Are you scared to give strangers a ride?

United States
January 22, 2013 10:56pm CST
I often see people walking down the road. I would love to be able to give someone a ride. But with the times we are living in it's just not safe to pull over and ask someone if they need a ride. It's sad to think about those things because many people are good hearted and want to help others out.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
That's true! But we have to think of our safety first nowadays... There are just a lot of people who appear to be good persons but have bad motives.
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• United States
30 Jan 13
I completely agree with you. That is the thing that we have to remember and ponder over. Almost in every area of life there are people who have bad motives and we have to keep that in mind. We need to put our safety first because that is most important. There are too many people who have been harmed when they were trying to do the right thing.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
23 Jan 13
There are many times we see people walking along the road and I truly want to stop and give them a lift. However, my hubby says no way. You can't trust anyone anymore and we are not stopping. Its a shame that this is what the world as become. Back in the day you were able to pick up people without a care in the world. Its so sad what we as a society have become.
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• United States
30 Jan 13
Yeah that is how my husband often feels. It is sad that we really can't trust people. There are too many people out there who want to take advantage of others as well as cause them harm. And I have to remind myself that we can't be naive about the world we live in. There have been to many people hurt and harmed because they were trying to be kind and do the right thing. Now we have instantly think of our safety and the safety of our family.
@urbandekay (18278)
23 Jan 13
I will usually stop and give a lift, it may be scary but we must remember the parable of the good Samaritan all the best, urban
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@urbandekay (18278)
23 Jan 13
I have read all the other responses here and am saddened that people are so fearful, yes their is danger but the perception of danger is much greater than the reality, probably you are in more danger crossing the road. If our concern for safety kills our humanity is that price not too high? all the best, urban
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@jricky1 (6800)
• China
23 Jan 13
Your worry is necessary.But i know that there are indeed some people who just wanna go and find a ride for their travel and it's a new way to spend less money for the trip.I will try to tell and then give some people the ride cuz it's nice to see people's smile.
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@urbandekay (18278)
23 Jan 13
Bless you all the best, urban
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• United States
30 Jan 13
@jricky I'm glad to hear that you try and be discerning. It is nice to see others smile and that they are happy. I do agree that a lot of people are just trying to get to their destination. We do have to be cautious and if it doesn't feel right then we need to follow our instincts.
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Jan 13
That is true, I have often felt the same way. It could be very dangerous to do that especially now a days... My husband gives people rides all the time but he feels that he can protect himself if anything bad happens.
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• United States
30 Jan 13
Yes it could be very dangerous. I'm glad to hear that your husband gives people a ride. I think for men it can be different in some ways. Like you mentioned he is able to protect himself when a woman could be an easier target. It's nice that he does that.
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
Truly, you are right. There had been a lot of news of different crimes and trust for people had been continually dropping year after year. It is not really easy to offer a ride to strangers especially during the night. I just admire the kind heart you have and your desire to be of help. I know you really care. I think the best way is to choose to whom to offer a free ride - with people we know and acquainted with.
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• United States
30 Jan 13
Thanks. I do feel bad for people who are walking somewhere especially when the weather conditions are hot. Yeah it is a good idea to only give rides to people we know. Otherwise some crime could be committed against us or our family. It is sad that we have to think so carefully about these things, but the world is really a dangerous place.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
23 Jan 13
I wouldn't encourage anyone, man or woman to give a lift to a stranger in today's society, it's far too dangerous, you never know what they'll do, it's just not worth the chance, you may feel like playing the good samaritan but unless you are a mind reader how do you know what their true motives are. Some of course will be grateful for the ride and will be the genuine ones, but how can you tell just by looking at them if they are going to be genuine. Equally so for the stranger, how do they know the person who has stopped for them is also genuine?
@sweety_81 (2124)
• India
23 Jan 13
Well, in the areas where we live in, giving strangers a ride is a kind of no-no. Some incidents have happened in some areas where people either took or gave ride(s) to strangers, and were murdered, or looted. It is highly unsafe, and unadvisable.
• United States
30 Jan 13
Yeah I agree with you. It is just too high of a risk to take. We never know what a person may be thinking but we can't take the chances. After all the good people out there who have no intention of hurting anyone while walking wherever wouldn't recommend that their mother,sister, or daughter do such a thing. It just isn't safe.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Jan 13
Last year during the music festival I was driving from my island to the neighbour island. It was quite late I met two men who told me that they had missed the last bus and they asked me to give them a ride to the neighbour island. I said no because I didn't know them and I didn't feel that it was safe to invite two strangers into my car. My intuition told me that they were harmless and just wanted to get back to their home, and I wanted to help them, but I chose to say no anyway because I was worried about my safety. Unfortunately there have been cases where people have been robbed or even killed when they have offered strangers a ride.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
Definitely. I am also scared of doing so no matter how I want to help others. I don't want to risk my life or my kids life either. Sometimes it is better to keep safe and trust our intuition than regretting after.
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• United States
30 Jan 13
Yes I understand what you mean. It just isn't worth the risk. It is sad that we have to think and feel this way but there are a lot of bad people out there who are willing to take advantage of others. We definitely have to try and trust our feelings.
• India
23 Jan 13
With all the roberries and murders taking placeI wuold,nt dare to give a lift to anyone .Better safe than sorry .
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• United States
30 Jan 13
Yes that is the same thought that most of the comments have brought out. That is better to be safe than sorry. We unfortunately just can't trust people. It sad that this is the way life has to be but it is the truth. We can't be naive about how wicked people are. There are people who look for people who are good hearted and who want to help others.
@shante2 (338)
• United States
23 Jan 13
Hey Dominique25, Thank you for this comment. I think that this is so true every thing that you said is so very true. I feel that due to the times we live in it' is hard to try and not be scared of giving strangers a ride, I say it's better safe then sorry, Because to many bad things are going on today, and I don't want to chance it.
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• United States
30 Jan 13
Yeah I agree with you. I do feel bad when I see individuals like this. But there have been too many innocent people harmed because of their trying to help someone out. It is sad that the world has come to this. But we have to be cautious and put our safety first.
23 Jan 13
At the present crimes and thefts going you cannot trust anyone. I often avoid giving ride to men, but many times i have given a lift to old ladies or aunties.Also we have to be careful , in the process of helping them we shouldn't become a prey
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• United States
30 Jan 13
It's nice that you give lifts to old ladies or aunties. Yeah crimes and thefts are high we have to be cautious about who we try to help. The times we are living in are getting harder and harder and it is important that we recognize this. So that we do not become a victim.
@kotia057 (171)
• Greece
23 Jan 13
You should be scared to give strangers a ride. We leave in danger time.
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@xtedaxcvg (3189)
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
Giving strangers a ride really doesn't apply very well here in our country. Both parties wouldn't really want to engage in such things. The person with the car might think that the person who wants a ride might hurt him and vice versa. The times we are living in are crazy and we should always think twice in every situation.
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• United States
30 Jan 13
@xtedaxcvg I understand what you mean. The world is a very scary place. And it is important that we be cautious about these things. We need to be careful. So many people have been harmed because they were taken advantage of by trying to do the right thing. It is a sad truth that we have to remind ourselves of.
• United States
30 Jan 13
@ulan yes it truly is unavoidable. We don't want to be harmed or taken advantage of. It is very important that we remember the times we are living in. If we watch the news regularly we are reminded of how bad things are. This can keep us on alert.
@ulan12rc (222)
• Qatar
23 Jan 13
That's true many are thinking bad about each other now a days even though each person' mind wasn't that but due to what is happening around us it is not avoidable. And nobody wants to be in such situation so think it over...
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@jshekhar (1562)
• India
23 Jan 13
Ideally we should never even ask this question and offer a ride to people walking down the street. But, as you mentioned, given the time we are living in, we simply cannot trust someone like that. I've made a rule for myself, never to give a ride to a stranger. I know a lot of people would be suffering for no fault of theirs because of my decision but then, my safety is important to me and I cannot take a chance.
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• China
24 Jan 13
Well first of all I have admit that give strangers a ride is really good kind-hearted,but I don't think it is a good choice especially if it happen at night,because it is so easy to do some crime,so in order to protect yourself,pls don't offer strangers a ride easily.
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@ulan12rc (222)
• Qatar
23 Jan 13
It is so sad to think about it, there are lots of people who are really good and able to give help to others who are in need but now a days it is not easy to trust somebody instantly. We need to be careful for our own sake.
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• Indonesia
23 Jan 13
be careful, dont give a ride to someone you dont know.because a lot of robbery with a pattern of asking a ride. in my country alot of cases tht hit the car drivers but almost of the case are robbers pretending to ask for a ride.
• United States
24 Jan 13
Movies and television gives mixed reviews for us. Sometimes it shows the stranger on the road as a kind person with a fun and exciting life that could change your life with their stories. Sometimes it shows the stranger as a cold-hearted murderer. Our world is cruel. All the horrific stories that we hear on the news nowadays makes me more cautious. I wouldn't give them a ride regardless. I don't want to put my life at risk by allowing a stranger to be locked in a car with me alone.
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• Philippines
24 Jan 13
same here.I don't think I will ever do that.
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