Daughter feels like she doesn't fit in with her dad and his new family
By poppoppop111
@poppoppop111 (5731)
Canada
January 6, 2013 9:52pm CST
It is so sad when my daughter talks to me about her dad and how she feels. She thinks he doesn't pay any attention to her since he has a girlfriend and he spends more time with the girlfriends child. She gave me the saddest analogy. We were looking at the crowds and there was one big crowd and a small one far away.mshe said that's dad and his family pointing at the big one and then pointing at the little crowd far away she says and that one far away and left out is me. How sad is that. I am so glad I'm really close to her and she gets along really well with my husband. That makes her feel better to have us so close to her.
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@kisharai (2)
•
7 Jan 13
this is horrible. I remember feeling that way in a similar situation. I agree with the post above. find some spare time to pull her Father aside and explain to him that she feels this way and suggest ways for him to interact with both of them equally so no one feels left out.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
7 Jan 13
Talk to the girlfriend. Become her buddy. I'm almost willing to bet she has a little something to do with how he treats your daughter anyway. If he is that lacking in balls, he probably does anything that she tells him. Talk to her and see if maybe she can help knock some sense into him.
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@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
8 Jan 13
I can't talk to his girlfriend he refuses to give me her address and phone number. We live an airplane ride away so she only goes all summer, spring break and Christmas break and I can't go and figure out who his girl is. But she does say that the girlfriend treats her good and she likes her. Actually she says the girlfriend treats her better than her dad.
@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
7 Jan 13
Would it be possible for you to talk to her father? The way I see it, if a couple is no longer together, they're no longer a couple, but if they have children between them, they are parents, and in that way should be a united front for the sake of that child. If I had an ex who was making our kids feel that way, I'd be talking to him about it, to see what the hell is going on!
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@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
7 Jan 13
I have been trying for years but he doesn't listen. He feels he is doing nothing wrong or tells me that the other child needs more attention because he misbehaves. Well put your foot down cause you should not be rewarding him with attention for misbehaving.
@lifes97 (884)
• United Arab Emirates
7 Jan 13
who know how she feels or how he feels, they both have to talk to each other and she tells him how she feels maybe he did not mean it , maybe he feels she do nto want to set with him aor talk to him, some times people needs to talk tor gther rights
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@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
7 Jan 13
Oh, it's so sad. It can be a normal feeling as she's no longer the one that should be the most cared about, if the other kid is younger, but it could be that his dad is just not caring about her enough. Maybe you should talk to him about your dauhter's feelings?
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
7 Jan 13
good thing is she can talk to him about this. Many dont, and become problem childs. Maybe by them talking this out, things will work out for them
in the long run. lets hope so...
in the long run. lets hope so...
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 Jan 13
That is so sad that your daughter doesn't really feel like she fits in with her father and his new family. Perhaps, if you are on good terms with her father, you should let him know about this and express your concerns to him. It might not be something that will really make things better for her, but it would be worth a try. However, if this is not something that is possible, at least you are able to realize that at least at home with you and your husband, she is able to feel like she does belong.
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@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
I am so sorry that your daughter is feeling that way. She might think she is "lost" because of this. Did you ever consider talking to her dad about it? I mean, not that we want to demand, but atleast he should show that he misses his daughter when they are together. I feel that your daughter is a good girl and she deserves to have a great childhood. What should make it even better is that she gets to have two moms and two dads. And of course, we hope that all of you can get along fine coz having some strains could hurt your daughter.
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
8 Jan 13
Anyway I am glad to know that you are there to care and offer her what she wants. I feel she is just mistaken with her dad. Anyway it is your duty to present her all she needs which she don't gets from her dad.
May everything goes fine
Happy Mylotting
Happy Mylotting
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
7 Jan 13
It's hard on children when their parents divorce and go separate ways and then, remarry. It must be so confusing for a child. I do think it is important that she does have parents, which seem to be you and your husband, who really include her in the home. I am sure she appreciates and also, needs to have a family that she is close to.
It takes more than being a biological father to be a dad. I hope she finds the closeness she needs in your home and in your heart.
@theoana (97)
• Romania
7 Jan 13
Unfortunately, a divorce can complicate things a lot. Especially if there are kids involved.
This is a very tough period for your daughter, but as long as you are next to her and you show her love she will be ok.
Her way of thinking may persist, and it's only normal, but there will be a time when she will be capable of understanding more things and she won't let herself affected by this.
As long as you are the mother she needs and you are close to her, she will be just fine.
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