Suggestions problems with bed time routine any suggestions....

Canada
January 21, 2013 9:11pm CST
My 6 year old is in grade one and i have her in bed by 8 every night in hopes that she will fall asleep with in the hour.....But that doesn't seem to be the case with her some nights....She makes almost every excuse to get up.....She is thirsty, hungry has to go to the washroom she can't sleep..... I know that she has been experiencing some bad dreams that she cannot seem to remember but i have talked with her telling her that everything is going to be okay and that her dad and i are here for you..... Any suggestions should i be doing something different or starting something earlier.....It seems its a constant struggle to get her to go to sleep and therefore i'm up late and not sleeping well myself.....
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@GardenGerty (128435)
• United States
22 Jan 13
My daughter had problems like this last year. They are better this year, but her two daughters share a room and that makes it even more complicated. They have a bedtime routine, but still the six year old gets up some nights saying she had a bad dream. My daughter reassures her, and also reminds her that she can talk to God about it as well. They start for bed after supper and they brush teeth, have a story, have some things that they say to each other every night, kind of reminders, that revolve around the idea of "I love you, no matter what". Dad participates in the bedtime as well. Both of the girls go to bed better and sleep better if it is a day that they can walk to school and play outside.
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• Canada
22 Jan 13
From my own personal experiences, I would definitely believe that 2 girls sharing a room makes things complicated ... It definitely was for me! I had no choice but to split them up and keep them in separate rooms. In a way I guess it is a good thing I could split them up at younger ages because they would have to get used to it eventually anyhow. When they are teenagers they are definitely going to want their own rooms, privacy, etc.
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@GardenGerty (128435)
• United States
22 Jan 13
Not room to split them right now. Maybe after the house gets some remodeling done. However there is a third child, a little boy.
• Canada
22 Jan 13
Hopefully it won't be a problem for too much longer than. Also when they do get split up it might be hard on them (it was on my girls). They kept asking if they could have sleepovers and my oldest asked a lot if her sister could "move back in with her". After a few months they did get used to it though, and now they enjoy having their own rooms.
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• United States
22 Jan 13
I found kay did this just about every night I then started to lay in bed with her and she would fall out sleep. later I found what she was really worried about was sleeping in the dark. she is now 18 and still needs the tv on to sleep. if adrain is not here to get her to sleep in the dark she has to sleep with me.
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• Canada
22 Jan 13
i will try laying with her thanks for your suggestion.....My daughter is also scared of the dark she needs the tv or a flashlight on to help her feel safe as well....
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• United States
22 Jan 13
That should help some. Your very welcome.
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• Canada
22 Jan 13
I have been pretty lucky with my 6 year old. When her and her younger sister were sharing a room I could sometimes hear them at 11 and sometimes midnight laughing, talking, or playing. I quickly put a stop to that by separating them, and letting them have their own rooms. The only thing I can suggest as it sometimes takes my girls an hour or so to fall asleep is to start putting them to bed earlier. I want my oldest to be sleeping by 8:30, so I put her to bed at 7:30. If my 6 year old doesn't get enough sleep look out! She gets an attitude, she is slow at school, can't concentrate, and just overall has a BAD day. Hope things get better, and hang in there!
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• Canada
28 Jan 13
Good Idea hun i've been doing that lately putting her to bed an hour earlier and i also notice she sleeps better after a shower so we been putting that into the nightly routine as well....Thanks keeping fingers crossed.....
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• Canada
29 Jan 13
Your most welcome, and don't worry you will get there. Before you know it you will have a routine worked out for her that works like a charm every night! Am keeping my fingers crossed for you for extra luck!
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• Canada
8 Mar 13
P.S. Thanks much for best response!!
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@jenny1015 (13376)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
What are your evening rituals prior to getting her to sleep? Warm bath? Warm glass of milk? bedtime stories? That usually help kids to put them to sleep. And maybe you should also lessen her nap time in the afternoon.
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• Canada
28 Jan 13
She has a shower and story at bedtime she is 6 so there is no longer afternoon naps as she is in grade 1 and at school all day long....I just got a soft sound machine from a good friend of mine gonna give that a try this evening thanks for your response......
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@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
22 Jan 13
Thankfully my child sleeps soundly at night. But I am sorry for you as I know how it feels like to feel tired as when my kid was a newborn she used to wake up almost every single hour. I would suggest to make something special in her room so as to make bedtime better for her - you know - an experience that she looks forward to. You could decorate her room with characters she likes, buy her a night lamp or leave the lamp on throughout the night so as to give her a feeling of reassurance and avoid having her feel frightened of the dark. You could also buy her a soft toy that lights up, and sings sweet melodies that will help her feel drowsy and relaxed. There are several available in stores and online and they can work wonders. It will also help to set her a routine, such as giving her a bath (as thatwill relax her a lot too), putting on her pyjamas, reading her a bedtime story and sing her a lullaby. I wish you luck and would be happy to know if you found any of these suggestions helpful.
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• Canada
28 Jan 13
All great suggestions that i plan on giving a try to help her at night....As usually i cannot sleep til she does so makes a long tiring day for me as well...Thanks smiles
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@eshaan (6192)
• India
31 Jan 13
i think best way to make them comfortable is to sleep with them, when they are sue that all have slept ...there are less chances of their waking up...
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• Canada
1 Feb 13
That is a good suggestion thanks...but that is the routine i've tried hard to get away from as well when my husband and i were seperated she slept with me everynight and now we are back together and when i started to put her in her own bed that was a fun routine i might just lay and talk and stories etc....
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@ShyBear88 (40945)
• United States
22 Jan 13
My daughter isn't as old as yours she is 2 years old. We put our daughter down for bed at 9 but she doesn't have school yet but she has a set bed time. But we always do a bath every other night but at like 8 or 8:30 then we read a book either me or my husband read two of them. One is her favorite book "Brown Bear Brown Bear, What do you see? and then "It's time to sleep". Then I turn on her two night lights and turn on her Violet which is her leap frog toy. We also put a few toys for her to sleep with them. So by the time it's 10 she is normally a sleep and we don't give in to what ever she wants.
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• Canada
28 Jan 13
I usually do not give in to my daughter either and have stopped letting her stay up late on weekends the only privelage she gets there is if she is on holidays from school or we are away visiting her long time friends....Thanks for the suggestions tho we read to our daughte everynight she has books she does on a weekly basis from school that she herself has to read and learn to read.....
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• Canada
22 Jan 13
have you tried playing soft music till she falls asleep? Classical music, instrumental music, soft music with lyrics in a foreign language (this way she won't be distracted thinking about the words of the songs) or if you are religious, try playing some spiritual songs. That way the words of the songs will be comforting and not so much of a distraction.
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• Canada
28 Jan 13
No I have not tried that very good suggestion tho will have to pick her up a little cd player and some cds with soft music and noises a friend of mine has a machine her son i don't think uses any longer should ask her if i could borrow it see if it helps my daughter.....
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