Why sometimes using facebook makes me depressed.

Philippines
April 17, 2013 7:43am CST
Facebook is addictive and yes number one social site. but you know sometimes it gives me depression.Whenever I look at the profile of my colleague,my exes, my former classmates and friends who know are successful it.I feel myself miserable among themas I am jobless now and hard to find work that will suits on my age.When I see them so happy in their photos being in a vacation or gatherings. I don't feel envy but i feel pity with myself. When I post in shout out and express my feelings or share my problems and none of them click like or comment. It feels like they don't care at all you know.You cannot feel someone sympathy. and sometimes those people whom you only add up in your Facebook but don't know them are the one who click likes and comment. Especially when you advertise something and you will see only few views it. It is really a sad thing. How about you guys?
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@Pegasus72 (1898)
27 Apr 13
I don't think it should make you depressed but if those things bother you then you need to relook at your own life and what you are thankful that they don't have. You might be surprised by how much you have.
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@Pegasus72 (1898)
28 Apr 13
That is wonderful. I am glad my words helped you out.
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
thanks for your inspiring message. as they said 'count your blessings everyday'.Yes I should have thank too.actually I avoid them now those who makes me depresed delete it in newsfeed. so I will not be updated and instead focusing in using apps instead of looking on their website.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
people uses facebook to express how they feel.. being happy, sad, lonely, upset brokenhearted etc,. and also some bragged about everything they have.. new car, new gadget, travel and we cant blame them because we are living in a free world though sometimes i find also facebook makes me feel depressed maybe because i do envy people post their success and happiness.. but life is not all about material things.. you can be happy just being with your family.. simple things can also makes us happy if we only look at it in a positive way..
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• Philippines
18 Apr 13
I agree and also happy to hear that there is people who are like you who knows what happiness means.That it's not all about money at all. We have our own happiness and being with God and family that has strong bonding gives true happiness which is priceless.Some of those who post their photos online as I have observed is only making themselves proud.
@velvet53 (22523)
• Palisade, Colorado
17 Apr 13
I used to go to Facebook a lot, mainly to play games but I did socialize some. I just don't need it anymore. Once in a blue moon I will wander over and talk to friends and family. I find more fun and peace right here on MyLot.
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
Yes that is true mylot is very different in facebook here you can find good people , you can find comfort too. that is the reason beside of earning why do I stay here. to voice out everything that I cannot express with those people around me and will not be interested to hear me.
@velvet53 (22523)
• Palisade, Colorado
18 Apr 13
This is a good place to be then. I just don't like some of the stuff that is posted and said there. And it seems like everyone knows your business. Here, I feel like I can say things and it stays with us. I love MyLot.
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Apr 13
I understand how you feel but someday it will be your turn to shine! Just keep trying and keep your head up, it will happen if we work hard to get there. Having money is not the most important thing in life you know. Yes, it's nice to have but it's not everything. I used to feel the same way, thought others looked down upon me because I don't have a career like they do nor do I have the money they have. But then, one of the "richer" ones per se on there told me they were jealous of ME! I was like what? Why? They said because they want to have a family of their own and a business of their own like I have and to be happy in their life like I am with mine. I never thought anyone would be jealous of me but they were. Then I realized, everyone wants what someone else has. I thought it would be great to have a career, and other people want to have a loving family like I have... No one is better than anyone else. We all have chosen our path, if we don't like what we chose only we can change it. It might take time but eventually it will be worth it! =)
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• Philippines
17 Apr 13
thanks for inspiring words. I really appreciate it. I keep on praying that God will give me a stable job so I can have stable life so as I can serve Him.It doesn't matter if I am still below compared to their success.I only want to have a stable source of income. Lucky of you that you are the boss of your own for you have your own business.If I only have enough Money I want to have a small business of my own.
@averygirl72 (37433)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
So since everyone has facebook, we are ought to have facebook. But I deleted mine and I don't want my life to revolve around it. Yes, even in facebook people who loves to insult and people who loves to brag find it a very useful tool. If you are living in disneyland and the celebrity then you need facebook. Now if you live in slum areas, why do you need facebook? Because facebook is a modern tool for ego trippers.
18 Apr 13
Hi, This happens to almost every one out there who use Facebook. First, Never expect acknowledgement from others, if you do, you will regret. Since its our life and it has to be our way. Second, Be selective in adding as your friends. Delete those friends from the list whom tend to give you negative feeling. It is not always true that all the information which they update in facebook is true. Sometimes most of the people wants to project themselves bit richer when it comes to social networking sites. Always feel yourself as Prince/Princess. Because every single one of us in this world are special for others, find them and spend quality time with them....
17 Apr 13
hi again fearlessgara, I feel the same way like you. But what I also think whenever I feel that is just keep in my mind that I already have the most precious gift in my life and that is my son, and also my husband who is very supportive to me, although we are not rich or doesn't have big earnings. Just always look at your daughter whenever you feel sad or unsuccessful because I think that you are really a great person - see, you can provide anything what your daughter needs and that matter most.
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• Philippines
18 Apr 13
thank you very much for your positive thoughts and advice. Yes that is true. I sometimes forgot that to Count my blessings. I only look at my failure.but of course I have done many faults although just a simple thing but it creates a big impact to my future now that is why I am still floating . means no direction yet not stable yet.
@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
17 Apr 13
I use fb to keep in touch with friends and family. Yesterday I got a message about a family member of my ex who I still kept in touch with after 30 years ...she passed away yesterday and I wouldn't have known otherwise because nobody really knows who I am. I"ll tell you it didn't make my day!
• Philippines
17 Apr 13
thanks for participating and I can imagine how do you feel, and condolence for that.I also heard news about my daughter's cousins and relatives in her father side through their profile in facebook .
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
17 Apr 13
I have been a member for only a few months but I just don't enjoy it at all. I really cannot see what the fuss is about and all these hundreds of people that want to be my friend I find really annoying. No - it is not for me.
@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
I understand what you feel because I also feel the same way sometimes. Whenever I see my classmates getting married or going abroad, I feel so envy. I wish that one day I could also wear that white wedding gown and travel and work abroad. Those are my dreams. However, I have realized that I must not waste my time complaining of thinking of sad thoughts. To avoid such unpleasant feeling, I just check my facebook notifications and then just close it. I would love to talk to my online friends in facebook or just send emails, watch videos or practice English.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
17 Apr 13
Hi gara! Networking sites are also important in our kind of job especially if we are into writing, blogging or affiliate marketing. So I would suggest that you close that account and open a new one to find new friends having the same interest as you are. They can help you more. I did it. Have a nice day!
@Raine38 (12258)
• United States
17 Apr 13
Then maybe you should quit Facebook if t keeps giving you the negativity. I only use my Facebook to keep in touch with family and friends, but I agree that most people use it as a bragging ground to gain attention or just to make themselves feel good through bragging or showing off. You can either quit it, or change how you see it. Instead of being depressed, why not use your friends' accomplishments as an inspiration or motivation to do better.
• Philippines
17 Apr 13
thank you for your advice.actually what makes me depress is that it seems like they don't recognize me anymore since they are now all successful compared before where we all are equal so we treat each others equally.That's how I feel.They keep on communicating and conversing with our other friends or classmates except me. I sometimes think of that thing removing my face book but I will surely miss using this site which I am active users for years now and I have about 4k friendS (most of them I didn't know for they are from different countries),plus all my uploaded photos which I deleted in my computer is saved on fb photos, although I use facebook to avail free local sms and join other promos and contest.instead of deleting I remove in the news feed to avoid seeing their updated status.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 13
I can understand how you feel and sorry for you . Many people in this society are like that. When they are better of, they tend to forget who their friends are. They only want to share their joy and happiness around . I no longer possess Facebook account. I do not find it meaningful. So, I closed my account for quite sometime now
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
17 Apr 13
I am thinking of deleting mine and I have only been on it as few months. I just cannot find any enthusiasm for it.