is what we need to do. But when the situation isn't important and just a lark it is important to go with your gutt feelings and not push forward if you feel funny about it. It really depends on the situation. SOmetimes you do have to just push forward but not if it is something silly and not an important point in ones life.
@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
6 Jan 13
celticeagle...something silly and unimportant wasn't my point I don't think. But you are right.
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@celticeagle (159474)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Jan 13
I was trying to talk of the entire gambit. Not just the serious.
@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
6 Jan 13
Oh, I guess that went over my head. It was kinda hard to tell from the way your response read.
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@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
4 Jan 13
Challenges are considered for me as a positive sign so as to teach us how to be strong in every trial we encounter. Some people considered as a negative karma but some is not. Maybe it depends the personality and character they had.
@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
5 Jan 13
IntrovertShy...I can agree that it has to do with the personality and character. It would just be more useful to the individual if they would realize how so many triumphs can come from an adversity.
A few of us were having a discussion on FB the other day and one lady in particular stated she didn't agree that leaders are usually people that have suffered many trials. I had to naturally disagree with her. It is my belief that most leaders have endured much. Which gives them a broader advantage to be able to speak on a wide range of things. The experience of it is what I am talking about . Now, don't get me wrong, I do believe in such as thing as a natural born, but let's be honest, how often do you see that as opposed to someone who has suffered, endured, and then picked themselves up from a desolate place and triumphed. I love that kind of story because it's the norm and it helps so many more people than that of the story of someone who was born with it. Not everyone is.
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
8 Jan 13
I just read it on "Please Understand Me" by David Keirsey and I've learn something on that book. My brother order a book on internet. Hmmmm.. you are correct. Not everyone is.
@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
6 Jan 13
jillhill...that is a motto of mine. I have faced so many things throughout life that I have totally decided to be strong from them. There's no way I could ever give in to the pressure of challenge. Don't get me wrong, I have before, but they also have taught me. I choose to never give and keep going. That's just my way though.
I am so glad you agree. This is totally my favorite response.
@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
5 Jan 13
p1kef1sh...you baffle me. I am so shocked at this response. Then I had to remember this is an open forum and we do want the pennies to add up now don't we? I wish I could do the smiley face right there. It's really funny (ironic) that you put it that way. I wish you could look at other things this way as well. Because like you said..."what if"?
I hope you don't take me to be rude. I am just straight forward and upfront. I like for people to get to know me through my words. I mean this is more or less the way we communicate here. Tone is so misunderstood sometimes with this kind of thing. I don't sugar coat things and somehow, you don't seem to either.
But back to the topic, I have been working on a new site. And for the past two weeks so much crap has happened to challenge me with it. I mean some of the smallest things have come into play to interrupt my progress. I wanted to kick my laptop so many times. I also wanted to quit. I did find myself backing off for a few days to clear my head. But then I had to realize with each challenge I faced there was something I learned. I acquired some new skills. I gained some new knowledge I didn't have before. And guess what, now I am able to impart some wisdom to others just as well.
I just wish more people were like this and took the time to breathe and give things a chance before spouting, "it doesn't work" or "I can't do it". Most times things come just to show us what we are capable of if we give ourselves half the chance. We are so much more powerful than we give ourselves credit for.
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
18 Jan 13
I have always fought for my ideas and beliefs. Even though I am older now does not seem to stop me. I have been fighting to win with the evil ex. She is one I will never back down from. And she knows how I am, I am like the energizer bunny, I just keep on going until I win. But thats me. Some people are more laid back and just want things to go smooth.
@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
31 Jan 13
I'm quickly learning that we make things what they are. I'd like things to go a lot smoother at times, but that just isn't the case on every situation. Sometimes, you have to stand up and leap. I think it's hard to know what you're made of if you back down from everything.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Jan 13
Most people have challenges that come their way and then there are those people that every single turn around a corner is another challenge...It never stops sometimes.
Let me give you an example: (This is just ONE year of our life, the past years are even worse than 2012). My husband got hurt at work, had surgery and was out of work for a year because of it, he could finally go back to work but he could not find a job for 6 months (So a year and a half with no work), we are hungry and all of our bills are behind, we had to sell a vehicle just to be able to get some food and to pay one bill, our kids would not have had a christmas this year if it wasn't for someone here and a church helping, my husband finally got a job yesterday when another company calls and wants to put him to work (not a bad thing usually) now we question which one should he take? Did we make the right decision?, every friend that we have helped in the past is gone now that we have no money so we have no help anywhere...
I could go on and on and on with the luck we have...We have had one bad thing after another attack us, we are hoping now that he is working things might get a little better for us, but with our life one never knows. I never get excited anymore, not too much anyway when things go well because I know something bad will kick us on the butt around the next corner.
So, challenges are good when they give you a chance to breathe before the next one hits you in the face!
I can find a million and one reasons why we should just give up but we won't, we keep pushing through somehow...
@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
5 Jan 13
LovingMyBabies...first let me say, I understand your situation. I won't go into detail about the life I have had. Just know that you are not alone. I am glad your husband has finally found work.
I noticed one thing about my life, when I was faced with so many things at once, I found myself being pushed in a new direction. I think sometimes this is what happens. Now for a long time I didn't want change. I wanted to do the same thing I had been use to doing for so long and to be honest those things just weren't working for me anymore. It was as if I had evolved without knowing I had done so.
I mean I had done so well in the past with what I call "my way" of doing things that I didn't realize it was time for me to blaze a new trail in my life. I mean I was literally fed up with myself and had to do something or me and my kids were going to starve. I didn't have any help either. It was all on me. That's how I got into working online. I had to do something.
I believe heavily in the laws of attraction wherein most do not, but I have seen how important how we think, feel, and respond to a situation plays a huge role in our outcomes a lot of times.
One thing I am glad you said and that is that you're not going to give up. That is a great attitude to have. You can't lose with that. You will make it. One thing is trouble doesn't and can't last always. My Grandma use to say, "when you're all the way down, ain't no way to go but up".
Cheers to you and your family. I am sure you guys are on your way up!
