I couldn't sleep well last night.

China
March 18, 2013 8:08pm CST
It must be one of my worst days.In the morning,I lost one of my chances in the office because of carelessness.I think this bad feeling didn't end after I returned to my home.Last night I had a quarral with my wife just for something small.I got home before her,and prepared our dinner.She didn't get back until it was really late,so some bad feeling rose in my heart once more.When she returned,I tried to control what was in my mind,and had dinner with her,but she suddenly said I had forgotten to do what she had told me. With her reminding,I remembered she had asked to fetch her accounting certification from the house where my mother lived and was a little far away.I had to explain that I had really forgotten it.She became unhappy because she need it in her office for some urgent business. Therefore,after supper she left for her certification by herself,leaving my feeling worse and worse. After she returned with her certification,I found she was still unhappy.Before I asked what was the matter,she began to complain.It made me angrier,so we bursted into a quarral.And after that we didn't talk to each other. Later both of us lying down in the bed,without talking.I couldn't fall asleep and I found her awake,too.But self-respect stopped me from talking to her. This morning,I got up first and cooked breakfast for her.She ate the bread and drank some milk and hurried to catch her early bus.We didn't have a talk. I think I will learn a big lesson from what happened yesterday.I will try to be more careful.And I will also try to control my feelings more strictly.
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@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
20 Mar 13
you cook for her? wooow this is sweet and romantic. If I am here I would forget all about what happened the other night? why? because it looks like that you still care for her by cooking breakfast. wow.... I mean if you stop cooking for her that's the signal that there is something wrong
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
20 Mar 13
I also think it is sweet and romantic thing to do and it is very cute to do the cooking for her.
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
20 Mar 13
yes... there are very rare husbands doing that. I love it.... really if I am his wife... I will give him the tightest hug and the sweetest kiss for that morning because it proves that "he still cares for me"
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
That is a sign of strength, it is very difficult to control our emotions, especially our anger. It is good for us to control our emotions to avoid trouble, and to prevent a situation before it becomes worst. When i was a teenager, i got into trouble because of my sensitivity, i easily get angry, i wasn't able to control my temper at that time. But in my college days i start to control emotions specially my temper, it is a long difficult process for me. And today i'm glad i was able to handle my emotions especially my temper.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Mar 13
I'm so sorry to hear that you had a bad day yesterday. However, the thing that we are able to look at and realize that there was some goodness in your day is that you've been able to recognize the mistakes that you made and you seem like you are taking those mistakes and using them as a jumping off point for making changes in your life. I tend to think that if there is nothing that we are able to learn from our lives then our lives are not something that is worth living.
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• Philippines
19 Mar 13
You should try meditation, or yoga. I also experience this sometimes. I get yelled at in my previous job, and it was the worst during the first few days. I learned how to manage it, though. I learned a few tricks to manage stress and anger. I bought myself a punching bag to let out the anger and stress. It also felt great after working out.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
19 Mar 13
That's just so sad that you weren't able to patch things up with your wife. But it is nice that you also realize your fault in this issue. It is a hard thing to do, to admit your fault. But you are man enough to admit it to yourself. I hope you and your wife can finally talk about this and put this behind.
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• Philippines
19 Mar 13
Good nice planned if you want to have a happy family sometimes you must to lower your pride. Anyway just observe and do your best as a husband don't jump into conclusion. Patient count most on this case.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
20 Mar 13
I think it is always good to repent for what we do the wrong things. I think most probably we need to take life as lessons and need to learn from it. I hope everything goes okay for you.
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
I think your wife was insensitive too. You shouldn't always think about her feelings. She should know what's going on with you the whole day that makes you upset. As a wife, she should know her responsibility to you and small things should not cause a big problem for the both of you.
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• South Korea
19 Mar 13
sorry to hear that, but most couple actually had those days when its actually better to let it cool off before talking to each other, but hey I still believe the communication is the best key, atleast its a good thing though that you know why shes angry sometimes, there comes a time that our partner is angry and we dont know why, and hell yeah it makes the situation so much harder. Like what other said, do not bring your perosnal problem at work, and so not your work (or any other tings connected to work) although I know we couldn't help it. Its going to be OK dont worry . Your wife is so lucky to have a man who actually prepare a meal for her.
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
19 Mar 13
We can't avoid a conflicts in a marriage life, but we should have more experiences and try to avoid to have a big fight in the next time. Sometime being quiet is good for both and we have time to think back what we did and get a lesson for it.
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@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
26 Mar 13
It is not solely your fault though. The wrong action you did was starting a quarrel. I believe you were really in a bad mood because of what happened. However, your wife shouldn't have got so unhappy just because you forgot the get her accounting certification and she shouldn't have start complaining. It's no biggie and you can always go and get it for her. So both of you should learn how to live with others and take care of each other feelings.
• India
19 Mar 13
Hi. It seems you had a tough day yesterday. I haven't heard the other side of the story from your wife's point of view. But from your point of view the story I have heard suggests that your wife is not being very fair to you. You deserved to be treated better by her. Anyways I hope you talk to her and come into consensus. It is not right for your future that you always make the amendment. Anyways have a nice day !! SuperShames
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