How would you justify hitting a girl in self defence?

India
April 11, 2013 3:24am CST
We see so many cases of guys hitting the girls and all of us unite against such shameful acts and rightly so .When women who are victim hit back are presented as brave and gets lot of praise.I wonder what happens when it other way round,what if a wife hits her husband daily,would he get same praise if he hits back.We see so many instances when a guy proposes a girl and she hits him ,people accuses that guy of teasing her and justifying her act.What if its other way round? Just to clear our, i have huge respect for women and i would not hit back even if i am attacked by a girl like that and none of the guys should do it.All i want to know that, violence overall is shameful or for one side its wrong and for other side its bravery.
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13 responses
@alpha9180 (301)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 13
Yeah, I have great respect for women due to feminism, a doctrine that advocate social, political and economic rights for women equal to men or discrimination against women. Definitely I do not condone hitting the girls which is unlawful in a civilized society.
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• India
12 Apr 13
Most men who respect women would not hit a girl even if they get hit,they would just try to stop her,like i mentioned i would do the same.But when we are talking about gender equality , there should not be unfair advantage to anyone,whether a guy or a girl.A girl gets hit, she is a victim, a guy gets hit and he deserved it,its hard to justify that logic.Thanks a lot for your response.
• Canada
11 Apr 13
Hi I am a women and I have zero tolerance for man or woman to hit each other one is just as bad as the other. Even thoa I am a women I have known many that play that card of I am a women and I should be able to hit a man and they think that is okay, well it is not. Women should be just as ashamed as a man if they started it and hit a man first, I taught my son too never hit a woman however if he married a snake in the grass even thoa there is no excuse I think woman can be worse than men. However this is not about abuse from a man (that is a totally different topic). It is like you said self defence!
• India
12 Apr 13
That's a good one,actually there are lot more cases of men getting violent against women,than women hitting men.Few girls try to take advantage of this situation to defend their act of violence which they initiated.They show themselves as victims to gain sympathy and in this process the actual victim suffers.Thanks a lot for your response.
@wolfie34 (26789)
• United Kingdom
11 Apr 13
Personally, I would never hit a girl, however if a girl came at me with a knife or a weapon then I would defend myself, with reasonable force.
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• India
12 Apr 13
Hi wolfie Fair enough,actually neither guy nor girl should initiate the violence , but if they do they should be ready to face consequences .Thanks a lot for your response.
• Serbia
11 Apr 13
I would never hit a female, ever. If a female would attack me, id just let it go in the beginning hoping she will stop. You know cover my head and sensitive areas. If she wouldnt stop i would defend my self in defensive ways, like trying to maybe grab her hands until she calms down or something. If she is going really crazy and not stopping, well, i think id rather ran away and puss out instead of hitting a girl. Now if a girl attacks, i try to relax her, she keeps on going, i try to run away and she chases me, reaches me, and im exausted and she keeps on going. Then all bets are off and i would beat the life out of her, literally the life out of here, payback time eh... BUT...Having been arrested once and handcuffed and all that, i wouldnt put myself in the position of having to deal with the "law". So if i didnt have a few witnesses to say that i was actually defending myself with all means possible and had to hit her back eventually. I would have to decide whether to let her beat me all the way or not. I mean, the cops work for the women, they control the game nowadays so, is it worth it? Pride or jail? i dunno. But i guess in the end the stupidity in me would win and i would beat her up. Then probably drive her to the hospital, all guilty and sh!t...
• Serbia
11 Apr 13
Btw i was arrested on something completely unrelated, for the record. I have never hit a girl before.
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
11 Apr 13
you have a funny way of saying phrasing this. i'm a woman and i completely agree with you.
• Serbia
11 Apr 13
Girls like funny. :p I dont need to be cool, i will seduce you with my awkwardness ;) :D hahahaha oohhh pay no attention to me. Havent slept in over 30 hours. My activity on mylot can prove that. :p I see you're Italian. I had an Italian girl once. Very head-strong, stubborn, and loud. :D nice girl though :D
@allknowing (86818)
• India
12 Apr 13
Since you say it will be in self defense, I find nothing wrong if you hit back. However, if there are better ways to defend yourself, you could choose one of them. When it involves physical force there is no level playing field here, unless the woman is using a weapon.
@allknowing (86818)
• India
12 Apr 13
And again it depends who the woman. If she is the spouse, sister, mother, friend, then one would try not to use physical force as far as possible but if the woman is a stranger - may be a robber then physical force would be justified.
• India
12 Apr 13
In practical scenario, none of the guys who respect women would hit back even if they get attacked.They would just try to stop that girl and nothing more,i would do the same.Its just that some girls use the victim card very smartly,they get violent and then try to show themselves as victims too.I have seen girls hitting their ex boyfriend after getting dumped and justifying it by saying he deserved it.Thanks a lot for your response.
@allknowing (86818)
• India
12 Apr 13
You did talk of self defense. so how would defend yourself,specially if that woman whoever it is has a weapon. I would say self respect comes first.
@joizee (502)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
I definitely not supporting physical abuse. Victims of physical abuse, male or female, should be given the right punishment for them. But to answer the "other way around", I think guys can defend themselves to women who hit them first is "natural instinct". If you get hurt, you have the "fight or flight" moment, so as a result you hit/fight back or leave the situation. Its like a self defense reaction. All beings have that instinct. But again, I'm against physical abuse. Let's avoid it as much as we can.
@joizee (502)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
make love not war, hehe
• India
12 Apr 13
That's right ,make love not war.I have seen women hitting a guy and saying 'he' deserved it.May be 'he' deserves the insult and public humiliation if he has done something wrong,but 'he' does not deserves violence.I am not including cases here where some guy tries to hold a hand of a girl and all that,its is totally different.Thanks a lot for your response.
@sid556 (30987)
• United States
12 Apr 13
I don't think it is right either way. I was in an abusive marriage and I never once hit my husband back. It would have been stupid to try. He was bigger and strong than I and I'm sure that hitting him would have esculated the violence to a whole new level. The best way to deal with it is to just get out of the relationship. No one should stay in a relationship that is abusive.
• India
12 Apr 13
Feeling bad for you that you had to face tough time being in such a relationship.About violence i agree ,it should not happen at all,but sometimes hatred and provocation reaches to a level where things go out of control.Like you mentioned correctly its better to get out of such relationship.Thanks a lot for your response.
• China
12 Apr 13
I have no idea.I mean when I feel angry or have some bad feelings,I will most likely to hit her.Till now,she haven't hit back even one time.
• India
12 Apr 13
Well violence on both sides should not happen,verbal argument is alright when some issue appears.Thanks a lot for your response.
@LittleMel (14033)
• Canada
12 Apr 13
well if it's truly self defense, of course it's justified although I'm sure there are other ways than hitting someone (a man/woman) as self defense, nobody should be allowed to endanger anybody else's life regardless the gender I am a woman and no I never harm a man physically in my life maybe verbally argument and so on but that's it
• India
12 Apr 13
That' right ,verbal argument is fine.Its just that if overall sympathy is towards a girl then she should not take unfair advantage of it by justifying her violent act.Thanks a lot for your response.
@roshigo58 (4863)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi, There is nothing wrong in hitting a woman for self defense. Try to avoid violence as far as possible. It is not so that the woman is attacking and she is woman we can not defend us and just keep quiet. I also hit back if some woman is attacking me violently.
• India
12 Apr 13
Fair enough, when someone resorts to violent means then he/she should do it keeping in mind the consequences of their actions.Self defense is the right of everyone.Thanks a lot for your response.
@jambi462 (4593)
• United States
12 Apr 13
I think the only way a man could get away with hitting a girl in self defense would be if they were able to show scars or bruises of the places where the girl had done the damage to the guy. I just don't think it's enough for a man to just claim that a woman has been harming him especially not with the amount of pain a larger man could put an average woman into.
• India
12 Apr 13
You are right, that is why most men don't hit back,its either out of their respect for women or due to the points you mentioned.Thanks a lot for your response.
@blackrusty (3522)
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
my view is short and sweet keep your hands off if you hit let them face going to jail for 5 years prison not jail jail should be for the drunk people
• India
12 Apr 13
I agree with your idea, let law take it own course,fair enough.Thanks a lot for your response.
@Raine38 (9741)
• United States
11 Apr 13
Let's say a crazed woman attacks you with a knife. You won't hit her? I say hit her to knock her balance or her grip on the knife then call the police. I do not believe in not hitting women who is about to harm you or your loved ones. Seriously. A woman who is about to slap your kid and you wont hit her back? I find that absurd.
• India
11 Apr 13
I completely agree with you.Its great to respect women and everyone should do that.But when violence is involved ,then its very hard to remain on that ''Be respectful'' logic.Thanks a lot for your response.