My friends were accused of child abuse

@Porcospino (31367)
Denmark
February 10, 2013 10:11am CST
Today my husband visited two of our friends and when he got home he told me that that they had received some shocking news. They have two small children and someone had reported them for child abuse. They are not sure who reported them. It could have been the neighbours or a person from the kindergarten. They were very shocked to hear that they had been reported, because they would never do something like that. Fortunately the whole thing ended in a positive way. They received a visit from a social worker who had to check their home and their relationship to the children and after talking to them the person came to the conclusion that they didn't abuse their children. Of course they are very happy and relieved that the social worker believed that they hadn't done anything, but they are still in shock, and they simply can't believe that they were reported for something like. Have you ever been reported for something that you didn't do? What happened?
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8 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
11 Feb 13
When you do not commit anything that bad, even if someone reports, the things would come out right for you - that is what should happen and I am happy that such things happen at your place. I am worried if that would have been in India, the couple would have had to face so many problems. Fortunately, I havent been reported yet and I think there is no such thing that I have done so far for which anyone would report me. But yes, I was at a party a few years ago (sometime in 2005) and the neighbors had called in the cops just because they thought it was late night and we were playing loud music in the garden. Though such things are common in many places here, but then, I think no one complaints. But then, these neighbors did. The cops did arrive and told us to either close down or at least stop the music. They did not take much of action as in the party there were some people who were related to more influential people. However, the host was good and they politely stopped the music. And asked us to get inside and continue.
@Porcospino (31367)
• Denmark
15 Feb 13
In my country I think that it like that in most cases - if someone reports you and you didn't do anything you don't get problems. There have been cases where people have been reported for things that didn't do like child abuse and the social workers didn't believe that they didn't do anything, but fortunately that situation is not very common here. The story about the party where the police came reminds of a place where I lived in a past. The neighbours played loud music every weekend. My father tried to talk to them many times, but that didn't help, and my father finally decided to call the police. The police just said: "We don't have time for those things, you have to handle the problem on your own" so the police never showed up like they did in your case. I think that they are too busy with other things.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
my aunt was report for kidnapping her granddaughter whom she raised since birth... her son (my cousin) told his girlfriend that he was going to break up with him and she immediately went to the social workers to go to my aunts house and get her kid... she didnt even ask my aunt for her kid first. after years of negotiating with her... my aunt was able to get her granddaughter back... it seems like her mom just took her out of spite and didnt take good care of her... at 9 years old, she acted as her new sister's babysitter. the doctor said she is undernourished and has chronic cold which could have easily been treated if given the right medicine
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@Porcospino (31367)
• Denmark
14 Feb 13
That is a very sad story. It is one thing that the adults don't get along, but it is very sad when children have to suffer because of the decisions made by adults like the decision your cousin's girlfriend made about taking the child. It sounds to me like she thought about herself and not about the best solution for the child. It is good to hear that child is back with her grandmother now, because the girlfriend sounds irresponsible. How old is the child now?
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@KrauseHome (36449)
• United States
11 Feb 13
Wow!! This would be hard, especially if you knew you were good parents. Good thing the Social worker came on a Good day and took time to believe them instead of having someone that would not care no matter how good you are to your kids. I have heard of some just being out to prove something, and it is bad. There are people out there, especially people I work with, who are always accusing me of being Racist, and then also making Cruel mean White jokes that are actually degrading. Makes me wonder who they think they are by doing this, and nothing you do can prove anything different. They are always the ones going up like a kindergartner tattling on someone, or you any chance they get as well. Reminds me of the Teachers pet who could never do no wrong that everyone HATED.
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@toyota4k (1208)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
There are big and little devils scattered all over the place doing nothing good by just messing up anyone's life. Let them do what they care about and see if they don't die slowly with envy...lol
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
10 Feb 13
Yes people did report me as well years ago. Actually it was my ex husband. Not willing to pay for the children and while I was trying to work (20 hours a week) and manage he claimed I was not taking good care of them. Some years later someone did because of the fact I should have many cats locked up in my shed. I had no cats at all. Later I found out it was the new wife of my (ex) father in law. As I moved to an other place neighbours complained about my dog. Later I discovered they were the ones Climbing over my gate, setting the dog free! A while ago someone called the police (again) about the dog. Ofcourse there was nothing going on. A friend and her husband were reported (you can do this over here anomynous same if it comes to animal abuse) about child abuse of their daughter. A social worker did show up many times. Just once won't do it over here. In the end the case was closed but... they keep/save the report till their youngest child is 18 years old! This means that if some ... is reporting them anomynous again they might loose their children forever. Most interesting thing/fact is that you seldom see a social worker show up where they are really needed. Same with the so called animal molesters. I think the biggest part of these people are way ruder as we are plus they won't let them in (kick those social workers, animal rescuers) out.
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@Porcospino (31367)
• Denmark
10 Feb 13
Thanks for sharing your story. What happened after your ex-husband reported you? Did you get many visits from social workers afterwards? My parents have also had problems with the neighbours and their dog, but not as bad as the things you describe. Unfortunately it is true that the social workers sometimes don't show up where they are really needed. There have been cases from my country where child abuse have been going on for years. Those families simply wouldn't let the social workers in and the social workers gave up and ignored the families. Later the social workers received a lot of criticism and they were accused of neglecting their responsibility.
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@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
11 Feb 13
So far me and my family never experienced such incident but when I got married I sort of experience this. It's my husband's granny, she's very sensitive with the noises made by our neighbors. It's actually just a kid who's making noises but when granny finds it disturbing already she would call a police and ask them to check our neighbors. My husband doesn't like this because she makes enemy but she doesn't listen.
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
11 Feb 13
That must have been very scary! I am glad nothing like this has happened to me, it would feel very nerve wracking and frustrating.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Feb 13
hi Porcospino mo I can be happy to say I have never been reported for child abuse at all.thats terrible for someone to do to your friends when they were innocent. Maybe it was someone whom one of thm might have had words with.. some people are just born mean I think.They truly awful to m ke a false report like that