Date in the dark

@Porcospino (25861)
Denmark
April 18, 2013 3:40pm CST
I bought some second hand magazines today and in one of those magazines there is an article about unusual ways to arrange a date. One of the suggestions is a date in the dark. The date takes places in the evening when it is dark outside. You close the curtains and turn off the lights in the room. One girl and her partner had tried that kind of date and in the article she described her experience. They chose a dish that was relatively easier to eat in the dark. She said that she was really able to appreciate the taste of the food because she only used her sense of taste. Aside from that she didn't like the experience much and she said that she didn't find it very romantic since she wasn't able to see her date and they weren't able to maintain eye contact during the dinner. What do you think about the idea of a date in the dark? Would you be willing to try it or would you prefer an ordinary date where you can see eachother? Why?
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@ladygator (3468)
• United States
18 Apr 13
I dont think I would like to try this. I think that when you first meet someone then eye-contact is very important. It seems like the couple would be hiding something if you cant see them. Now after being married to my hubs a date in the dark is fun for us. :)
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@Porcospino (25861)
• Denmark
18 Apr 13
I also think that there is a difference between people who meet for the first time and people who are already a couple. When we meet someone for the first time eye contact is usually a part of the meeting and we are able to see the body language as well. If you meet in the dark you are only able to hear the person's voice so that would be a very different experience. I don't think that would be comfortable in that situation if I met a stranger, but could be an interesting experiment to try that kind of date with my husband.
@mariaperalta (19089)
• Mexico
19 Apr 13
Not for me. Id be scared. I wont try a date like this. have a great day there.
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@Porcospino (25861)
• Denmark
20 Apr 13
I think that I could do it if I already knew the other person, but I don't like the idea of meeting a stranger that way. That would make me nervous I think, because I wouldn't know if I could trust him or not.
• Mexico
20 Apr 13
Yes, If I knew them I could. But not on a first date. Have a great weekend there.
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@Porcospino (25861)
• Denmark
20 Apr 13
I also wish you a nice weekend It looks like we are going a nice and sunny weekend in my country. I am happy that the snow has disappeared.
@Aja103654 (5654)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
It would be interesting to try but I wouldn't always do it. It is only for fun. A date in the dark, I imagined, does not involve eating dinner though hahaha! There are fun ways to spend time in the dark with our partner I think. One that involves the other senses other than the eyes.
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• Philippines
19 Apr 13
yeah, I agree. But I wonder why people who joined dating in the dark suddenly turn down their partners after seeing each other's looks...
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@Porcospino (25861)
• Denmark
19 Apr 13
Yes, there are lots of other ways to spend time in the dark I think that it would be a different experiece to eat dinner in the dark. I have never tried it, but I think it would be hard to find the food in the dark. It sounds like some of the those restaurants where you eat your dinner in a dark room. I don't know anyone who has visited one of those restaurants. It could be interesting to hear about their experience in the restaurant and their date if they chose to arrange a date in the dark...
@Aja103654 (5654)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
Well, dating in the dark would give those not so good looking dates a chance. I think the date encourages people to not be swayed by physical looks in choosing partners. Haha, when dating in the dark, one should not eat fish! People are gonna choke on the bones! That's dangerous! Also, the date can be a pervert who'd take advantage of you in the dark. It's best to be prepared when going for those kind of dates and having back up if things go bad is a good move. I would only do it with someone I know or my boyfriend or my husband. It takes trust to pull off something like this without feeling uncomfortable.
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@rog0322 (2832)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
19 Apr 13
Hi, It would be creepy to be with someone you meet for the first time being in the dark unless I have night vision capability. I would get the edge over the other person and I can eat properly being able to see what is on the table. Even if I like darkness very much, I would not do such thing there.
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@Porcospino (25861)
• Denmark
22 Apr 13
The wowan from the article I read said that she thought that a date in the dark would be a good idea for the first date, but I don't think that I would like to try it on the first date. I think that it would be scary to meet someone that way for the first time and I would feel very vulnerable because I wouldn't know the other person's intentions and I wouldn't know if I could trust the person or not. I prefer an ordinary date where we are able to see eachother if we have never met before. When we already know eachother I wouldn't be afraid to experiment with other kinds of dates.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
19 Apr 13
No doubt it is an unusual idea of dating. Darkness is a romantic atmosphere. But eye contact is necessary for love affair.
@Porcospino (25861)
• Denmark
20 Apr 13
The girl from the article that I read tested the idea of a date in the dark, and the lack of eye contact was one of the things that she didn't like about that kind of date. She didn't find it very romantic. I have never tried it, but it must be an unusual experience.
@maximax8 (29129)
• United Kingdom
19 Apr 13
I like to be in a lit room otherwise I might have an accident and fall over. I fell down a drain one dark evening in Malaysia. I thought that I was stepping out into the street however I fell down the hole and badly hurt my leg. I would hate to eat a meal in darkness. I might knock my drink over or spill food down my clothing. I wouldn't like not being able to see the man that I was dating. Yes, eye contact between romantic partners is lovely. The only things you would get would be words and tone of voice. I would prefer an ordinary date. Then I would get the delight of seeing the man that I was dating. I would be able to see what was going on. In a restaurant in the pitch dark someone might get a purse or a wallet stolen. In a very private location the man might get too excited. It would be a safer meeting in daylight all round I think my friend.
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@Porcospino (25861)
• Denmark
20 Apr 13
That is also one of the things that I thought about when I heard about that kind of date - it would be easy to spill food on the clothes, and you would have to be careful with the glass. I have never tried it, but I imagine that it would be a challenge to eat a meal in the dark. In dark room eye contact would be impossible and we would also be unable to see the body language. We would have to base our impression on the voice and the tone of the voice. Here on Mylot I once read about a tv show where 3 men and 3 women have to meet in the dark. They are unable to see eachother so they have to base their impression on other things like the tone of the voice. I don't think that I would participate in that kind of tv show, but I am sure that it was a different experience for the people who participated. Yes, in a dark restaurant we might get our wallet stolen. I would worry about that if I had to eat in a dark restaurant I think that I put the cash that I needed for the meal in my pocket and leave my bag at home. I would also feel uncomfortable eaintg food that I couldn't see.
• United States
19 Apr 13
It sounds a little creepy because I don't really like complete darkness but I think it would be interesting to try. It would be a new experience and I like new experiences. It could even be a little romantic once you get used to the darkness factor. I've sat outside in the dark plenty of times but never really thought about it indoors except when a storm knocked my power out and that was unexpected.
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@Porcospino (25861)
• Denmark
20 Apr 13
Yes, it would definately be a new experience. When most people go on a date they can see eachother. Yhey are able to maintain eye contact and they see the other person's body language. When you date someone in a dark room you don't have the chance to look at their body language and you have to focus on their voice and thar makes the situation unusual. I think that it could be an interesting experiment, but I would only do if I already knew the person. I don't like the idea of meeting a stranger in the dark, I think that would be to risky because I wouldn't know if I could trust the person or not and I would find it hard to relax in that situation.
@youless (98212)
• Guangzhou, China
19 Apr 13
I think I don't like to have the first date in the dark since I feel insecurity in such an environment. I don't know much more of the man who I date with. What if he is a bad guy? It is OK to have the date in the dark after we get to know more each other. Then I will feel relaxed to it.
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@Porcospino (25861)
• Denmark
19 Apr 13
I also think that there is a difference between a situation where you date someone you have just met and a situation where you already know and trust eachother. I don't think that I would feel comfortable if I had to meet a stranger for the first time in a totally dark room It would be hard to know if I could trust the person or not. I don't want to meet a man who stabs me with a knife or something like that and I don't think that I would be able to relax in that situation. The girl in the article I read actually said that she thought that it be a idea for a first date, but it would quite risky.
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
How can you eat if you can't see? I think it's too messy to consider as a date.
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@Porcospino (25861)
• Denmark
19 Apr 13
I have never tried it bur I imagine that ir would be a challenge to eat in the dark. When you can't see what you are eating some of the food might end on the floor or on your clothes so it would probably be a good idea to wear old clothes and cover the floor before you start
@SinfulFox (135)
• United States
19 Apr 13
I don't think I would feel comfortable doing something like that with a guy unless we've been in a relationship for a decent amount of time. I definitely wouldn't do something like this on a first date, but if I've been dating a guy for like six months or so, it might be something fun to try and shake things up a bit! I don't know if it's just me, but I actually feel awkward with too much eye contact, especially if I'm eating. I will suddenly feel self-conscious and maybe even insecure if I lock eyes with someone for too long... so the eye contact thing wouldn't bug me at all. And then if I drop food on myself, I'd feel better if he couldn't see that, haha! I wouldn't want it pitch black, though. Maybe some dim lighting, like a candle or two. But for me, the biggest factor would again be the amount of trust I have in the guy. I don't want him to be some kind of psycho who whips out a knife or something the moment the lights go out!
@Porcospino (25861)
• Denmark
19 Apr 13
I also think that trust is very important in that situation. If the person is a complete stranger we don't know for sure if we can trust the person or not, and the idea of a psycho with a knife also crossed my mind when I read about that kind of date. Of course the guy could be completely harmless, but I would still feel uncomfortable and vulnerable in the dark if my date was a stranger. If we are already a couple the situation would be different and I think that it could be ano interesting experiment. I don'r know if my husband would like the idea, but if he is willing to give it a try it could be fun to try it one day.
@Deepak2J (1176)
• Bhubaneswar, India
19 Apr 13
Totally a bad idea of dating. I would never like this
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@cylle_06 (233)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
hahhaa...for those who haven't tried, it may be thrilling at first. not seeing your date's face, maybe bumping on furnitures, eating something that's not supposed to be food. you can meet a lot of accidents. at the same time, it is exciting and could be really fun. well it depends on how you both carry the situation..hahaha... i recommend in for the thrill seekers.. :)
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@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
19 Apr 13
I would like a date under moonlight or under stars in open sky. Where atleast i could see my date. In dark who knows whose sitting infront of you and what he or she is doing. In moonlight it would be more romantic and cool. Happy mylotting.
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• India
19 Apr 13
I didn't really like the idea. I wouldn't prefer dating in the dark. During a date the experience is cherished but what do we cherish in a date like that. I think it's rather absurd.
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