You Flirt
By Amber
@AmbiePam (85484)
United States
March 19, 2013 2:25pm CST
A couple of months ago I saw my sister, BIL, and new niece Amyra for about half a day. We all went into Best Buy (because my BIL LOVES Best Buy), and when my sister and I went up to pay for whatever it was she bought, I noticed the guy behind the counter was wearing a suit. So I said, "You look nice." After we got into the car my sister told my BIL I was flirting with the guy at the cash register. I didn't think I was at all. I told her I wasn't, and she disagreed. I said, well I told the girl I saw yesterday at Walgreens that she had cute earrings, was I flirting with her too?! 
Were you ever unfairly accused of flirting? Were you actually flirting? Do YOU think I was flirting? My intention was to just say something nice. I do that a lot. I never think of it as a big deal.
Were you ever unfairly accused of flirting? Were you actually flirting? Do YOU think I was flirting? My intention was to just say something nice. I do that a lot. I never think of it as a big deal.8 people like this
26 responses
@fannekhan (783)
• India
25 Mar 13
In my humble opinion you have the makings of a good flirt. nothng wrong in a bit of harmless flirting!
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
19 Mar 13
Yes, and it was a similar situation.. I was just being nice and was accused of flirting. I can't remember who accused me though or where we were or anything.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
24 Mar 13
I'm, like that too sweety. I like to make people smile, so I say their hello and use their name if I know it and I give compliments. It's the way I like to be treated. If I can have a joke and a giggle with someone so much the better. Gender doesn't enter into it either.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
21 Mar 13
I was really hurt when my husband has accused me of that. There was a former classmate of his who came and saw him at the pharmacy. I didn't know the person so I asked him who it was. Plain and simple, "Who is he?".He introduced me to the guy. Then months after, we were having an argument about something and he brought up the incident and told me that I was into that guy! EXCUSE ME! NOt even my type! 
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
It's from the mind of a very insecure person, I guess. In all honesty, even if I do flirt, I wouldn't even feel like flirting in front of my husband or boyfriend. I am not that bad at all. Oh well, I can't do anything about what he thinks....He's just plain crazy!
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
19 Mar 13
Wow! There has to be an ulterior motive for saying something nice? I don't think commenting to someone about looking nice is flirting. It could be flirting if its meant to be, but everyone should know the difference between being cordial and flirting.
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@Laurenlynn (715)
• Canada
19 Mar 13
Hi Ambie I hear you that happens to me all the time I am just a really friendly person I have been my whole life. I love all people no matter what their circumstances are I have always been fascinated by all walks of life people tend to think I flirt when in fact I am giving complements or just being me, or I really like to kid around with people and again people just misread what we are doing. I say keep being yourself.
@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
3 Apr 13
Gosh. That's ridiculous. If we cannot go around complimenting people, what a dry place the world would be! I can't count the number of times I got all cheered up with some random compliment from someone, and I keep doing it all the time to repay that debt. Of course in my country guys are not that broad minded so they would end up thinking I was flirting anyway so I am careful with complimenting guys unless they are obviously capable of handling it or I have my kid in tow and they know I am off the market so to speak :)
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
20 Mar 13
I don't think you were flirting! You were complimenting the guy on his suit, period! I don't know why people see that as flirting!
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
19 Mar 13
yes, I've been accused of it many times. I am very friendly and quick to compliment and some have said that I am flirting. Actually, I work at a store and it is part of my job to be friendly and smile a lot. I've had guys that think I am hitting on them as well as women that think that I am hitting on their men. Nothing could be further from the truth and those that really know me also know better. I have had men and women both compliment me on what I am wearing or my hair...I have NEVER taken it as flirting and honestly, it kind of brightens my day. Don't change. Working behind the counter, we are wide open for all sorts of insults and so a compliment or an upbeat thought is always welcome. You probably made that man's night. 
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Mar 13
no i think you was just being a nice person and making people feel better about themselves that way you likely made their day by letting them know that their efforts to look nice showed. and it also showed your appreciation of people that try and dont go to work looking nasty or not caring for their appearance. when i worked i made an effort to look clean and neat and as nice as possible. 
that way you likely made their day by letting them know that their efforts to look nice showed. and it also showed your appreciation of people that try and dont go to work looking nasty or not caring for their appearance. when i worked i made an effort to look clean and neat and as nice as possible. 
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
19 Mar 13
Good heavens. That is not flirting - it is just being pleasant and charming! I too make positive comments to people as it can just make their day and no, it is no big deal at all. I think that your sister was being just a little unkind to you
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
19 Mar 13
Have I ever been accused of flirting? I don't remmeebr at all
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@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
20 Mar 13
You sister is wrong. You are not flirting with the guy at the cashier counter. You are being courteous to him. You give compliments to him. This will help make him happy and make his day a wonderful day. Isn't it good to make somebody feel cheerful?
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
20 Mar 13
You were certainly not flirting but you were complimenting a stranger which is not normally done. What if that person started flirting with you?
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@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
3 Apr 13
Aw, the world would be boring if we only complimented friends and relatives. That category hardly compliments each other anyway, its the lesser known people that bring a smile and a true spark to your day!
@allknowing (130066)
• India
3 Apr 13
As long as it ends with bringing a smile on them, all is well!
@XtremeGaming (742)
• South Africa
24 Mar 13
Sounds like your sister is a bit jellous. Tell her to mind her own bissness and get a boyfriend. Of her own.
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
19 Mar 13
NO...I don't believe, you had any intentions other than making some-one's day a little nicer. A kind, and heartfelt gesture is being miss-interpetred, I feel! It is a sad day, when "being nice" is labelled as something else...I am sorry this happened!
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
20 Mar 13
Oh no... if that is the definition, I will be flirting around.
I always give compliments to people, almost everyday. I believe a genuine
compliments is good for everyone. I would say 'hi, you got a beautiful
name!' which is I sincerely meant it. If that is called flirting, then what is
compliments?.
I always give compliments to people, almost everyday. I believe a genuine
compliments is good for everyone. I would say 'hi, you got a beautiful
name!' which is I sincerely meant it. If that is called flirting, then what is
compliments?. @OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
19 Mar 13
Either way you did nothing wrong and some people are just looking to cause trouble. There is nothing wrong with being nice or even a little flirting. Sheesh. Probably made the guy's day which ever way he took it, more so if he did take it as flirting.
@fannekhan (783)
• India
25 Mar 13
Pleasant compliments can make someone's day. It can help break the ice. One can build an instant rapport too by making genuine comments.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
19 Mar 13
Don't worry, that's not flirting. I would pat a puppy on the head and tell it that it's so cute and I sure as heck not flirting with it. I think you're just being friendly and nice, something that your sister might want to try for a change. There is something about flirting that is not present in being nice by complimenting someone, and that is ulterior motives.
I think you're just being friendly and nice, something that your sister might want to try for a change. There is something about flirting that is not present in being nice by complimenting someone, and that is ulterior motives.1 person likes this
