My situation makes me lost...
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
China
February 19, 2013 6:54am CST
Well when I think of my situations now, it's like I'm stuck between the past and future. I cannot get back to the past, nor can I see a clear picture of the future.
As a student that is to graduate in a few months, I'm facing thesis, graduation and employment issues, and I don't know how my future would gonna be, how is it like, what will I be, or whether can I support myself with my salary, whether I could meet the Mr. right and get married in the due time, and everything!
It's like a great, mysterious turning point, and I'm kind of lost in here...
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17 responses
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
Maybe you think a lot sarah. :) JUst enjoy the daily life and situation that you are having and I believe, right things will follow. You will not see the brighter things if you worry too much.
I think most people came to a point in their lives that it seems on a cross road or a "crisis". Again, just enjoy every minute of your life and everything will follow. Keep smiling and goodluck on your thesis and goodluck on the new phase that you will enter upon graduation!
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
21 Feb 13
Thank you dear:) I love your words "right things will follow", and I know I need to pull myself together and start working on it. I'm learning everyday now, for the exams and interview. I believe these efforts will pay off. Have a very nice day bluespygirl!:D
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
20 Feb 13
I used to feel that way when my days in school is about to end and my life in the outside world is about to start. The best thing to do is to take one step at a ime, a day at a time. The future is not promised, and the only permanent thing in the world is change. We cannot change the past and we cannot really foretell what is to happen. We might even miss the more important stuff if we are to be so stressed about worrying what is to be.
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
20 Feb 13
That is so true, and I love every word you said. That is very encouraging and inspiring. Thank u so much.
@buddha3 (1026)
• India
19 Feb 13
Hey, don't worry. These strange feelings keep coming in our lives and we feel lost, down and sad many times. But these changes are inevitable. You must accept it and hope for the best. Of course, if you are good you will get a good job. And don't be too tensed about being in love and getting married. First focus on finding a good job for yourself and then half your worry is solved.
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
20 Feb 13
You are right, I'd better get things done one by one. I hope I could get through this transitional period soon and get back on the track.
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
19 Feb 13
Hello there ! You will be graduating by next months but it doesn't mean your done with life ! No , it is a big no because your real life is just about to begin. You are about to new enter the real world , the arena of life. It is now in your hands as to how you will play with life. No more turning back , either you make your life or break your life. The good cards are in your hands , it is up to you on how you play with those. Your future lies in your hands with the great help Of God.Goodluck friend !
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
20 Feb 13
It's when you think about your life you often feel confused. But real work needs to be done so as to fight for a better result, and I know being immersed in those blurry feelings is no good. Thank you for your reassuring and kind words. I love it!
@greenthumb018 (595)
• Philippines
19 Feb 13
Hello Sarahliuliwen! You think too much. Just try to focus on one thing first. Why dwell on the past and be worried on your future? Focus on the things that you have to do now. Like thesis and graduation. After that, focus on finding a job and so on and so forth. You'll be surprised that you'll overcome all of that. Lots of things can happen and who knows, you might be very lucky to find Mr. Job and Mr. Right at the same time? 
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
20 Feb 13
That will be great:D I don't mind if they come to me one by one!lol!
Seriously your words are very helpful and reassuring, thank you so much and best wishes for you!
@tyleremy (170)
• China
19 Feb 13
Hi sarah, thanks for sharing you story with us!I had my lost moments when I was about to graduate and it turned out that I worried too much.It takes time and you do it step by step,no need to giving yourself too much pressure!Like I said I've been there and get your prior things done.Easy up and wish you have a great day!
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
20 Feb 13
Thank you for your advice You are absolutely right, too much pressure won't be anything good. I should really take it easy. Best wishes for you, too!
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
19 Feb 13
Haii friend..
Why are you confused?Be happy dear friend.Everything happens for a reason.And the things that are going to be happen also to be good.Pray to god and wait for the person for your future.May god bless you to get a best loving person as a life partner.Thank you..
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
20 Feb 13
Thank you for praying for me, it's very nice. All the best for you, too, Dassodils. I don't know whether the things to be happen are good or bad, but I will do everything I can to make things better.
@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
20 Feb 13
Hi Sarahliuliwen!
Congratulations in advance!
Do not over think.. just enjoy the moments that you have now.. reserved you energy for more challenging life after graduation because to tell you frankly life after graduation is the hardest point of life for me..
You have to start for a new life again.. look for job, earn your own income, establish your future..
So, just enjoy...
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
21 Feb 13
Thank you! I think I will. I am relatively more adjustable to new things, and I'll live my current and new life to its full, and learn from life.
@nita04 (268)
• Philippines
19 Feb 13
Sarahliuliwen, being confused is normal especially if you have aimed to achieve something good for your future. Just take it one day at a time then try to savor your daily achievements, for all you know you are already up there, receiving the laurels of your hard work.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
20 Feb 13
Yes I really want to have a good future and everything, but I have to take efforts and make progress everyday, as you said. Try hard, and hope for the best...
@Janebaby (47)
• China
20 Feb 13
Good afternoon,dear friend.I come from China,too.What is your major in college? i find it is very important for looking for a job after graduation.In China, get a decent job is not a easy thing.You should take each advantage of your professional technology, work hard, relation resorce and so on. Every one will face it,you just need to summon up courage to try it,then hope for good results.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
21 Feb 13
My major is English interpreting (MTI student). My parents expect me to be a English teacher and I kind of like this job. But interpreting will be more challenging and profitable. I'm balancing the two now, and maybe I'll take interpreting or translation as a part-time job.
Thank you for your advice, that means a lot. Good luck every day!
@elenaliu (149)
• China
20 Feb 13
Most of us will face the same situation like you now,when I graduated from college two years ago,I felt confused and apprehensive.I didn't know what to do,I couldn't find a satisfied job,it kept a long time I was depressed.However when the difficult period was over,you will be suddenly enlightened.Just be optimistic.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
21 Feb 13
You are right, every graduate may have this difficult period like us, I'll do what I need to do and leave myself less time to be sentimental:)
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
19 Feb 13
we always face chalages in our lifes new jobs and or finding the love of our life and we will always overcome the fears that they give us you will find a job and keep in mind if its not the job you want it can be a stepping stone to a better one dont think you will be trapped in a job you dont like as for mr right time will give you all that you want it will take time to find the right one for you good luck on your up coming new life
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
20 Feb 13
Yes everything takes time to fulfill. I believe being sentimental is just momentary thing, and I will adjust my attitude towards the future. Thank you:)
@kathylabayan (106)
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
Well, I think don't push yourself too much pressure.. Live by the moment, focus on your thesis first and make sure to pass all the requisites. and from there move on to the next. all your concerns are vital and you can not be succesful on doing them all simultaneously. Because when you stress yourslef too much all those mentioned above, you might fail your thesis and lose the chance of graduating and experience the luxury of being stress free about employment issues,. Now you have to take a break, condition yourself and focus on your thesis, :)
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
21 Feb 13
Yeah you're right, I cannot complete all the tasks at the same time. But good news: I've completed the thesis now, so things are much easier than they used to be! And I feel accomplished and encouraged. Thank you Kathylabayan:)
@nusratmba (8)
• Pakistan
20 Feb 13
yes you are right. initially when you feel like this, it is very good for any one leave all thing as is where is basis and go for walk in garden or beach most importantly discuss this situation to your close one like mother or father or any best friends because some time the problem is nothing but your fears hide the right selection and illusions disturb you meditation is the good for you if you believe it.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
21 Feb 13
Yeah I think I get it. Thank you for your analysis and advice.:)
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
21 Feb 13
The feelings that you are going through now is something that is completely natural to have to go through in your life. You are coming very close to the end of a chapter in your life and that will naturally be something that will make you reminescent for the past because you cannot go back through and repeat those things that have happened to you in the past. And of course, just like you are not able to relive your past, you aren't able to tell the future and because of that, you don't know what is still to come in your life.
@MHernandez (218)
• South Korea
20 Feb 13
All I can to you is just enjoy the PRESENT never worry about the future! Just what this moment could offer to you....You are just giving yourself a headache ...Just give your best in everything that you do so that you can get a stable or a good job after graduation!! Don't pu stress on yourself thinking of what your future will be!! Good luck!!
@priyaxxx85 (108)
• India
23 Feb 13
We all go through this transition phase. The past no longer serves us, present is what we have to deal with, while the future awaits us. It's quite normal and understandable to feel the way you are doing. But take everything in your stride, don't let the pressure overwhelm you. Pressures fade away with time. Relax, all is well.
