cheating

Philippines
February 20, 2013 4:08am CST
I really do not understand how or why a guy or a girl cheats :( from what I believe commitment between a girl and a guy who is in a relationship should be honored and respected. I can't also imagine that you say I love you to two people :/ I am just wondering why people needs to cheat... some says it's because they are not happy with their relationships but as for me if you are just bf's and gf's then if you are not happy anymore leave the relationship instead of cheating and if you are already married, I hope both parties will do everything to make it work instead of cheating...
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17 responses
@danix1982 (593)
• Philippines
21 Feb 13
i hate also knowing other girls are seeking for a relationship even they are already married because its not good in the eyes of man but also not good in the eyes of GOD.
• Philippines
21 Feb 13
you have a point naryshkashian, but i believe that, not all couples engaged to that relationship had felt love for each other, some couples are just compatible to each other, its really hard to tell what is really a true love, some were just mis-interpreted the feelings of infatuation. i guess cheating is normal on the game of love, we humans are not perfect and there is no such thing as a perfect couple, maybe the boy/girl is looking for something that girlfriend/boyfriend don't possess, couple must handle the relationship hand in hand, the relationship that only one partner is doing the best to make the relationship work won't be successful at all. cheating is worst trial in a relationship, if the couple weren't able to handle it, this will lead into breakup. And i believe on this statement " When you say i love you to a person, you automatically give that person the right to hurt".
@sender621 (14918)
• United States
21 Feb 13
I don't think that all men and women involved in a relationship set out to cheat on each other. I think that situations and circumstances bring those opportunities about. Still, we make the choices we are tempted with.
@stanley777 (9354)
• Philippines
21 Feb 13
Yeah your right, why would someone risks a relationship or a commitment just to have and illicit relationship with others. To have an adventure or because some thought it would be a challenge for them or maybe others are really vulnerable to temptation. In my opinion, why stay in a relationship if your not happy with your partner. It's better to break up with her/him than to hurt her/his feelings by cheating.
@mariaperalta (19074)
• Mexico
21 Feb 13
They cheat because they can. most cheap for the adventure. Its wrong. I never cheated on my ex husband and I hope he never cheated on me. But many men are dogs...
@jdawg011 (498)
• Canada
20 Feb 13
Yep, if you are in a monogamous relationship, then cheating only serves to hurt the other person, and ruin what the couple had.
@maean_19 (4657)
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
Hi dear, how old are you? I asked your age because I can sense innocence in your query. Regarding your question. Why do people really cheat? People cheat or become unfaithful for many reasons. In reality, cheating happens even in marriage relationships. Cheating happens in gf-bf relationships because in the first place, there is no sense of maturity of the person cheating. He or she is not serious on his or current partner. Hence, they may have entered the relationship confused of what they feel. The truth is, many people especially the young make "LOVE", "LIKE" and "LUST" interchanged. For married people, some would become unfaithful because again, in the first place, they got married in the wrong time. Others cheat because they are weak and easily draws in to temptation.
@buddha3 (1026)
• India
20 Feb 13
OMG, naryshkashian, I was also wondering the same just before I saw your discussion. In fact I've been thinking of it for quite some time now, as to why do people cheat and how is it possible that you fall in love with many people at a time!!!! Are human relationships so cheap? Is love so worthless that it can happen with anybody at any time, at any place and with any number of people simultaneously? It sounds so stupid, but I've seen people like this, and it's shocking that the number of such people is increasing everyday. In my present college, I've there are at least 6 people doing this!
@redredrose (1105)
• United States
20 Feb 13
I have never cheated on my hubby nor has he ever cheated on me which is good but there are so many that do cheat. Some cheat because they like the adventure of it or whatever and some do it because they feel like they love 2 people at the same time. I think tho that if you love someone and want to be with them and are telling them you love them then you shouldn't cheat. If you feel like you are going to cheat or want to be with someone else then just break up with them if they are just b/f g/f. Tho if you are married i do agree you should try and work things out instead of cheat because the wedding vows do say for better or worse meaning you stay with this person no matter what in the good times and the bad. I have never cheated on my hubby so i do not know why people do it or would want to if they have a good spouse or bf g/f.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Feb 13
Hi, When someone is caught between commitment and goodbye, the best one can do is to cheat. It starts with trivial matters like when one realizes that her hair is not that shiny or she has a bad breath sometimes and he has started to put on weight via his stomach. Not able to come to terms with these small imperfections, the eyes start to wander to the other fields nearby while pretending to listen to the seemingly incessant and unintelligible chatter from the one nearby. And the seed of cheating is born.
• Dhaka, Bangladesh
20 Feb 13
Hi Nary, you are very right. I agree with you. A good relation is based on honesty, sincerity, mutual trust, sacrifice, good understanding, well patience, well behaviour, love etc. A relation cannot be fruitful adopting cheating means. Have a very nice day.
@Raine38 (11504)
• United States
20 Feb 13
Because some people do not know how to honor their words and do not give much weight to commitments. They feel like they can get away with it. It is hard to tell really how the mind of a cheater works. But we must remember that we can only let people to treat us poorly as much as we allow them to.
• Poland
20 Feb 13
I think you are right naryshkashian. If someone isn't happy in relationship he should just leave. If someone can't be faithful to one person then should never create a relationship and be honest from the start saying that doesn't want anything serious. Cheating instead of breaking up often is just an easy way to hurt two people instead of one cause there is always that other girl/boy that may not be aware of situation.
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
That's also their argument, they couldn't understand people who stick to one.. For me it only means that their true love haven't come yet. There are lots of reason why people are in a relationship. But those reasons other than LOVE or being INLOVE, more likely will cheat. Some gave it a try coz they LIKE her/him and such but not enough reason to work things out when trials strike upon. Only love do wonders, linger, suffer, endure to the last bit of it.
@Aja103654 (5650)
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
I agree with you. Some people, I think, cheat to improve their self-esteem or they are not satisfied with one person. They are selfish and they want to have everything, when in reality, one really does not get everything. Some people cheat also just to play the game. Maybe they are bored and they find cheating fun. Such a sick way to have fun when they are actually hurting many people. It shows that cheaters are immature and there is no excuse for it. No matter how much they say they are 'in-love with someone' I am not buying that. it doesn't change the fact that what they did was wrong.
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
Right but there are people who love adventure and not contented of just one. So be careful in choosing yours.
• India
20 Feb 13
I am agree with you in that and I believe those people who cheat and hurt their partner should come over their low parts of their life. I mean how much a person is empty of things inside tries to hurt people who are around him or her by doing wrong and I am really sorry for that kind of people.