I&#39;m really stressed out right now - my heart is flipping

sid556

@sid556 (30960)

• United States

2 Apr 13

you could be right, Pq. She has something going on and I've noticed it since she was about 4 yrs old and while the doctors will say there is nothing....even she will tell you there is "something". Tonite was a bad nite. I think we logged in at about the same time here with this. She has gone to give her boyfriend a ride to work and I got an appologetic text from her. I feel bad for her as I know she doesnt mean to act this way and it only serves to make her feel worse about herself. I can almost bet that when she returns, she will be back to being her sweet self and will feel really bad about how she talked earlier. When she is in one of these moods then I am usually the one that she lashes out on

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• United States

2 Apr 13

It's really tough to cope sometimes Sid. You just have to know the sun comes up in the morning and it will be a new day. Today my daughter is fine and she is taking care if me. I'm having breathing issues. EMTs came out here to check me and hook me up to the monitor and ran a strip on me. My sugar was 85 which is good. They said it was my disease (COPD) that is giving me issues. And they said I am sleep deprived and that causes stress.

• United States

2 Apr 13

I bet you she has a personality disorder. I have fractured personality disorder but can't be treated anymore cuz I can't pay the copay and keep my other specialists too. My daughter has DID which is much worse than what I have. Now my daughter has crashed into her real self and doesn't want the pink hair or the nose ring. Now she is really down. She needs hospitalization but neither she or her husband want her to go. She sees her psyc on Wednesday so I hope they will tell him what is going on.

savak03

@savak03 (6684)

• United States

1 Apr 13

You stated emphatically that you didn't want any advice so I am not going to offer any. I can appreciate the fact that sometimes we just need to be able to tell someone what is going on in our lives and have them listen. I will say that you do seem to have your hands full though. Reading this has actually been a big help for me. It has brought to my attention the fact that no matter how bad I think my life is there is always someone else who has problems just as bad if not worse than I do. It made me take stock of my life and give thanks for the things that are going right.

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savak03

@savak03 (6684)

• United States

1 Apr 13

It seems that one of the ways you cope is your ability to speak so frankly about these problems. This is an ability I am trying to cultivate. I have found that sharing my feelings with others helps me manage them. It is a very good coping mechanism.

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• United States

1 Apr 13

I should clarify, those bad ones don't harm her anymore. They just throw out expensive jewelry. So she hurts her husband by throwing away wedding rings. She now has inexpensive Walmart rings for that reason. She went through 5 sets of wedding rings.

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borderline personality disorder

Brian

@wolfie34 (26771)

• United Kingdom

1 Apr 13

I actually have BPD, borderline personality disorder which was a label one of my psychiatrists gave me, and my ex had aggressive mood swings and dyspraxia which made them angry and if you put the two together, BDP and dyspraxia, well it certainly wasn't a winning combination. We used to fight so much, the aggression was raw in both of us, both of using ammo, information we knew about the other against each other, it was me who actually started throwing stuff around in frustration, because my ex became this 12 year old, it was worse in public, and embarrassing too, and because they were irish, they had a fiery temper and was very very loud! Swearing when we were going shopping, it was a total nightmare. I didn't help being passive aggressive, again the two mixed like oil and water. So I can fully understand the stress you have to go through, no one really knows the full story unless they have lived someone with a mental illness or have a mental illness themselves.

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dyspraxia

• United States

1 Apr 13

I remember all the stuff you went to when you and I were friends in my other life here. I felt so bad for you, but I also felt proud for you for making it out if that relationship and working on yourself. You started going to the gym and I think it helped you a lot. I have fractured personality disorder which is not as serious as DID. I have a little girl in me that is about 6 years old. I also have one a out 4 years old. They are precocious and fun. They are coping mechanisms.

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Heather Echola

@GardenGerty (157627)

• United States

1 Apr 13

It must be rough. . . did you not say that you also suffer from this? I sometimes wonder if that is a problem my 20 year old niece might have. Of course from my great niece it may just be that she is spoiled. I do not think my kids ever had this kind of personality. I guess you just take a deep breath and hold on.

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• United States

1 Apr 13

Yes I do have it but to a lesser degree. Mine is called Fractured Personality Disorder. I wrote a poem called Shattered Mirror on Yahoo Voices a few years ago that describes what it is like for me. I am like a broken mirror and every shard bears a different reflection of me. It's like that on steroids for my daughter. She has some bad ones that have hurt her over the years. She broke her hand one, broke her wrist another. One was with a hammer and the other was with a sledge hammer. She cut both her arms up deep down into the white shiny connective tissue. She would get stitched up and in a a week it two she would take the stitches out. We had to lock up all the knives. We don't now. She doesn't do that now. ***taking a deep breath***

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wilsongoddard

@wilsongoddard (7291)

• United States

1 Apr 13

I take it that your ex-husband was abusive toward your daughter or that she experienced other trauma early on. There are treatments available. While dissociative identity disorder cannot be cured, your daughter does not have to go without help. There are medications that can help with the depression or anxiety that she may struggle with due to DID.

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• United States

1 Apr 13

Yes to the abuse. Yes to medication. Her doctor has her balanced so that she is 90 percent better than before. She had some mean personalities that actually cut deep into her arms into the white shiny stuff. And she broke her hand a few years ago with a hammer. She broke her wrist another time with a sledge hammer. She doesn't do any of that now. Life is GOOD compared to before. She is as good as she is going to get.

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Jennifer

@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

1 Apr 13

Wow, I have never seen anyone with this kind of disorder...That must be tough to deal with on a daily basis. I don't know anyone with a mental disorder except for my aunt, she is really bipolar! But now I shouldn't have to deal with her anymore since she moved out of my parents house...

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• United States

1 Apr 13

It's good she moved. Maybe there will be times when you visit your parents if you want to. I have what my daughter has but to a much lesser degree. I got little kids in me. So I'm fun to be around.

my daughter can be hell on wheels. I love her though. She is sweet when she is not in some other persona.

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winterose

@winterose (39887)

• Canada

2 Apr 13

yes I know it is hard, and you know my situation, you did the right thing I am proud of you and glad she decided she doesn't want it anymore. As for me, that part of my life remains private. I share it with you but I am not putting it on mylot.

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winterose

@winterose (39887)

• Canada

3 Apr 13

it is not about who knows me on mylot, I am a person of principal and I live by what I believe. You have heard me say that I don't think that people should air out their dirty laundry on the Internet for the world to see. And I don't do it either. Certain things remain private for me. My son, and Matt are not topics I talk much about because I know they don't like it. If I talk about them it is for good reasons that would not upset them if they saw my writing here. For example Matt doesn't mind if I tell people about his accident and subsequent deformity. T doesn't mind if I say things about him and M as long as I only name them by their initials and so on.

• United States

2 Apr 13

I probably shouldn't say anything either but no one really knows me personally but a few people like you and Ritter. Yes I know your situation and I respect your choice to remain quiet about it.

Amber

@AmbiePam (85648)

• United States

2 Apr 13

Wow. Does it run in the family? I think you said something about your experiences one time? Does medication and therapy not help her? I can't imagine living with someone who can turn into a spoiled brat in a matter of seconds.

BarBaraPrz

@BarBaraPrz (45527)

• St. Catharines, Ontario

2 Apr 13

I guess it doesn't help matters any when S starts acting like a 12 year old, too. When did she first exhibit symptoms? The reason I ask is I'm curious which personality got married.

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• United States

2 Apr 13

It's been going on long before she married.

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bonnie

@bunnybon7 (50973)

• Holiday, Florida

2 Apr 13

if only you could get help for her. shes still young enough to possibley help. my 3rd husband was like that. the kids never understood. most of them were teens at least. I had to be with him about all the time to control it. because at times he would turn into a child also. and it was like i was his mother and was the only one to calm him. after about 6 yrs though he seldom changed like that. he had it pretty well controled with meds. but then after 12 yrs. of dealing with him, i thought he loved me and would never stray. i found him with a young girl, 18yrs old. he was 47yrs!

i forgave him but not 8 mths later when he was fooling with a 19yrs. i just couldnt take any more after all we had been through.

anyway, one time we went from yuma where we lived over the border to mexico. we did it all the time cause you could buy things cheaper over there. then, this one time though, he put up a fuss when we crossing back over. didnt want to show his ID. they about arrested him. i had to take them aside and show them papers i carried on me at all times the doctor had given me and they finally let us back in the usa! never went back there with him again. uuuuggghh! his mother warned me not to marry him but we were in love at the time. dumb things we do for love. lol so yes i know how hard that is to deal with.

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mental health

Shellyann36

@Shellyann36 (11385)

• United States

2 Apr 13

Wow! That is extreme to live with. I can only imagine what you have lived through raising your daughter and what you are still going through. Kuddo's to you and to your son-in-law. It is a shame that insurance will not pay for the therapy that she needs. Perhaps one day (if the government ever figures out what it is doing) we will have affordable insurance here in the US that covers what we need. Hang in there and prayers for your and your family.

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government

insurance

therapy

Shellyann36

@Shellyann36 (11385)

• United States

10 Apr 13

I seriously doubt it as well PointlessQuestions! We looked into getting insurance at hubby's work and they wanted over $700 a month to pay for the insurance with a $10,000 deductible.... I mean honestly? If I am going to pay that much per month I really cannot afford to pay that high of a deductible.... Good luck with everything.

• United States

2 Apr 13

I doubt we will ever have real affordable insurance, with affordable copays. I have to pay $40 to see a specialist. I had three specialists but had to drop one and just not get the treatment I need for the copay.

Always smiling

@allknowing (130064)

• India

2 Apr 13

My friend's daughter had a bad marriage that lasted only a few days and that triggered her schizophrenia which as you know is an unpredictable personality. My friend had a bad time with her. She was given the shock treatment and put on medicine but there was misery in full measure. She requested me if I could take her for a while which I did. She stayed with me for 6 months but her odd behaviour made me very uncomfortable. I could not handle her.In the meanwhile I made some enquiries about some half way homes that take care of such cases. I found one. We sent her there. She stayed there for a year. Now she is back with her mother, having a job and managing her life well. She has to be on pills rest of her life.

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• United States

2 Apr 13

Hi Allknowing. It can be difficult to deal with for sure.

randomarts09

@randomarts09 (1405)

• Indonesia

6 Apr 13

I've never heard about someone close to me have multiple personality disorder. It's kind of unbelieavable to read someone has it maybe simply because I've never known anyone with it my entire lives. Even though I have a friend who is childish, but she's just childish and a little spoiled not because she's has multiple personality disorder. It must be tough to live with someone who have it. It is good that you know that it's her other personality. Do you know if she has a different name for each personality?

rocketking

@rocketking (189)

• Singapore

2 Apr 13

Show her a picture of a buffalo being pulled along by its nose ring. Tell her you will pay for it if you can be the one pulling the rope.

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