Why theirs some men or women who can't love their children?
By bulastika
@bulastika (5966)
Philippines
April 11, 2013 4:57am CST
I'm wondering how some men and women end up hating their baby or their child simply because their husband or their wife left them. Or their boy friend or their girl friend left them? Theirs some say its because they can see in their child the face of the person they once love and end up crushing their heart. But for me its not child fault. The child has nothing to do width what your partner has than or has become. Beside if you see the face of the person now you hate in the child face. Do you not see your face or yourself in that child also?
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@grvdubey11 (1879)
• India
11 Apr 13
Well that's ridiculous.Such people are frustrated with their lives actually,but they cannot vent out their anger on others because then they might have to face consequences.Child becomes soft target in such situations.Failure in love can effect your mind pretty bad though.I have a friend who used to date girls who had resemblance with his infidel girlfriend who dumped him and used to take out his frustration on them.He is under treatment now.Best wishes.
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@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
That's maybe ridiculous but it does happen. Sometimes theirs some people who does not like responsibilities or that the responsibilities become or turn out to be a burden to them. Theirs some family who want children but they can't have one and theirs some who has children by they give it away.
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@irene66 (1669)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
It is really sad to know their are people who are like what you have just mentioned.
I think it is a form of displacement method where they displace their anger towards other people.
Unfortunately, it is usually the children who cannot fight back their parents are the victims.
This really happens in any part of the world
saddening!
saddening!@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
That's true. Lets just hope that this kind of parents will realize their responsibility and mature enough to be a good parent. I know its hard if you are a single parent but a child is a child and that child has nothing to do with your partner, husband or wife short comings.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
That's true. But theirs just some people who is still not ready to be a parent. I do hope I can make good income and then find a girl and get married. While other who are bless to have one end up feeling that its a burden to have a child. Such a pity two those who think a baby or a child is a burden.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
11 Apr 13
Believe me, it works in the other way too. I've noticed a lot of times that men will base their love of their children on which woman they are in love with at the time. I've see it having grown up with a step mother. My dad says he loves me, but he obviously loves my step sister a lot more. Its like they get remarried and their thinking is "Oh I have a new family now. I don't need you any longer"
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
I guess your dad love you. Its just that sometimes if you they remarry they end up having a new bonding and you become or feel like extra. In this case usually its your step mother who must welcome you in that circle. If she treat you like her own daughter I'm sure your father will be free to express his feeling to you also.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
11 Apr 13
i think they are bit crazy and trying to annoy them always and trying to be so skeptical
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
I guess that's life sometimes we just need to accept that theirs some people who are like this and theirs some people who are like that. But what is important is that as long we know we can make something to ourselves and to others we are okay.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
I guess your right. Some just are not ready yet to be a parent and this is the main reason why they feel negative toward their child simply because if not because of this and that she or he still have a happy single life until now and so on.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
12 Apr 13
I also wonder why people does not love their children. I think most probably it might be some sort of mental problem and most probably it would be solved if people had some good counseling. I always love watching children and gets happy whenever I see small children aroound.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
I don't want to judge those who do such thing, hating the child for that reason.
But- I can say that, they are not worth to be called a parent (a mother or a father)
The child has nothing to do with the break-up.
It is not the child's will for his/her parents break up and no child ever wanted to be have a broken family as well.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
11 Apr 13
Hi,
It is not fair to hate the child if the parent make a mistake. In the first place they are innocent of what is happening around them, the acts are made by rational persons and the child did not command them to be born into this world. Come what may, it is their responsibility to make the child grow up a normal and happy life after all the enjoyment they have undergone during the time they made it. Failing to do so make them just like animals who has no feeling or moral sense of obligation towards the new life that is being entrusted to them.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
That's true. That's why sometimes I'm thinking. Why are those who are bless with children sometimes end up having bad temperament while those who are hoping to have children loves their neighbor children more than their neighbors love their children.
@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
12 Apr 13
That's so selfish.. that baby or child has nothing to do with their relationship.. that child is innocent and should not be affected by such issue.
@hushgal (57)
• Kenya
16 Apr 13
Its difficult for a person who has not had such an experience to judge this kind of parents; as much as the children did not choose to be born in a broken family, some circumstances and unresolved issues may definitely lead to a parent hating the child because the child reminds him/her of their ex. It takes a brave and strong parent to appreciate and love the child without associating the child to the unfortunate events leading to break up or to the ex-partner.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
12 Apr 13
I think a person can not love his or her child that has some mental problems. I heard a lady who hate her kid because her kid look like her husband and she really hate her husband.. she did not want to see her kid at all... and even a man who does not want to see her child face cause is saying that is like her mom.. these kind of people if they can not show their hate to their partner, they through all that feeling on their innocent kids... I am so sorry for those people and I hope not any kid suffer from those parents..
