she's obese , yet she looks confident

Who says she doesn't have a beautifull body???!!!! What is beautiful to one is not to someone else. Most men prefere women who feel soft not the ones who feel like a bag of bones. In plenty of cultures a big woman is loved, normal, preferred. Skinny women, the anorexia kind a likes are seen as poor, nothing to be proud about. What you see as beautiful is what is forced up to you by the century and society you live in. Rubens was a painter who did make the big women famous. He lived in a period everybody saw that as beautiful. You (and most of us) have all reason to admire a woman like that. Nothing more female as a woman wearing dresses, high heels, sense of humour and above all full of self confidence. Already that is making her a beautiful person and as you see yourself weight has nothing to do with being badly or good dressed!

hi mylotter, i had a neighbor nearby who's also obese. she is a graduating student in college and she is not ashame of how she looks like. but even she's obese,she sing very well.in fact she was a a member of church choir. most of them have positive attitude in life.

Hi Simplyd! :) I believe beauty isn't measured by your physical appearance but by the goodness and kindess of your heart. I admire people who are like your department head. If your confidence is oozing in a nice and positive way then people will appreciate you regardless if your fat or not. This goes the same for being witty even if you're not that pretty. People would still find you more beautiful if you are street-smart or intellectually exceptional even if you're not that pretty compared to those pretty faces who do not have brains at all. There's nothing wrong with being obese. Good for your department head because she knows prefectly well how to handle herself. Physical beauty definitely fades and the admirations you get from people because of your physical attributes do not last longer.

Thanks for this nice discussion. Well why she calls others as 'Papa', papa means father here? Chubby ladies can be cute too, i really like Chubby women not skinny ones.. More over beauty doesn't lie in ones body, it is in the eyes of the looker. she is definitely a good king decent lady.

She is definitely a resilient and cheerful person and has a good mindset.I also admire her for the way she does what is right in her own sight and doesn't care what other people consider her to be.

I admire people who are like that.That no matter what are they physical appearance they are still confident enough to face the world.They are not shy and appreciate what they have.Confident is really important to a person cause people around us will just laugh and step us down if we don't show any confidence at all.

Wow! i love reading things like this, really. I mean watching someone same like you but is so confidence about themselves. I am obese too and i am very introvert with it. I feel i look ugly and i won't go out or wear heels. But i simply love watching ladies who have heavy body but they carry it so well. They don't care how they look or they don't care who will pin point them, they are happy with their bodies and imagine she wears lovely dresses, carries heels and wears a handbag everyday. I just loved this inspiration.

Hello SimplyD, I can't believe some people are like that now a days, not having obese as an hindrance to be confident person. maybe that's a problem with most people these days, it's been a problem with me quite some time now because i couldn't control my appettite for food. but some people thinks that mine is ok because some other people out there are way obse than I

I have a cousin who is actually an obese before but because of being involve in belly dancing then her weight is being reduce. She is just chubby now but then before that she is into fashion ever since. She can carry herself into fashion and she is fond of wearing high heels.

what a great outlook she has and these kind of people serves as an inspiration and motivation for people around who are not confident enough to feel good, accept and love themselves and to be optimistic in life., happiness is within us and we are the ones who are in control of it. i admire such kind of people really.

how people look shas nothing to do with how they think or act, though some do that and its bad thing, how they look or how they are old or small has nothing to do with confidence, some like their body how they look and do not mind how other people think, because that is their problem, if we are happy with our shape, then others has nothing to do with the shape the dress or the work or anything, love your body.

hi, obesity has nothing to do with how people see themselves. though some do this mistake and think how they look is how they feel and how they think. its wrong some people are happy with how they look even if others see it bad. No one has the right to judge anyone, for any reason shape

I've seen a lot of obese people here in Romania but they are confident of who they are. One particular is my husband's cousin, she's bigger than my husband yet she's very confident. She has a very beautiful face although her body is not like a model type but I never see her remorseful of her body, she even eat what she wants. She is just simply happy of who she is.

A person like that who is able to love her body and be comfortable in her own skin is a rare gem, as rare as a diamond she is. It's amazing how loving yourself can also affect the people around you. I guess one's own body is one of the most difficult things to love, but if you can love yourself and your body, you can love anything.

Well I think she's really someone admirable. Having such confidence is a great asset, she just prove that size doesn't matter. Beauty comes within. I think there's a lot of "big" women around who have that kind of attitude and that makes them stand out in a group and most of them are very loveable and fun to be with.

There are people who are really confident with their selves and I do admire them as well. They are the kind of people who love their self and never mind what other people think about them. I can say that your officemate is indeed a very confident woman It's weekend again dear

Her attitude is admirable! I find people like her to be a real asset to any company. Coz despite her being "big" than anyone else, she still manages to have a very good outlook in life and is not inside a "shell", like others who doesn't see the beauty in them.