If You Believe You Can't Then You Won't !!!!!

Hi Tlylly: That's right. If you say you can't do it, you won't do it because you have already given up without even given a try. Let's give a space for hope. Let's believe and move on and we'll find a way. ALVARO

I love this discussion! Yers ago I found a quote from a woman named Mary who started a business making soaps in her bathtub during the great depression when she was alone raising her children. She did pretty well with the business and was asked her secret. She said "Those who think they can can. Those who think they can't... are right." All they have to do is change their attitude. Mary became well know for her whole name... Mary Kay Ashe, the founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics, one of the largest cosmetic companies in the world.

Nobody can hold anyone back. It's you who do, you who are not really willing to make it succeed, to go for your goal. You who just want to have an excuse not to go for it (so in the end you can blame someone else). There is a dutch saying: kan niet (I can't) en (and) will niet (I won't/I am not able to) liggen samen begraven (are burried together) op het kerkhof (on the graveyard). My granny said it many times. Both lame excuses why people are not getting active and go for what they want. I think she was right. The most succesful people are those who are active, who work hard for it. The ones who complain, just sit there, hope for better times or pray for better times will never be succesful.

I do think a positive attitude is really important. It's not going to work if you don't actually believe. It's pure psychology.

Hi, If you ahve determined to achieve some goal then you don't have to listen to others negative thoughts. We should listen to those who are our well wishers but Shouldn't listen to those who are jealous of you and trying to put down. So we should go ahead with our decision without thinking about negative thoughts.

yeah you are totally right my friend,some meaningless people are always in our life,they give us negative and dissapointing responses because of jealousy or sometimes they just love making us pessimistic, i stop listening that kind of people in my life too. they just make us slow and sad,i just try to do what i wanna do peace..

For real!! Stay away from people who say no often. Surround yourself with people who believe in themselves and in you and watch how you attract success and progres in your life!

Other people have no right in telling you what you can and cannot do, my ex used to know what was best for me, I thought they did and would be so negative about me, it was very demeaning and when you have someone that is so close to you always putting you down, you begin to believe them. It's having a positive mental attitude, and that you can do things, sometimes people don't like to see you achieve because it boils down to jealousy, if they can't no one else can.

Hello. Do you believe in the power of positive thinking? This really works coupled with faith in God, patience and perseverance. No one has the right to undermine our capacity. Nor they have the power to dictate what we can do or what we can not do. It is also not fitting to give in to their selfish insults of who we can become. Some people who are bitter in their lives are trying to put us down because they don't want to be left behind alone in their miserable state. They are thinking that saying awful words or trying to daunt our faith to ourselves will make them victorious but we should not allow them. Rather we push through work harder for our goals to achieve and dreams to become reality. There's always One Good Friend up above who believes we can do all things, only if we believe.

Hi in network marketing we call the people dream steelers. they think they know every thing when they do not postive thinking is the best way to go. I read books like think and grow rich and other postive kind of books rich dad poor dad, some people want to hold people back . some think they are protecing some one when they are not ok have good day.

Nobody can keep you from reaching your dreams. If you have that determination and faith to God surely you'll reach those stars , nothing can stop you from reaching it . Go for those , don't look back just look forward , keep on working for those goals with patience one day you'll be there without knowing it.

Believe you can and you are halfway there... wheeeee that's one of the lines I always think if I am about to give up.. and I halfway already now.. I want some eggs..I smelled someone is cooking sunnyside up downstairs... whoever he is I hate him.. my goodness I really miss eating eggs. hahaha ok back to your discussion sorry bit distracted with the smell of the egg.. yes never give never surrender you can reach the goal. yes.. stretch more and there you are..

I agree with you! Sometimes,instead of trying to shut the negative voices from inside, we have to shut the negative voices from outisde. I think that the most powerful and polite way to do this is to think positive from inside, to realise our true abilities and that we're able to do that thing, and of course to do it, because this will shut the voices of people instantly. When I want to do something and someone doesn't believe in me, and say me that I can't do it, I think this way:'' This thing has been done for many times by many people,so it means it's humanly posible to do it..so..why I couldn't do it? I'm capable of this, I have all the ablilities to do this and I'll succeed!'' :D. I think that people who say someone can't do a thing, when that person it's doing that thing, should realise the true ablilities of persons more[/think more, talk less]. Nobody can stop us to do what we want to do [just in the case when that thing it's a bad thing]! :) Have a nice day!

This post is very inspiring,and I basically live by, the only thing holding me back is me. I use to have a lot of insecurities mainly because I was bullied in my younger years but now I see he best way to prove people wrong and make myself happy is to just follow my goals and dreams. Nothing holding me back.

I agree with you. We definitely have to watch out for this. There are so many negative people and they try to discourage us from reaching our goals. We should remember that we can accomplish what we work hard towards and not listen to others negativity. Thanks for starting this discussion. It is important for us to be reminded of these types of things.

I agree with you, especially since I have experienced this. I am one of those people who find believing in themselves difficult. Negative comments from other people make the situation worse. Right now I am trying as much as I can to believe and to work hard on reaching my goal even if at the moment it seems so unattainable.

There will always be people who smiles at others misfortunes,and cant wait for you to crash and burn. Just use that as a fuel to get where you want. Forget about what people say and proove to yourself what you can do.

This is very true. This statement is tied in with deservability and self value. Do you really believe you have value to serve your community? Your country? Your globe? If you don't believe you deserve to accomplish your set goals then it doesn't matter. You can sink into the walls and just watch everybody else. Many will tell you you can fail but it is only you that has to believe it to make it true. Every time someone tells you "you can't" stop associating with that person and find a friend that says "you can!" The one's that don't believe will never believe. The ones with dreams - fly :o)

Faith is very important,if yuu don't trust yourself,who could you rely on?

i think so. Because when someone believe that they can't, so the brain will sugest of their body, hormon, or everythink.. And will make them broke...