Do you think lovers are most of the time opposite?
By kokomo
@kokomo (1867)
Philippines
February 5, 2013 2:07am CST
I think so!
I noticed it when I have my boyfriend. I am a party goer, he is not. He enjoys spending his time in his room more and watch movies or have his rest than hang out with his friends. Even in social gatherings he is not fond of attending those. He is allergic with crowd, lol, while me, I am happy if I am with my friends, jamming at the bar or singing at the videoke bar. I am a jolly type of person while him? so serious. If he is saying something serious, I must be serious also and if not, he will be disappointed and it will cause a fight. He is very conscious with his health. Me? I just eat what I want to eat. lol. He speaks more than listens. I listen more than speaks.I am affectionate , he is not. And a lot more
How about you and your lover guys?
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17 responses
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
5 Feb 13
Opposites do attract but then what I've noticed is that the longer time a couple spends together, the more alike they become. Am i the only one who observed this where in when a couple has been together long enough they start to look alike too. I guess the one who is made for you must complement you so you can meet half way.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
100% agree on this. they maybe opposites in the beginning but they will eventually meet in the middle.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
6 Feb 13
My parents used to look alike some people thought they were like siblings. 
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
For me, I believe that there should be a right balance of similarities and differences between partners. If you are too much different from each other, interests would conflict. If you're too alike, you would lose the interest and the excitement in getting to know each other.
My husband and I are a like in many ways, and we are also unique. We love traveling, we are homebuddies and we love singing, among other things. We are also different in such a way that I'm aloof, while he can get along well with other people. He has a very cheerful disposition and easy to please, while I'm the more serious type and not very approachable by strangers.
Nevertheless, we love each other's uniqueness and we enjoy the common things we share.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
7 Feb 13
Opposites may attract and even be exciting for a time. However, for the long haul, people who are more alike will be more compatible.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
Sometimes we can say they're opposite in many things. Like what you said it is clear the opposite hobbies of you and your boyfriend. In my case, there are slightly have some and these differences cannot change forever i think. It is not hobby but this is the way he is. I can tell yes most common of the partners. And to think that all human have all uniqueness of everyone. Even we think that certain person is almost same as our way for sure there are things differ from us. Its the identity.
Having same way in common to our partner is nice and we feel happy especially if we love them so much..It brings us happiness inside to inspired daily life. Have a nice day friends!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
That is because OPPOSITES ATTRACT.... We usually do not look for somebody who is exactly like us. Although we would like to have a person that shares the same interests as we do, but most often than not, we always end up with the person that is exactly our opposite.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
7 Feb 13
That is not true, it's proved we do. We even look for someone who has the same shape of the face! And the best couples start dressing the same, feel the connection, what they all call are twin souls for real.
The opposite is just "great" for a while because the partner dears to do what we are not able to.
@kiepher (55)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Well, maybe! and that made the relationship working. It'll make it boring when you always agree to each other. And the best of it, you are not pretending to be someone you are not just to please the other. The two of you are just being yourselves. But not all the times. There are who prefer to have someone whose like them, well that depends..
@jonastabuena (2307)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
Opposite Attract that's most people say, in my case i think it depends, as i noticed most of the time we indeed up arguing and worst we end into breakup, but it so funny after a couple of days we were together again, maybe we are opposite in some aspect in our life, but we have something in common in some area, maybe the attitude part. so i guess we are not really opposite, and in my opinion lovers are not opposite most of the time, and i believe there is no really opposite when i come to love, there always a reason why you like a person and why you love him/her.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
6 Feb 13
Peopleal in lovand become intimate for many different reasons. Lovers can be opposite in their behaviors and natures. They can also be the same. Sometimes the traits we look for in those we become romantically interested in are easy to see and sometimes they are more complicated to see. @WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
5 Feb 13
No they are not. It's proved that people like what looks like themselves. No matter if it's about the outside (the way you look) or the inside (interests). We like what is familiar to us.
@toxic_lifestyle (1213)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
I agree with you! Because me and my boyfriend were really opposite in some other ways. :)
@nixon56 (15)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
It's nice you noticed, you now realized that lovers are two different egos bidding their time to accept their diversity. Imagine if you have the same qualities,same likes and dislikes,same habit,would not your company be boring and unadventurous? You're differences bond you together and your similarities keep the ties stronger. If your relationship have been going on for a time now and he also noticed the(your)differences and makes no big deal about it,you're both in for a lasting one. . .Good luck...
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
5 Feb 13
Opposite attracts... but based on your story, your opposite traits should not lead into fights. it should be more of the giving. He wanted you to be his GF that's why he pursued you, why that he will be disappointed to your differences? He could just encourage you have similar activities with him, or food... but this should not be the cause of any fight.
@pomwango (1353)
• Kenya
5 Feb 13
i think its what is called complimenting eachother,if people listen to your differences they wonder how you are together but i know you love him because i also see so many differences with my husband but it has never made me love him any less.yes at times we quarrel over some of the issues but we are used to our different tastes so we are okay that way.he loves loud music , i cant stand it i enjoy mine low.he loves watching epic movies in the dark i like romantic movies and with the lights on,so once in a while i compromise and watch the epic with lights on and he will watch my romantic movie with lights off and we are happy.
@Archie0 (5636)
•
5 Feb 13
I feel or what i have seen is lovers are always opposite. Their chemistry never meets. It is very rare when they have almost same taste, and when they have same liking's i think relationships are happier and simpler. But i am not lucky to have a good relationship even, so the part of being the good chemistry or same liking's is far yet.
@binaybbsr1 (375)
• India
5 Feb 13
true, love is like magnetism, opposite poles attracts each other. In human beings, we try to find all other things in life, which we have not enjoyed so far and when we meet a person of different mentality/ taste, we get a scope to understand new philosophies in life. This makes us to understand each other more and more and gradually it is designated as a love relation. So I do agree with your experience truth in life.
@iWhizkid (31)
• United States
5 Feb 13
Don't have a GF atm lol, but yeah, i met this girl a while ago through a friend and we started talkinh on facebook and since than i am trying to tell her that i like her but she always say we're friends but its not like that, i mean if its like that why she get disappointed or get even angry if i don't talk to her once in a day atleast? so basicaly i am going through a very complicated relationship right now.
