Can I work in a city where ex is there? still f
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
China
January 27, 2013 6:56pm CST
Friends:
In a few months I'll go to the city my ex lives to work. How can I handle it when I live in a city where he and his new girl live too, since I still have feelings for him?
I spent college in that city, and I love there and am determined to live there. But whenever I go there I'll think of him, and think of the chances that we happen to meet somewhere... It's been quite long since we broke up, but I'm still not sure if I could be fine with everything.
Can I work and live there? Should I go to another city, just because of this? I'm quite perplexed...
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8 responses
@5mahi05 (666)
• India
28 Jan 13
I think you should go there. I know your ex lives t here, but then , you know, life has to move on. Its been really long since you have broken up and you have mentioned that you enjoy being in that place. Why would you even want to keep yourself away from something or some place just for one person. More over, he has already moved on and you said he has got a girl friend too, which means, he no more is going to get back to you. I know there will an awkwardness at times when you both accidentally meet somewhere, but then, You need to face such a thing than to run away from the reality. Who knows, may be you both could end up being great friends for life. You never know what life has got in store for you as well as him. So cheer up and enjoy your stay there.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
28 Jan 13
Thank you for helping me figure it out. Your answer is like music to my ears, so I feel much more relieved and promising now.
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@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
28 Jan 13
I think you no need to worry about that,do you know how big a city is?Do you know the probability that you can meet another friend in such a big city occasionally?
Even you meet your ex,I think you will have the gut to face him naturally,things changes,people changes,you need to get over him and move on.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
28 Jan 13
Yes I thought I've let it go before, but when it's time to choose a city to work, I think of him first, and that made me sad for a while. Friends say that I can find another guy, even a better one(I take this as a joke), and let him see that I can be very happy without him.;)
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Life must go on- he is not the end of everything.
I understand that it's not easy to forget the people whom we once love and hurt is.
But you should bear in mind that you have a life and you must go on.
There is no use living with the past- leave the past behind and face tomorrow.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
28 Jan 13
Yes, I get it. And I think maybe when I'm in that city again I won't have the same feelings. It's been quite long. And I love there.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Which do you think is much easier for you- to work in that city where you are more comfortable with and risk seeing your ex and his new girlfriend or to another place where you do not know any people lest a sure work to go to? You have to deal with your situation with your ex coz there would always be a time that you would hump into each other. Why entertain such thoughts like your past when it can no longer help you now? Just learn to move on. You are the only one suffering.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
28 Jan 13
That's a very objective perspective, and thank you Jenny for helping me get out of this mess. I knew my answer when I saw your choices above. The city weighs much more than a person, if I see it objectively.
Happy everyday:)
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
29 Jan 13
Why can't you? A city is big there is no need to meet and if, you started a new life or? You want to hide forever? Even if you would go to an other city/place it's still possible you will meet your ex one day (since after all the world is very small).
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
If you know that you can land more opportunities on such places, and then why not give it a try, although you know you have had some past over the place, just move forward and live a normal life.
I know for sure that person also has a closure to your relationship and totally understands your situation.
@rsa101 (37933)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
I think that you should first move on with your feelings since it would be hard for you to really live in the place where your memories are free from your past. If you cannot move on with your feelings then I guess it would be hard for you to live in that place.
