boyfriend losing time for me

hi there^^ all i can say is I feel you dear, In my opinion if you feel that there is something different then maybe there is.. and you should talk to him about that, I still believe that even though how busy you are..its not an excuse to forgot your responsibility as a partner. But on the other side maybe he is still adjusting.. and about those occasions that you guys missed, because he is so busy, I think it would help next time if you will remind him in advance, in that way he wont forget, well I know you might feel uncomfortable reminding him, but sometimes you just have to do that.. well you know guys.. (but not all of them were like that too) at least you guys know what each other like. So communication is the best key! GOODLUCK

Dont worry he may be just busy with his work.he must be having many responsibilities so he is not able to give you time.you both are having communication problem once that is solved everything wil be alrite.

This is really common among working couples. And I guess the best way to deal with it is just to have atleast an open communication even if you do not have the time to be together all the time. That way you can still be able to nurture the love.

How should we know? We don't know your boyfriend personally. From what you say, he is simply very busy and working hard on his job. It's amazing how people loss their balance with work and living their lives. If you are unhappy, then try making a move. Visit him or do something for him. If he cancels always, then do something else. It is tough. I have not seen my boyfriend often either, and it makes me feel very dejected.

Dear Choconut,I sorry to here your circumstances. I coulde iamge your worried. If loves don't have enough time together or event don't talk much ,after some period of time ,maybe you two would loss the williness to talk or to share,then is a big trouble. In my modest view,you could talk to your boyfriend and let him know your inner feelings,then figure out a solution

Hi choconut..Suki na kita sa mga discussion,hehe We all know that spending time together (or for each other) is an essential factor for the success of a relationship. I understand about your worries. Maybe when you go out together, you may ask him about his job. This might give you an idea of how busy (or not) he is. At least you are dating some time and he is texting you. Maybe he's also preparing for your future together.

That's frustrating. This does happen when things change in someone else's life. Is it possible for you to meet him for lunch or breakfast? Sometimes that's easier to schedule than dinners or evenings out because lunch and breakfast don't take as much time.

I've been dealing with the same problem but it's not just my fault, I have two jobs and am working around sixty hours a week. My girlfriend has three jobs and works about forty hours a week. I still feel bad though because I have less and less time with her. Unfortunately this is what's necessary at this point in time because I'm trying to save up enough money to be able to move at the end of the summer. We try to enjoy the time we have together though and we squeeze in small dates here and there. Still they aren't big dates and we still don't have much time together. I think you and your boyfriend need to have a talk and you guys just need to figure out time together to set aside time for dates and to spend with each other.

You could actually look at this in two ways: One, it's either he's getting ready for your lives together. Thus working hard and making sure that he would be able to provide for you and your family. Or that this relationship will not work because he would be either be married to his job, or the flame might not be burning as bright. I suggest that you seriously talk to him about it. And then figure it out for yourself. Good luck!

Also you can call from outside, in case you don't have balance in your phone and can be in touch with him. However, if I were in his place, I would definitely find time for my loved ones even at whatever busy situations. If we cannot keep a balance life with others, what is the use of having higher positions or busy schedules for companies or others?

its time to just keep moving on and think about it just as a parcel of life for sure

Thats interesting. Do you see him try to contact you at all? Is it just text messages or does he try to make some time for you? When it comes to me, if I don't see the other people try then I just don't feel like they care. Maybe thats the case with you two. I hope it isn't but thats just what I think based on the way you descibed his actions, or more like lack of them.

it is usually happen on the relationship.. your boyfriend had a point for it, sometimes really is important the work and rest than managing your relationship. I experience this too also, when I got promoted to my job and had more projects in office so that I have no time for my girlfriend.. It is hard for her that we cant handle our relationship for good, but the more hard is I feel I cant do anything to make our relationship normal. after work I feel very tired so I need to go home and rest. we can talk only text and calls. but now I left my job so I do have lots of time for her.

hi choconut! have you tried to talk to him about what you feel? What did you do when this things happen?

Just as he says it will only be temporary.but still he should be giving you time to talk or just say hi I miss you.he can also call you once in a while.but if not then there might be some hidden agenda that needs to be taken care of.

Talk with him about your concern

hi choconut, believe me,i feel you. if it will make you feel better, i'd say you're just being paranoid. if you guys are being together once a week or so, then everything is fine. i'm not sure how long your relationship to date is but depending on the level of trust you have in your relationship , you should understand that it is the quality and not the quantity of "being together" that matters. if you want you can test him, make it the other way around. don't text him for a few days and see how he reacts. if this guy really loves you he will not take you for granted for too long. and probably he is working hard for your future.who knows. if he reaches out after a few days then talk to him and tell him how you feel.

Sometimes with jobs this happens. Doesnt mean he doesnt love you as much. Youll get through it, Im sure. Just make sure all your time together is valuable. Take care there.