Childless at 35

Philippines
February 21, 2013 10:39am CST
It has been 8 long years of waiting and we still don't have a child. I am now 35 (hubby is 38) but still hoping we will be blessed by one. I've been seeing my OB Gynecologist few months before getting married in Feb. 2005. My doctor said that my eggs are not growing inside my ovaries so I was advised for a continuous work up and took some fertility meds (Clomid). I got pregnant in May 2005 and was advised to rest. I am religiously taking my meds for my baby inside but I still had my miscarriage in July of same year. I was very depressed and asked God why it happened. We tried again on a yearly basis but still won't be positive. December of 2012, my husband was advised to have his Seminalysis where in his sperm will be evaluated. The test went well and so we tried again following the doctors "mate schedules", positions and what to do after every "schedule". I had my pregnancy test few days after a month but it resulted to negative. Was told to wait for few more weeks to test and hoping it will result to the much awaited "positive" one. I am ware that some women cannot produce enough HCG to detect pregnancy for the first few weeks. I have also read some testimonies about pregnancies not detected in pregnancy test kit and with ultrasound but those are of rare cases. As of this writing, I am not yet doing another pregnancy test and will just be waiting for ultrasound schedule by the end of this month. My hubby and I are still hoping that we will get a good positive result. We are crossing our fingers, praying more and hoping a lot. :)
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17 responses
@Chico1793 (135)
• United States
22 Feb 13
Don't lose hope! I admire the fact that you and your husband are keeping at it and not giving up due to the obstacles you both faced. May god bless you both with a wonderful child soon. :)
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• Philippines
22 Feb 13
Thank you Chico. We are not loosing hope.
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@redredrose (1105)
• United States
21 Feb 13
I really hope this time you are pregnant and have the baby you want. I am now 41 and hubby is 43 and we have been married 13 yrs and no kids. I was told i don't ovulate enough to get pregnant. I took an ovulation test and ovulated for the first time in ages and tried with hubby but nothing. It may take time or it may never happen. I have a friend who was married 8 yrs and kept trying to have a child and nothing until she turned 40 then she was pregnant with twins. This tho happened after she adopted a little boy. I am so sorry for your loss of the first baby and hope you have the child you want but it may take time. As i'm always told you could adopt. Well again sorry for your loss good luck with everything my prayers are with you keep us here on my lot posted.
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• Philippines
21 Feb 13
We are on the same boat redredrose. I also don't ovulate on my own so I was prescribed to take fertility pills for 5 days that will make my eggs to mature. We had follicle counting last month to identify which ovary has more eggs so we can focus on that side. We were also advised when the eggs will pop. What matters is we did our best and will leave everything to HIS will. We are also considering adoption as an option :) Thanks you so much and for the prayers. God bless.
• United States
24 Feb 13
I asked hubby once why we didn't do fertility pills or ivf and he said we never could have afforded it not even the pills because they might not be covered under his insurance. so we just didn't do any of it tho we should have thought more about it. You are very welcome for the prayers and good luck to you.
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
23 Feb 13
I wish that you are in the early stages of a healthy and successful pregnancy. If not I hope that you very soon will be in that happy and fulfilling situation. It is easy to test too early and get a negative result. I am crossing my fingers you will be getting a positive result. My son was born when I was 34 years old and my daughter was born when I was 36 years old. Those ages are near to your current age.
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• Philippines
23 Feb 13
Thank you for inspiring me Max. We are still hoping for a positive result. :)
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
22 Feb 13
Ohhh! I understand fully well your sentiment. I could not help bur wish and pray that you get the desire of your heart in due time. You are 35 and your husband 38, but there is never anything late in God's time. Wait and hope for the best. Whatever is the outcome, trust that God knows the best for your.
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• Philippines
22 Feb 13
Amen to that Salonga. Be believe that all things are possible if you will believe and obey. God's timing is always perfect and whatever the result is, it will always be for our own good.
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@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
22 Feb 13
Hello Paperdolls, I pray from God for you!. I can understand your feelings as I remember I got married at the age of 29 years and my wife was of 25 years at the time of marriage.Till 3 years of our marriage my wife could not conceived and I remember how she used to feel in that situation she literally used to cry to think as if she had some problem but doctors never could diagnosed what problem she or me had as every test he did were normal and all of a sudden she got pregnant and delivered twins (boy + girl). I know you be depressed but don't lose hope and have faith in God definitely you will conceive baby.
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• Philippines
24 Feb 13
Thanks for inspiring me with your story sjvg and I appreciate your prayers a lot. God bless
@cccbbb (1)
22 Feb 13
Wish you, pray for you...
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• Philippines
22 Feb 13
thank you ccbb. God bless
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
21 Feb 13
I have been where you are. We spent years trying, and it's so hard, especially when everyone around seems to get pregnant and have children so easily. I hope you get the results you want!
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• Philippines
21 Feb 13
Thank you for hearing me out :D That is right, it sounds stressful to me when everyone is getting pregnant aside from me but that's alright. You can not have things you want but God knows the desire of my heart. I believe He will give it to me in His perfect time.
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
21 Feb 13
My prayers are with you, no judgement and all, no pressure even, in God's time you will be blessed and just keep the hope alive. I admire your strength both for you and your husband. I know how hard it is to be in that situation hold on tight sissy.
• Philippines
22 Feb 13
Thank you so much. Your prayers mean a lot to us. God bless
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• South Africa
22 Feb 13
Hi, just want to offer support to you and your hubby! I guess you guys just have to be patient,and wait for the ultrasound. Stay cheerful and always hope for the best. You are certainlyy at just the right age to have a child...i KNOW,I had my daughter at that age.Take care and remember that everything happens for some reason or other :) Good luck, will think of you and send good thoughts....
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• Philippines
22 Feb 13
Doing pregnancy test is really tempting but will really wait for the ultrasound to confirm. Right, everything happens for a reason and it will always be for our own good. Thank you. God bless
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@lacieice (2060)
• United States
21 Feb 13
I assume getting pregnant is on your mind 24/7, and that is part of the problem. You are apparemtly stressed out about all this, and you need to find a way to relieve that stress. Many times, I've heard of people who were trying to have a child. When they decide that what will be will be, they tend to relax and many times, this helps to get pregnant. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you are trying too hard. Relax and let nature take its course.
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• Philippines
21 Feb 13
Thanks Lacieice. You are right about the 27/7 thing. hahaha I heard that from a close friend too and was also advised to relax and wait for God's will.
• Dhaka, Bangladesh
21 Feb 13
Hi Paperdolls, still you have opportunity to get a baby. You should do all as per the advice of your doctor. It is proved that you and your husband do not have any problem. Both of your fertile. You just follow the advice of your doctor. Have a very nice day.
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• Philippines
21 Feb 13
Hi aminul, thanks for the lift. Great day for you as well.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
21 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Hey i can understand your situation very well and i know u and your hubby must be very much tensed regarding this but very honestly, u should stay positive and motivate your hubby as well so that both do not lose any kind of hope. U should do another pregnancy test and see to it that the results come out properly. What say?
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• Philippines
21 Feb 13
Thank you Subhojit. We did the best that we can and we are putting everything in God's hands. Right, we should not get tired of hoping :)
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
21 Feb 13
We are also trying to conceive. We've been married for almost 2 years now but still, no luck. Anwyay, we're not losing hope. I'm turning 30 this year and hubby's turning 40. We're still hopeful and we're keeping the faith.
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• Philippines
22 Feb 13
Let us keep our faith and hoping to hear from you soon :) I will include you in my prayers. God bless
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@mani118 (146)
• Pakistan
21 Feb 13
Without children's a family is not complete.Every single Married couple want's a child which bring happiness in thier life. I haope and pray that one day you will have a child. Patience will bring happiness for you. Pray form GOD and stay positive. One day will come when you will have a baby in your hand..
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• Philippines
21 Feb 13
Thank you Mani. We are praying without ceasing. :)
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 13
hi paperdolls I too will join the others and send a lot of prayers for you to get pregnant and have a wonderful little baby all of your own.And really mylot prayers are known to be really powerful too so heres hoping the next test is positive. hugs from hatley
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
Thank you so much Hatley! I appreciate your prayers :) *hugs*
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
I'm with you my friend, praying for the much awaited gift every parents is wishing for. I know in time it will be granted. My wife and I have waited for five years too, before my child was born. I think in your case the possibility is more because you got pregnant but unfortunately you have a miscarriage. Just keep the faith and hope for the best.
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
Hi stanley! I appreciate your encouragement so much. God bless. Happy mylotting! :)
@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
God is good and I am sure that He will give it to you in His time. I have friends who got married in their early 40s but God blessed them with one child. You also have a chance and God will prepare you for whatever He in stored for you. Just keep the faith!
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
Thank you for the encouragement cheri :) God bless