Roses are red,Violets are blue
@Hatley (163781)
Garden Grove, California
April 18, 2013 2:43pm CST
Shut the door in my face
I will do it to you.
Now thats a switch on the old poem but I am ticked off. I was just a little late getting out to the elevator and the young Vietnamese woman saw me and she deliberately did not press the hold button so I had to wait another five minutes or more to get downstairs. It was not the time that angered me but she saw me and deliberately let the elevator door close on my face. I do not do that to anyone here, whether I like them or not. I know I am an old lady to that young woman but still should not common courtesy rule here., There are only two elevators for 114 people so why not be willing to share it with several other people? I shared it coming back up here with two men who did not seem to mind riding with me.
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@marguicha (215389)
• Chile
18 Apr 13
Who is this rude young woman, Hatley? Do you know her? It iseems you do up to some degree as you know her nationality. So why don`t you ask her why did she do that? Elevators are to be shared. Why isshe at a senior home? does she work there?
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Apr 13
hi marguicha I don't really know her name and too this is not a seniors home as i keep telling people.It is a retirement center here for people of all ages who are retiring for any number of physical reasons,. It is a retirement center with assisted living. We have residents here from thirty to 96.So its not just for seniors. She and her roommate are young and very pretty and I think a bit standoffish too.But up til now they both have ridden in the elevator with me often. So I was shocked today and it really ticked me off as I felt Its just plain
bad manners.
bad manners.2 people like this
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
hi You are probably right but today she was the one needing the elevtaor nd I
did nothing to hold it so she got almost there and it closed in her face. I hated doing that but I wanted her to know hgw I felt.
did nothing to hold it so she got almost there and it closed in her face. I hated doing that but I wanted her to know hgw I felt.
@alpha9180 (301)
• Malaysia
19 Apr 13
Well, I could still recall this wonderful song by Singer Bobby Vinton and till today I still cherish such a sweet poem !!! Roses are red my love, violets are blue, sugar is sweet my love but not as sweet as you....... just relax and be stress free on whatever circumstances you may encounter !!!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Apr 13
hi alpha yes it is a really pretty sweet song.Today I am relaxing and just going with the flow. I need no more stress in my life bgut I will still be courteus to others ev en if someone is rude to me. I will from now on not expect that particular young woman to be accommodating so will wait for the time when the elevator is free and no I will not let anyone else ride with me for awhile. I am tired of being so helpful when others do not appreciate it any way.
. I am tired of being so helpful when others do not appreciate it any way.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
18 Apr 13
Vietnamese? Are you sure? Or maybe she was raise in America, because what she did conflicts with the collectivism that Asian people exhibit, this means they are more concerned about the group than the individual, or any way to put it, "they are more polite" than the individualistic American who is only concerned for him/herself.
Don't mean to throw all this "Psychology" stuff at you, but seriously, the few Asian people I have met, are extremely polite, especially to their elders.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
19 Apr 13
Unfortunately that kind of beauty doesn't last and she'll get hers when the time comes...
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Apr 13
hi carm yes they are and it does surprise me as this neighborhood is predominately Vietnamese and most are really polite and courteous and the older ones pass by and greet me if I am sitting out front,So to see them act so rude is really surprising. When the two of them are together they do not seem to mind me holding the door open so they can get in and not be late to their classes at the beauty college.
I get the idea that they are a bit stuck on themselves as they are both quite pretty. To me pretty is as pretty does.
d me holding the door open so they can get in and not be late to their classes at the beauty college.
I get the idea that they are a bit stuck on themselves as they are both quite pretty. To me pretty is as pretty does.2 people like this
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
I understand how you feel. And there are just a lot of people who care less. I also hate it when people would just do their thing without thinking of extending help.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Apr 13
hi jenny it was so shocking as the day before wheb she was with her roommate she held the door until I could get on b ut l ater that day she ket the door close on me and my waker just as we strtedf to cross the threshold of the darned elevator so I had to jukp back with my walker. One fine day I will do te same to her.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
thanks Jenny well shes yung and I am an elderly lady so I guess that was her reason I really do not know.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Such insensitive person! She has seen you with your walker and yet she didn't made an effort to let you in. If I were with you that time, I am sure that she's going to hear from me.
If I were with you that time, I am sure that she's going to hear from me.2 people like this
@velvet53 (22528)
• Palisade, Colorado
18 Apr 13
There are so many rude people in the world. Things do come back to people like that. Maybe the next time she is headed to the elevator someone will do the same to her. Thank goodness for the nice, kind people that we do have around us.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Apr 13
hiu velvet yes she will find ou t that I too can be rude as up; til now I am always kind to everyone and hit the hold door button so it will not close on others wanting to get on.
@Inderjeetkaur (944)
• India
19 Apr 13
Wow! These lines are amazing. I just couldn't recall the actual lines of the poem for a couple of seconds after reading these lines here. Well, it was very rude of that lady to have behaved this way with you. May be you should let it go this time, but if she repeats it next time do the same to her.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Apr 13
hi Iknderjeetkaur Are you dutch b y any chance? anyway yes I felt she was rude but you got me thinking and maybe I should not stoop as low as she did but if she does that to me again I will do it to her.
uld not stoop as low as she did but if she does that to me again I will do it to her.@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Apr 13
hi oh there are some dutch names that have jeet in them but sorry I was way off . I have so many Indian friends here and I love it that I can make friends all around the world without being able to travel my keyboard lets me make friends from India and all over.I have indeed avoided the lady and her friends,. I will ot stoop to doing that to others. 
@Inderjeetkaur (944)
• India
20 Apr 13
I am an Indian, but what made you think that I could be a Dutch. Well, next time don't leave that lady and do the same with her twice. Once from my side also.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 13
Some people just do think that way my friend, we see it as good manners, and common decency to hold the elevator if someone is coming, because we do this without thinking, we therefore expects others to do the same and when they don't we are bitterly disappointed. This woman was very discourteous and selfish, how would she like it, if someone did that to her? I think you being ticked off is an understatement you have every right to be angry, some people can be right thoughtless at times my friend 
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@TheCatLady (4691)
• Israel
20 Apr 13
Best revenge is to hold the button for her with a big smile. If others are present make a comment on it being polite to hold the button for others. Don't mention her not holding the button. Hopefully she will be embarrassed and change her behavior. If not, just write her off as a jerk.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Apr 13
hi thecatlady my hubby used to tell me okay dont stoopp to her level but kil lher with kindness.So yeah I will hold the door for oters and when she gets on will say oh its really goo
d to hold the door as there are only two elevators and be so sweet like sugar. wow.
d to hold the door as there are only two elevators and be so sweet like sugar. wow.
@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
19 Apr 13
Young people today are very rude. It is as if their parents forgot to teach them manners. Karma will come back around for her and someone else leave her stranded in the lobby one day with her hands full of groceries or the like and she will see how it feels.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Apr 13
hi ShellyAnn yes I hope i get to see it and I will cheer silently too.She does know how to hit the hold button and too I had my walker on the threshold of the elevator so when he door started closing I had to jerk my walker back.I hate rudeness and wish people would learn some manners.
utton and too I had my walker on the threshold of the elevator so when he door started closing I had to jerk my walker back.I hate rudeness and wish people would learn some manners.@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
hi he he I got back at her today as I w s in the elevator and I guess she was running late as she was almost to the e door but she saw it was gong closed so she stepped back. She had an upset look on her face. I hope she realizes how I felt when I had to jump out of the way.
running late as she was almost to the e door but she saw it was gong closed so she stepped back. She had an upset look on her face. I hope she realizes how I felt when I had to jump out of the way. @Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
24 Apr 13
It is a shame that she would do this.
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@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
18 Apr 13
That is just not right. I don't know what has come over people now a days. They just don't seem to have any compassion for anyone except themselves. Now I don't mean everyone, but it seems to be more people are that way now a days then years back. Guess the world is changing. I figure if I keep saying Thank you, holding doors, etc., maybe it will catch on. One can only hope.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Apr 13
hi MaryLynn yes I was raised to be courteous to others. i always hold the door open so others can get on the elevator.After all there are only two for 114 people who must go up and down for meals.,
I just expected her to hold the door so I could get on and instead she let it close in my face. I do not ever do that to others here.
here.2 people like this
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Apr 13
hi she knows darned well how to hold the door and what could have been clearer than me putting my walker on the threshold of the elevator?If someone else had done that when I was in the elevator I woull have the hold the door button at once.
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@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
18 Apr 13
I don't think it was right what she did. Did you ask her to hold the door? If not maybe she thought if you wanted her to wait you would have asked. Either way, I still think it was not right, she could have asked you if you wanted her to hold the door. Don't let it bother you, just consider the source.
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@pals101 (2010)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
Hi Hatley, from your point of view maybe, its truly is not right to do these especially for an old lady. But maybe you should also reconsider about it, maybe she had reasons why she did wait for you. Or maybe its her first time on an elevator or shes not use to it. There must be some reasons to it. Whatever it is, hopefully it's a reason that is good and not a bad one. So just chill out, maybe next time you can see her and might be able to ask her about the details. 
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Apr 13
hi pals I had not thought of that but yes I will pray for her as thats an act of kindness which we all should pereorm each day here
in Gold crest so will send prayers that she will be more kind and hold the door when its necessary . [em]h
[em]h@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Apr 13
pals no no. Sshe was here before I came and she really does know how to hold the door open as she did it for me the day before but she was with her roommate then. My being old does not mean I am stupid or senile either. I am not going to ask her anything as to me holding the door open for someone who is late is just common sense and common courtesy. She is a very pretty young lady but I have now seen she thinks she is is above others here.Please do not patronize me as chill out to me is a tiresome garbagey term meaning young people are fine and old people are not,.
and old people are not,.@pals101 (2010)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
All we can now do for her is to pray that she will have the open heart and guidance to do what is right without being told by someone. Really, not all people on this planet are courteous enough to help especially the mind setting of today's generation for helping is giving and expecting something in return. Which I really feel sad and frustrated about. 
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@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
19 Apr 13
Hi Hatley! Ugh - sorry that happened to you! Now just a thought - only a thought - is it possible that she might have pushed the wrong button? I say that only because I have stupidly done that before. It's rare that I push a button on the elevator except for the floor I need to get to . . . so I sometimes get confused looking for that button that keeps the door open. Sometimes I'll just put my leg or hand out so the door automatically flies open, that is, if I think quick enough. But if that woman did do it on purpose, shame on her.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Apr 13
hi much2say es it was delikberate as I had myh walker on the elevator threshold so it had to be apparent that I wanted to join her yet she let the door close on me so that i had to jerk mt walker back.She held the door open early that day wwhen she was with her roommate so I got the feeling she did not want to be alone withme which is sort of odd as we are all residents here at Gold Crest retirement center.
center.@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Apr 13
hi John oh I love it Maybe I need to quote that to the young
lady who closed the elevator door in my face.,but just wait one day she will be in a hurry to get to her college class and I will be the elevator first so I will just let the door close in her face and watch her expression when she can not get pn the elevator.To me there is no excuse for rudeness and being pretty is till no excuss to let the door close in my face.
to let the door close in my face.1 person likes this
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Apr 13
oh John she understands how to hold the door as she did it the day before for me but she was with her roommate so guess she feels differently when she is by herself.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
18 Apr 13
Hi aunt Hatley! I hate that this happened to you. She lacks any social glutton graces. Maybe her mother didn't teach her any. There's nothing wrong with you Auntie. It's just plain ignorance on that girls part.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Apr 13
hi PQ Yes she sure lacked manners today.She is Vietnamese and very pretty as is her roommate. They both go to beauty college and I think they are no more than thirty. i feel they are both a bit conceited and too I am an old lady and to them nothing to help I guess. I think they were not taught good manners as children. To
me pretty is as pretty does.Odd too as the Vietnamese here in this neighborhood are as a rule very friendly and courteous. So I was
surprised at the two of them.
rised at the two of them.1 person likes this
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Apr 13
hi dawn yes it was not nice as I have often held the button down so they could get in when I was first in so I expected the same. But they are only in their thirties and a bit stuck on themselves.,They are going to beauty college and are both very pretty.So I guess she just did not want to ride with an old lady today.Well when she is dashing and late and I am alone I will just let the door
close in her face.
So if she is late for class so what?
So if she is late for class so what? 1 person likes this
@JohnRok1 (2051)
•
18 Apr 13
That's part of the answer, Dawn. The real answer is ... Make sure everyone Does it to her too. As people have said, "That can be arranged".
But better make sure it's not her eyesight, or just simply not paying attention to the things around her. Or maybe she doesn't even know how to hold a lift?
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
19 Apr 13
....Honey is sweet
But Hatley is sweeter.
Why do you want to stoop as low as someone who gotten her brain napalmed?
Leave it and let her live her brainless days out. I am sure there will be others to "take care" of her nicely. Or, you can always take off your glasses and hit the "Door Close" button and shout "Oops!"! Whatever it is, she's not worth dirtying your hands.
So, you got 2 hunks in the lift huh? What do they look like? Like Tom Cruise or John Wayne?
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Apr 13
ha ha no Artemis one was over six feet tall and not at all good looking and the other was about my height and just an ordinary looking guy but they are residents and I share the elevator but that young lady yesterday did not want me to share with her when she was alone or thats the impression I got,. I do not look mean or aggressive in any way . In fact I am rather shy so I did not yell hold the elevator but shuld have.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
you know now days you do wonder but no these two are nice guys not handsome. One has some sort of lung pro blem and he feels cold a lot of the time and uses oxygen at night so it might be sleep apnea.The other is fairly new here but he is friendly and always speaks to me when we share the elevator.
You know now since the Boston marathon I am leery of gong to any public event where there are a lot of trash cans sitting around. I do not want my legs blown off.What I really hate about those two monsters is that with the faces of angels they walked in and killed some innocent little kids too. Their mom wishes she had never brought them to the US so do I and the parents of all whom they killed.
ked in and killed some innocent little kids too. Their mom wishes she had never brought them to the US so do I and the parents of all whom they killed. @bellis716 (4799)
• United States
20 Apr 13
I usually find oriental people to be very courteous, especially to the elderly. Maybe this on had been raised in the USA by people not of oriental culture.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Apr 13
hi bellis You are so right because in the beauty business world of beauty they will expect her to be kind and have good manners with all clients too.@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Apr 13
hi bellis yes I k now as we live in little Saigon in Garden grove Calif and most of the Vietnamese are very polite and courteous and friendly so I expect one parent may have been American and she as been raised here in the US. These are the boat people who fled during the war with just the clothes on their backs and have really prospered here in southern California She should be grateful for what she as as she is very pretty and is going to a beauty college.But I do wish theh would teach her good manners.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
20 Apr 13
If she doesn't learn good manners, she won't have very many ccustomers at her work station.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
19 Apr 13
Mom
Thanks for sharing, i really feel bad to know this, how can some one do this to an old woman with physical problems, how old she is?
Here too people belonging to a particular religion behave like that.
She is too rude.
Thanks for sharing, i really feel bad to know this, how can some one do this to an old woman with physical problems, how old she is?
Here too people belonging to a particular religion behave like that.
She is too rude.1 person likes this
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Apr 13
hi Professor she is in her thirties and vertg pretty an she and her roommate are going to beaytt college. The day before she with her roommate did hold the door open so I could catch the elevator but later she was alone and let me get my walker on the threshold and stood there and let the door close on my walker so I had to jerk it out of the way. She is very pretty but I think she is also very stuck on herself. to me pretty is as pretty does.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Apr 13
hi professor right that is it is it not whats in our hearts is really whether or not we are;really pretty.I had a fri end once who was very plain but oh so good and so wonderful and I really thought she was pretty because it was so nice to visit with her yet others said she was plain,. I cou lkd not buy that as to me she shone with beauty.
@BannedHelsing (693)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
Now I wonder how people feel when I deliberately press the close button when they are running for the elevator. Naughty, naughty me.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Apr 13
Banned Helsing It wuld have been digfgerent if I had been rrunning but I was starting to push my walkjer across the threshold of the elector when she let the door go closed on me making me jerk back my walker.She let it close in my f ace.It really would not hurt anyone to share an elevator for heavens sakes.
to share an elevator for heavens sakes.@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
hi she got hers to day as she was running for the elevator and I did not hold it so it shut in her face.she looked a tad upset.Hope she now knows how I felt.
for the elevator and I did not hold it so it shut in her face.she looked a tad upset.Hope she now knows how I felt.@BannedHelsing (693)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Oh, that one I will never do to an old lady. Very bad individual.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Apr 13
what makes p eople so uncaring any more? I see it so often in
young and old anf in between people. sad in deed.
. sad in deed.@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Apr 13
hi Deepak if I had been off aways erunning to catch the elevator I could have understood.But she could see I was pushing my walker over the threshold when the door came flying at me making me have to jerk it back in time before the door hit it.Sopshe was just not caring and very rude indeed.
de indeed.