Learn to live alone after graduate

I'm one of those who can't wait to be on my own when I was young. Even when I was still in high school, I stayed in the guest house separated from my parents' house. Then I moved out altogether in my Junior year and lived in a dorm. So even before I graduated from high school I was already on my own. Since it was something that I really wanted, I did not really find it hard or lonely when I started to live alone.

It can be scary to live on your own for the first time. Everything is new to you and your not part of a "family unit" anymore. It's often the first taste of independence that we get to experience when we move away from our family. I would make sure to have activities that I enjoy (hobbies or crafts) or maybe reading or making sure to spend time with friends. Even though you are on your own, you can still visit your family. I also like to watch movies usually a comedy. That helps me handle the loneliness.

Yes, it's really hard to live away from your family especially if you're used to having or seeing them around you everyday. I've experienced that too after graduating in college. Months before I graduated I landed a job away from home. The company was willing to wait till I finished college and offers good pay. I signed the contract before I informed my family about it. When I broke the news to them they were hesitant to allow me to live on my own especially in a big city and I'm all by myself. I sort of anticipated their reaction that's why I signed the contract so they can't stop me from leaving no matter what happens. I really want to try to live on my own and see how it feels. I have been living with my family since birth and I was a bit curious on how it feels living in a big city without no one to answer to. So off I went to that place. At first I feel so elated because finally I get to decide on things without having to consider other people's opinion. I don't have to follow curfews and I'm free to go anywhere I want. However, as time goes by my happiness started to go down and I started missing my family. I keep myself surrounded with new friends and acquaintances to get by loneliness but it's only for a short period of time. Bottomline, I ended going back home after three years of being away. Now, I'm staying home for good and I decided to just find a work in my home place. :D

I still remember the first time I lived on my own. I rented a small apartment in the city where I studied and it was a strange feeling to live on my own. On one hand I was happy because I was about to start a new part of my life and looked forward to the new experiences, but at the same time it was strange to live alone with no family members around. I talked to my parents on the phone and sometimes my brother visited me in my apartment, but I still felt lonely sometimes especially in the beginning. Fortunately I had my ex-boyfriend and I had some nice friends. Some of my friends lived in other parts of the country and when they visited me they spent the night in my apartment and we always had a really good time together.

I just moved to a new country and I find that extremely lonely and difficult. Many people judge me on my accent alone making it difficult to make new friends. Simultaneously, I am trying to find a job made more difficult by the fact that I'm not a citizen. Managing money is always difficult in this economic climate--I try to cook a lot and freeze meals to save money on food. I bring books to coffee shops to make it feel like I'm out and about doing something while this is still a very inexpensive social activity with a possibility of meeting new people.