Friendship with other couples

There was a lot of jealousy when I starting dating one of my ex's, my friend at the time tried desperately to warn me off them, they could see right through my partner, it was a shame I couldn't. Strange that on the first meeting when we met up as a three, my partner said it was jealousy and my friend said my partner was a wrong un, I started seeing my friend less and my partner more and neither could stand the site of the other, I was torn between them. Looking back I wish vehemently that I had listened to my friend, they were 110% right about my partner, I lost my friend because of it and my partner turned into a control freak and a total abuser.

With my husband and I, we have some friends that are friends that we share and most of these friends are friends that are also in committed relationships. However, both my husband and I also have our friends that are single and when it comes to spending time with those friends, that is something that we will tend to do when we are not together. I don't think that there is any rule that you have to share all of your friends with your partner and I also think that it is very important to spend time apart from one another from time to time.

I think I can relate to this, I have been single for about a year and then I had a new boyfriend. My friends were all single and meeting up with them would sometimes feel uneasy for us because they are single and they often cannot relate to my situation. They have been understanding though and try to still welcome him around whenever we get together.... Its just that sometimes I do not want to make my bf feel that he is out of place when all us girls are in a table and he is the only guy there! =( Most of our activities now with friends if we are to just chit chats, i would just let my bf go have his own time with his buddies. heheh

I think there is room in anyone´s life for both friends and partner. I think there is more difficulty maintaining friends when a relationship ends and you have been used to being friends as a couple.

Well in my case, my friends when I was single became friends with husband easily. It did not really take any hardship to do it. My husband is a very kind and accommodating fellow and my friends are just as good. But if and when my husband find any of my friend not to his liking, I believe I would look at his reasons if with good basis or not. If yes, then I would junk that friend but if not, I will do all means for my husband to know the person more so that they could be friends too. Now if still they can't really fit as friends, I will choose my husband without necessarily telling the person that I could not longer be friend with him. We will remain friends but I will refrain from seeing that friend more to show my submissiveness to my husband.

I belong to a big group of friends from way back in high school. All of us now are married. They get to see one another every now and then and their spouses are fine with that. it is only me who has never been with them all the time coz, well, my husband doesn't want me to be out with friends. He just have this image of his mother who was always at home and never was out with friends.

I had not seen this good friend of mine for 37 years and the chance suddenly turned up for me to travel to my home country, where my friend was. My husband and I travelled together and stayed in my friend's home for two nights. It was all a rushed affair and I did not feel verey comfortable. I was glad to see my friend again and my husband to meet him after hearing so much about him. I was uncomfortable, so was my friend and my husband too. We had to leave eventually, but though sorry I could not stay longer, I was still happy I decided to go and we keep in contact by email.

I never felt like that. I take friends as they come along. The only thing I do not like is when friends try to control you, or think you are made of money. Or assume you can do what they can.

Since I've been married I've kept a lot of my single friends but we've picked up couple friends as well. We do have shared interest because we are all going through the same things such as kids, money troubles, things like that. My single friends I had before I got married but a lot of them are married now so its all caught up. I can see how people might get jealous of a relationship but they should learn from a couple, not try to destroy their relationship.

This is where communication comes in. Love them both but discuss what is going to be comfortable for the future. I think that this should be brought into the conversation you are having in your head as far as if all of this is going to work. How did I resolve it? I went right ahead with how I had acted previously. My partner was an addition to my life and that doesn't mean I had to quit being friends with people just because they were single, jealous or otherwise. Jealousy is a red flag. I would deal with it now before making this person 'a partner'.

I've never had a problem like that since the friends I have is very supportive of our relationship with my partner. I'm very grateful for them for being understanding since whenever me and my friends meet up, if I take my partner along, they get along just fine. But I know not everyone has a situation like mine and I'm just blessed right now.

Hello 41CombedleRoad this is checkmail and me too don check anyone relationship status to make friend, just go along the flow.Most of mine friends are due to mutual trusts, interests, works, education, etc stuff.Even have many couples as friend, have similar type of behaviors with them.If they have problems me just quit that thing, not the couple.Only quit on friendship if its getting more expensive to handle in terms of money, happiness, toils, etc things.

We Always make friends with someone who has the same life style, we have things in common. This is what is proved about close friends. Personally I don't see any reason why a new partner is a threat to the old friendship. A real friend wants you to be happy and understands that if it's a new relationship there has to be time invested. Also.. everybody will understand that it might be hard for a new partner to fit in into old relationships/friendships as well. This takes time too. If everybody knows it does and is relaxed about it there is nothing to solve. I would not dump old friendships for a new partner (and I never had a partner who would do that for me btw, I even believe no man would do such a thing) but I would also not dump my partner if my best friend (or family) would say this person is not my type. It's all about respect and no matter if you like the new person or not, it's a fact he/she is there, your friend wants to give the relationship a try and you as a friend should be happy for your friend.